Am I ready to date?

 

“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

“I was suffering the easily foreseeable consequences. Addiction is the hallmark of every infatuation-based love story. It all begins when the object of your adoration bestows upon you a heady, hallucinogenic dose of something you never dared to admit you wanted-an emotional speedball, perhaps, of thunderous love and roiling excitement. Soon you start craving that intense attention, with a hungry obsession of any junkie. When the drug is witheld, you promptly turn sick, crazy, and depleted (not to mention resentful of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place but now refuses to pony up the good stuff anymore– despite the fact that you know he has it hidden somewhere, goddamn it, because he used to give it to you for free). Next stage finds you skinny and shaking in a corner, certain only that you would sell your soul or rob your neighbors just to have ‘that thing’ even one more time. Meanwhile, the object of your adoration has now become repulsed by you. He looks at you like you’re someone he’s never met before, much less someone he once loved with high passion. The irony is,you can hardly blame him. I mean, check yourself out. You’re a pathetic mess,unrecognizable even to your own eyes. So that’s it. You have now reached infatuation’s final destination– the complete and merciless devaluation of self.” – pg 20-21”
Elizabeth Gilbert Sputnik Sweetheart

“Of course it hurt that we could never love each other in a physical way. We would have been far more happy if we had. But that was like the tides, the change of seasons–something immutable, an immovable destiny we could never alter. No matter how cleverly we might shelter it, our delicate friendship wasn’t going to last forever. We were bound to reach a dead end. That was painfully clear.”
Haruki Murakami, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

“I think you are wrong to want a heart. It makes most people unhappy. If you only knew it, you are in luck not to have a heart.”
L. Frank Baum, The Wise Man’s Fear

“nothing in this world was more difficult than love.”
Gabriel García Márquez The Goddess Test

“Books are a poor substitute for female companionship, but they are easier to find.”
Patrick Rothfuss, I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence

“I care,” he said in a trembling voice. “I care so much that I do not know how to tell you without it seeming inconsequential compared to how I feel. Even if I am distant at times and seem as if I do not want to be with you, it is only because this scares me, too.”
Aimee Carter, The Indigo Spell

“Don’t leave a piece of jewelry at his house so you can go back and get it later; he may be with his real girlfriend.”
Amy Sedaris, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

“Because I can’t help doing it,” he said with a shrug. “And hey, if I keep loving you, maybe you’ll eventually crack and love me too. Hell, I’m pretty sure you’re already half in love with me.”
Richelle Mead, Rules of Attraction

“All I’m telling you to do is to be smart about it. Know that if this man isn’t looking for a serious relationship, you’re not going to change his mind just because you two are going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord’s green earth-you’re capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you’re independent (which means, to him, that you’re not going to be in his pockets)-but if he’s not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish.”
Steve Harvey, Emma

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
Shannon L. Alder Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“We kiss all the time.” I clear my throat, then add, “We just…do it in private.”
Simone Elkeles, I Wrote This For You

“Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure; seldom can it happen that something is not a little disguised or a little mistaken.”
Jane Austen, Max

“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.”
Steve Maraboli, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“You’re just another story I can’t tell anymore.”
pleasefindthis, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“He could totally be your boyfriend,” [Angel] went on with annoying persistance. “You guys could get married. I could be like a junior bridesmaid. Total could be your flower dog.”
James Patterson, Breaking Bread: Insurgent Black Intellectual Life

“Moving on is easy. It’s staying moved on that’s trickier.”
Katerina Stoykova Klemer The English Patient

“A fit, healthy body—that is the best fashion statement”
Jess C Scott Letters to a Young Poet

“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.”
Mandy Hale, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.”
Steve Maraboli, Wicked Lovely

“There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.”
Shannon L. Alder All About Love: New Visions

“We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.”
Cornel West, Warbreaker

“We die containing a richness of lovers and tribes, tastes we have swallowed, bodies we have plunged into and swum up as if rivers of wisdom, characters we have climbed into as if trees, fears we have hidden in as if caves.
Michael Ondaatje, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“only someone who is ready for everything, who doesn’t exclude any experience, even the most incomprehensible, will live the relationship with another person as something alive and will himself sound the depths of his own being.”
Rainer Maria Rilke, Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Why do you want to start dating?

    • For the attention. . . Duh
    • Because my friends told me to
    • There’s this guy that I really would like to get to know better
    • Everyone else is in a relationship and I don’t want to be left out
  • Question of

    Do you have a crush on anyone?

    • Yes, but he doesn’t know I exist
    • No-ones up to my standards
    • I have a small crush on the popular guy
    • Yeah I really like this guy. . .
  • Question of

    Do you have any guy friends?

    • Not really
    • No, I just hang with my squad
    • Ew gross
    • I play with the boys sometimes
  • Question of

    Are you nervous around boys?

    • Sometimes
    • All the boys are nervous around me
    • Not at all, we talk all the time
    • Definitely
  • Question of

    How old are you?

    • 9-11
    • -8
    • 12-13
    • 14+
  • Question of

    Do you think you’re pretty?

    • I think I’m perfect just the way I am
    • I’m so much better looking than all my friends
    • I’m not the prettiest
    • I’m pretty confidant with how I look
  • Question of

    What age is the boy you want to date?

    • 2+ years older
    • 1 year younger
    • Same age
    • 1 year older
  • Question of

    When was your first crush?

    • When I was 4-5
    • When I was 10-13+
    • When I was 6-7
    • When I was 8-9
  • Question of

    Have you ever kissed a boy outside your family?

    • Once or twice
    • No, never
    • All the time
    • Once when I was younger
  • Question of

    Who would you tell if you were in a relationship?

    • Everyone
    • Some close friends and my parents
    • A couple of people
    • No, one
  • Question of

    What’s your dream date?

    • 5 star restaurant
    • A little cafe
    • Picnic
    • Movie
  • Question of

    Do you think you’re ready to date?

    • Maybe not quite
    • Not yet
    • I think I’m mature enough
    • I was born ready
  • Question of

    What’s your ideal first date?

    • Coffee or some other setting where we can get to know one another.
    • Something special that they planned with me in mind.
    • Hot air balloons. And concerts. Maybe a road trip.
    • Classic dinner and a movie are fine.
  • Question of

    What would you say is your best quality?

    • I’m a great relationship-builder.
    • I care deeply about others.
    • I’m excited about life.
    • I’m logical and great at planning.
  • Question of

    Which trait is most important to you in a partner?

    • Willingness to put in effort
    • Thoughtfulness
    • A sense of adventure
    • Rational decision-making
  • Question of

    It’s time to meet your partner’s family for the first time. How are you feeling?

    • I’m nervous; it’s important to me that we have a good relationship.
    • I’m okay; I’d do anything for my partner.
    • I’m good! I love meeting new people.
    • I’m okay. We’ve been planning this for a while so I could brace myself.
  • Question of

    Which physical aspect is most attractive to you in a partner?

    • Arms
    • Eyes
    • Smile
    • Shoulders
  • Question of

    How do you want to spend your first anniversary with your partner?

    • Going back and repeating our first date
    • It doesn’t matter, as long as they’ve planned something thoughtful.
    • On a new, crazy adventure!
    • A quiet, classic celebration together is fine.
  • Question of

    How do you feel about marriage?

    • Great, as long as we have a great connection.
    • Good, as long as the people in our lives approve.
    • It depends on the day.
    • If we’d been together for a long time and weighed our options, I’d be open to it.
  • Question of

    Your partner brings home a small surprise at the end of the day; you love it. What’s the surprise?

    • Flowers
    • Wine
    • A dog
    • Chocolates

Are you ready to start dating?

Am I ready to start dating?