Am I The Jealous Type? (In Relationships)

 

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges


Marty McConnell Mythology

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, Eleanor & Park

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens Looking for Alaska

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, New Order

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

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  • Question of

    If your boyfriend/girlfriend took a selfie with another girl/boy and you saw it, you would:

    • Yell at him or her and stay mad for days
    • Frown at the picture and ask him/her about it
    • Get a little upset, but keep it to myself
    • Not worry about it – there’s nothing wrong with taking pictures!
  • Question of

    If a random girl/boy came up to your partner and told him or her that their friend thinks they’re cute, you would:

    • Say, ‘Oh, really? Yeah, I think my boyfriend/girlfriend is cute, too!’
    • Frown at the person who thinks my partner is cute and grab my partner’s hand
    • Get a little mad at how shameless this person is, but ignore him or her
    • Not worry about it – girls/boys hitting on my partner is totally normal!
    • Approach the random girl’s/boy’s friend and tell him or her not to mess with my partner
  • Question of

    You notice your partner staring at another girl/boy for a little too long. You immediately:

    • Scorn them and get mad for a couple of days
    • Not worry about it – my partner still loves me
    • Say, ‘Yeah, just keep staring like I’m not here!’
    • Get a little mad – but I look at other people, too, so….
    • Ask them about it and say, ‘You should ask them for their number already!’
  • Question of

    Say that you and your partner are walking. All of a sudden, a car honks at him or her. You would:

    • Get a little mad at the person for being so shameless
    • Yell, ‘Yeah, she’s/he’s hot, huh?’
    • Flick the hell out of the person and cuss them out
    • Ignore the car and keep walking with my partner
    • Yell, ‘Go f— yourself!’ at the person
  • Question of

    Your partner hasn’t talked to you in three days. You see him/her online on Facebook, but he/she isn’t messaging you. You immediately:

    • Thinks she’s/he’s messaging with another person
    • Decide not to message him/her because I want to keep my pride intact
    • Message him/her, saying, ‘Are we even in a relationship anymore?’
    • Message him/her and say, ‘What’s up, babe? Have you been messing around with someone else?’
    • I don’t do anything. My partner and I haven’t talked for much longer than that before
  • Question of

    Your partner is wearing really attention-grabbing attire lately. People from the opposite gender start noticing him/her more. You immediately:

    • Tell my partner to cover themselves and stop being a whore
    • Ignore those people – your partner looks decent and they are just jerks
    • Get a little mad about all the attention your partner is getting, but keep it to myself
    • Do nothing. My partner loves the attention, after all!
    • Give my partner my sweater and tell them, ‘You must be cold’
  • Question of

    You see you partner talking to another girl/guy. You immediately:

    • Be nice to the person and become great friends because then I won’t worry at all!
    • Walk away because I don’t want to be in an awkward situation
    • Go up to the person and introduce myself as my partner’s girlfriend/boyfriend
    • Walk away – my partner is being a whore, and I want to end our relationship
    • Ask my partner about it later, but not really get worried about it
  • Question of

    You and your partner are at a party. Someone asks your partner if they want to dance. You immediately:

    • Tell my partner it’s all right, and to have fun – but not TOO much fun
    • Tell my partner it’s all right, but inside, I’m wanting to kill that person
    • Tell my partner it’s fine because I am confident
    • Tell my partner to stop being a whore, and that no, they may not dance with that person
    • Tell my partner they MAY NOT dance with that person!
  • Question of

    Your partner goes out to eat with his/her ‘homosexual’ friend (who’s the opposite gender of him or her). You immediately:

    • Yell at my partner, ‘Gay? Sure – that’s your f— buddy!’
    • Get a little mad because it sounds like a date, but keep it to myself
    • Tell my partner, ‘That person better not be straight!’
    • Tell my partner it’s OK – they are homosexual, so it doesn’t matter
    • I am confident in my partner and believe them when they tell me the person is homosexual
  • Question of

    Your partner is very attractive and self-confident. When she/he puts a somewhat provocative picture on Facebook and people start commenting shameless things, you immediately:

    • Tell him to remove it and to stop being a skank/manwhore
    • Get mad at all the attention my partner is getting and think to myself, ‘What a whore!’
    • Post a comment that says, ‘You sexy babe!’
    • Get a little mad because my partner deserves more respect
    • Talk to my partner about it and tell him/her to have more self-respect
  • Question of

    What is your age?

    • Under 18 Years Old
    • 18 to 24 Years Old
    • 25 to 30 Years Old
    • 31 to 40 Years Old
    • 41 to 50 Years Old
    • 51 to 60 Years Old
    • Over 60 Years Old
  • Question of

    What is your gender?

    • Male
    • Female
  • Question of

    Your boyfriend hasn’t talked to you all day…

    • Check up on him once or twice to see if he’s good
    • That’s fine, he was probably busy
    • Try to start a conversation with him, try to make it drag on for as long as I can! What could he possibly be doing where he doesn’t want to talk to me?
    • It means he doesn’t enjoy talking to me and that I’m annoying.. I better leave him be
    • I get nervous but I talk to a friend about it until he talks to me
    • I show up at his house. Angry.
  • Question of

    You find out that he was mostly busy today because he was hanging out with a friend

    • ‘a friend’? yeah no, that means he’s cheating.
    • Oh, good for him!
    • Oh.. I don’t want to ruin his day then.. I’ll leave him alone
    • I tell him I’m happy for him, but it makes me feel sad inside that he wouldn’t even check up on me
    • Call him and ask if I can tag along next time!!
  • Question of

    He begins to talk about this friend more and more often, beginning to text this friend while you two hang out?

    • I tell him that it makes me feel insecure, and that I’d appreciate it if when we hang out we could focus more on each other
    • I’m fine with it, I’ll talk about my friends too then
    • I get angry at him. Why would he talk about how great some one else is in front of me. Is he trying to break my heart?
    • I stop talking for the rest of the time we hang out, and I mostly just keep to myself
    • I let him text his friend while I rant about it to my friends…
    • I take his phone and look through it, then I put it down and on a counter so we can spend time together
  • Question of

    New Scenario: Your boyfriend seems distant.

    • It’s probably because he’s interested in someone else
    • Continue to text and call him to see what’s wrong.. if he doesn’t tell me, it means he doesn’t care
    • Show up at his house.
    • Call him and plan a date with him, maybe hang out for a bit and find out if he’s okay
    • ..be distant back
  • Question of

    How do you overcome your jealousy

    • I ignore it until it goes away
    • I tell my partner how I feel and maybe ask for some advice, take some time for myself to find the inner problem
    • I rely on my partner for attention so that I feel less jealous
    • I usually have to have a fight so that I can get everything off my mind
  • Question of

    Would you consider yourself jealous?

    • some say jealous, but I think I’m perfectly reasonable
    • Yes
    • No. I never get jealous, I just get more clingy.
    • No. I never get jealous, I just get more distant.
  • Question of

    Do you trust your boyfriend?

    • Mostly..
    • I trust him! I just don’t trust other girls!
    • I’m not sure.. he hasn’t really proven himself faithful
    • I think I do
    • Yup, I do!
    • No..
  • Question of

    If your boyfriend treated you the same you treated him, would you be happy?

    • I’d be even happier than I am now!
    • He does, and it’s great!
    • Oh… probably not
    • Well I don’t go around ignoring him and hanging with sleezy people so..
    • No..

Do you have a dirty mind?

Love or just sex?