Am I A Good Girlfriend?


“When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.”
Jess C. Scott,

“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”
Lisa Kleypas,

“Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.”
J.K. Rowling,

“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”
Haruki Murakami,

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
Carl Gustav Jung

“A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other…Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever”
Dave Matthews Band

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
C. JoyBell C.

“For the two of us, home isn’t a place. It is a person. And we are finally home.”
Stephanie Perkins,

“Man may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it.”
Candace Bushnell,

“It hurts to let go. Sometimes it seems the harder you try to hold on to something or someone the more it wants to get away. You feel like some kind of criminal for having felt, for having wanted. For having wanted to be wanted. It confuses you, because you think that your feelings were wrong and it makes you feel so small because it’s so hard to keep it inside when you let it out and it doesn’t coma back. You’re left so alone that you can’t explain. Damn, there’s nothing like that, is there? I’ve been there and you have too. You’re nodding your head.”
Henry Rollins,

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: it’s got to be the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
Andrew Boyd,

“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships – the ones that last – are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.”
Gillian Anderson

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
Ernest Hemingway,

“I mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?”
Nicholas Sparks,

“Why is it,” he said, one time, at the subway entrance, “I feel I’ve known you so many years?”
Ray Bradbury,

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”
Donald Miller,

“Every man I meet wants to protect me. I can’t figure out what from.”
Mae West

“There is greatness in doing something you hate for the sake of someone you love.”
Shmuley Boteach

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    This hardcore badass has moved to town, and your boyfriend is hanging out with him regularly. You know for a fact this guy is into coke and ecstasy. You:

    • Ask my boyfriend if I can come along the next time he hangs out with this guy. This way, I can keep an eye on what’s going on
    • Ask my boyfriend about this guy, and let him know I trust him and respect his decisions
    • Tell him he’s a crackhead just like his friend and that he’s going nowhere in life
  • Question of

    Your boyfriend asks you what you like about him. You:

    • Tell him the truth – that he’s kind and loving, and that I couldn’t picture myself with anyone else
    • Tell him to shut up and stop being such a woman
    • Avoid the question by changing the topic
  • Question of

    Would you trust them with the password to your phone?

    • I expect them to have it memorized.
    • Sure, if we’ve been together for a while.
    • Not under any circumstances.
    • If they are trustworthy.
  • Question of

    Did you hesitate to agree to be exclusive?

    • No! We must merge like one person in two bodies.
    • Of course, what else is the point of being in a relationship?
    • Yes, I think maybe I could do better.
    • No, because that isn’t in line with my values.
  • Question of

    Who initiates most of your calls?

    • I do! I call exactly 47 times a day.
    • We both do out parts.
    • My partner does, always.
    • It depends on what’s going on in our lives at the time.
  • Question of

    If you were going away for a while, would you let them stay in your place?

    • I would demand that they do!
    • Sure, if they keep it clean.
    • No way.
    • Only if they learn to cook.
  • Question of

    Have you ever made each other laugh without even speaking, perhaps just by looking at each other intently or doing silly faces?

    • My partner makes me laugh like that, and they politely pretend I do!
    • We do, frequently.
    • Rarely.
    • A lot of the time.
  • Question of

    How often can you order for them in a restaurant and be sure you will pick something they’ll like?

    • Not all the time, but I always try.
    • Most of the time.
    • Not often.
    • Almost all the time, though they sometimes don’t realize they like it until they’ve tried it.
  • Question of

    How many nicknames do you have for them?

    • One, and it’s very sweet!
    • More than we can count, each for a special occasion.
    • None. Nicknames are silly.
    • A few, none of them are embarrassing.
  • Question of

    Do you often know what they are thinking without them telling you?

    • I always think I do, but I don’t always know.
    • I usually know.
    • I neither know nor care.
    • I can often sort it out, and I try to be helpful.
  • Question of

    If they asked you for the truth about whether they had gained weight, and they had, would you give it?

    • I should hope so!
    • If there is trust, I would expect it.
    • No, and I probably wouldn’t bother asking.
    • Maybe, maybe not. Either way, if they want to lose weight, I’ll be supportive.
  • Question of

    What’s the longest you can go without speaking?

    • Twenty six minutes.
    • Sixteen hours or so.
    • Weeks.
    • A day or so.
  • Question of

    How often do you tell your boyfriend you love him when wrapping up your phone conversations?

    • Every time
    • Never
    • When I remember
  • Question of

    Your boyfriend asks if you would mind if he hangs out with his boys on Friday night, if he promises he will be all yours on Saturday night. You:

    • Tell him that’s cool, as long as he keeps his promise
    • Totally freak out, and make him choose between me and his boys
    • Ask if I can come along
  • Question of

    You and your boyfriend are going to the movies. He has been dying to see this Napoleon Dynamite movie that looks super-dumb. You:

    • Tell him it’s always the girl’s choice – and to remember that!
    • Tell him it looks stupid and I refuse to see it
    • Tell him I’ll see it with him as long as he promises I get to choose next time
  • Question of

    You and your boyfriend go to this hot party being held by a popular guy at school. When you get there, you:

    • Don’t leave his side the whole time…he’s a man, so one never knows what he might do
    • Go do Jell-O shooters with my girls and forget about him
    • Generally stick by my man’s side, but wander off and mingle just a little bit
  • Question of

    Your boyfriend has been distant lately, and you suspect he is having doubts about your relationship. You:

    • Ask him about it, but don’t pry – he will tell me when he is ready
    • Break up with him first, before he even gets the chance…I WIN!
    • Freak out on him. Tell him that breaking up with me would be the worst decision of his life
  • Question of

    Your boyfriend’s friends are so obnoxious sometimes, and they intentionally try to piss you off. You:

    • Don’t give them the satisfaction of getting a reaction out of me
    • Tell my boyfriend he can’t hang out with those assholes anymore
    • Tell them they are a bunch of faggots and storm out of the room
  • Question of

    Your best friend is throwing the hottest party of the year! You:

    • Ask my boyfriend if he wants to go. If he says no, stay home and have our own little party together
    • Go and have fun…get super-drunk and let loose – I deserve it!
    • Don’t tell him about it, and hope he doesn’t hear about me going without him at school on Monday
  • Question of

    Your boyfriend’s parents are going through a rough divorce. He comes to your house in tears almost every other night. You:

    • Tell him to stop being such a crybaby, and remind him that he is supposed to be the man in the relationship
    • Tell him his mom shouldn’t have slept with his uncle or none of this would’ve happened
    • Comfort him and tell him everything will be OK. He would do the same for me

Single and Ready to Mingle or Tied Down Forever?

Am I A Good Girlfriend?