Am I A Good Girlfriend?

 

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, Mythology


Marty McConnell The Bridges

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, Eleanor & Park

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, Looking for Alaska

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, New Order

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

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  • Question of

    When your guy wants to go hang out with his friends, how do you feel?

    • I don’t mind. I trust him
    • I think, ‘OMG! I can’t believe he’s hanging out with his friends when he could be hanging out with me!’
    • I tell him I will be there to check on him
    • I call him every 10 minutes to check up on him
    • I’m scared he will do something bad, although he never gave me a reason to think he would
  • Question of

    You and your guy are hanging out. You want to go to the movies and he wants to go to a party. How do you handle this?

    • I agree to go to the party for a little while and see if I have a good time
    • I whine until he agrees to go to the movies
    • I yell at him and tell him that I wanted it to just be him and me tonight
  • Question of

    When he’s upset, do you comfort him?

    • Always
    • Sometimes
    • No
    • I tell him to quit acting like a girl
  • Question of

    Have you ever cheated on him?

    • No, and I never would
    • Yes
    • Once, but it was a mistake
    • All the time
    • I’m not married. I can do what I want
  • Question of

    Your boyfriend told you he would be at your house to pick you up at 3 but doesn’t show up until 5. What do you do?

    • I tell him it’s OK, but to be on time next time
    • I cuss him out and tell him to leave
    • I act mad all night
    • We fight about it
  • Question of

    You’re feeling lazy today. He needs help cleaning out his car and asks you to help him. What do you do?

    • I help him. I’ll do anything for him
    • I tell him I will be out in a minute but never come out
    • I tell him he can do it himself. It’s his car
    • I say I have to do something else
  • Question of

    Do you get mad when he wants to do something without you?

    • No. I understand he needs to hang out with his friends sometimes
    • I instantly get mad. I want to go everywhere he does
    • I tell him to go, but I’m really mad
  • Question of

    He’s hungry. He wants you to cook him something. Do you?

    • Of course!
    • No, he knows how to work a stove
    • Sometimes. It depends on the mood I’m in
  • Question of

    Do you compliment him and make him feel good about himself?

    • All the time
    • Sometimes
    • Just when I think he looks extra good
    • Not really
  • Question of

    On a scale of one to 10 (1 being the lowest) how much do you care about him?

    • 10
    • 5-9
    • 2-4
    • 1
  • Question of

    Would you trust them with the password to your phone?

    • I expect them to have it memorized.
    • Sure, if we’ve been together for a while.
    • Not under any circumstances.
    • If they are trustworthy.
  • Question of

    Did you hesitate to agree to be exclusive?

    • No! We must merge like one person in two bodies.
    • Of course, what else is the point of being in a relationship?
    • Yes, I think maybe I could do better.
    • No, because that isn’t in line with my values.
  • Question of

    Who initiates most of your calls?

    • I do! I call exactly 47 times a day.
    • We both do out parts.
    • My partner does, always.
    • It depends on what’s going on in our lives at the time.
  • Question of

    If you were going away for a while, would you let them stay in your place?

    • I would demand that they do!
    • Sure, if they keep it clean.
    • No way.
    • Only if they learn to cook.
  • Question of

    Have you ever made each other laugh without even speaking, perhaps just by looking at each other intently or doing silly faces?

    • My partner makes me laugh like that, and they politely pretend I do!
    • We do, frequently.
    • Rarely.
    • A lot of the time.
  • Question of

    How often can you order for them in a restaurant and be sure you will pick something they’ll like?

    • Not all the time, but I always try.
    • Most of the time.
    • Not often.
    • Almost all the time, though they sometimes don’t realize they like it until they’ve tried it.
  • Question of

    How many nicknames do you have for them?

    • One, and it’s very sweet!
    • More than we can count, each for a special occasion.
    • None. Nicknames are silly.
    • A few, none of them are embarrassing.
  • Question of

    Do you often know what they are thinking without them telling you?

    • I always think I do, but I don’t always know.
    • I usually know.
    • I neither know nor care.
    • I can often sort it out, and I try to be helpful.
  • Question of

    If they asked you for the truth about whether they had gained weight, and they had, would you give it?

    • I should hope so!
    • If there is trust, I would expect it.
    • No, and I probably wouldn’t bother asking.
    • Maybe, maybe not. Either way, if they want to lose weight, I’ll be supportive.
  • Question of

    What’s the longest you can go without speaking?

    • Twenty six minutes.
    • Sixteen hours or so.
    • Weeks.
    • A day or so.

Am I A Good Girlfriend?

Are you a good girlfriend?