Are We Going To End Up Together?


“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges

Marty McConnell Mythology

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, Eleanor & Park

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens Looking for Alaska

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, New Order

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How often do you see each other?

    • Never (unfortunately)
    • Not too much, but sometimes
    • We’re family friends – whenever our families get together, we see each other
    • When we have time, but I’d prefer to see him/her more
    • A lot of the time – we hang out whenever we can
  • Question of

    How does he act around you?

    • He’s really outgoing, and flirts with me a lot
    • I don’t know – the way he does around everyone else, I guess
    • He goes all shy and doesn’t say much
    • He looks me in the eye and really seems to understand me
    • He seems really awkward and just looks down
  • Question of

    Do you make contact often?

    • Maybe once a week or so
    • Every day, if we’re not already with each other
    • No, not at all. He doesn’t bother with me and vice-versa
    • A little, but not often
    • He doesn’t have my number, but we’re quite close face-to-face
  • Question of

    Does he act differently when he’s out with his friends?

    • Yeah, he just ignores me
    • No, but he always looks at me and we laugh
    • He treats me really nicely in every situation
  • Question of

    Does he hang out with loads of other girls?

    • Yes
    • Yeah, but he’s not really into any of them – they’re just friends
    • Never
    • No – well, I hope not
    • Yes! He always tells me how pretty they are
  • Question of

    Is he dating anyone?

    • Yeah, he has been for months/years now
    • No
    • Yeah, they just got together
    • Not now, but he recently had a girlfriend
    • No, he never really goes out with anyone
  • Question of

    Does he go all quiet around you and look at the floor weirdly?

    • Sometimes, when another girl walks past
    • No, never
    • No, he just acts normal
    • Yeah, it really freaks me out
    • Occasionally
  • Question of

    How long have you known each other?

    • A few years now
    • A couple of months
    • Longer than I can remember!
    • A year or so
    • A few weeks
  • Question of

    How long have you liked him?

    • A couple of days
    • Since we first met
    • Two years+
    • A few weeks
    • A few months
  • Question of

    Does he always cross your mind?

    • No, I have better things to think about
    • YES, ALWAYS! I can’t stop thinking about him
    • Quite a lot
    • I like him, but he never really crosses my mind
    • Occasionally, like if I see a photo of him, or I’m bored

Which Phase Is Our Relationship In?

Who’s Dominant In Our Relationship?