Are We Made For Each Other? (Girls Only)


“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges

Marty McConnell Mythology

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, Eleanor & Park

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens Looking for Alaska

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, New Order

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How does he act with his friends when he’s around you?

    • Pretty normally, but he might steal a glance at me once in awhile
    • No different
    • His friends are my friends, but they’re always commenting on how cute we’d be as a couple
    • I don’t know
    • When they see me, they start making fun of him, or grinning at me. He blushes
  • Question of

    He sees you across the hall – what does he do?

    • I don’t know…probably just keep walking
    • Says hi, and comes to talk with me for a bit if he has time
    • We’re never across from each other – we’re always right next to each other. But he would probably rush over and start talking
    • He probably wouldn’t even see me
    • Maybe smiles in my direction
  • Question of

    On his way to sit down, he sees you sitting with your girlfriends. There’s another table where his guy friends are sitting. What does he do?

    • He wouldn’t see me, and I don’t have friends
    • We’re always at the same table with all our friends, and they always make sure we sit next to each other
    • Maybe he’d look wistfully at my table before going to his
    • Nothing
    • Go sit down, and then invite me (only me) to come sit with him
  • Question of

    You catch him looking at you. What does he do?

    • He never looks at me
    • He smiles, then turns away
    • We’re always sitting next to each other, and we’re always staring at each other. He might smile and wink
    • Not much really, maybe smiles a bit
    • Turns his head away really fast, and pretends I didn’t see
  • Question of

    He sees you talking to another guy. What does he do?

    • I never talk to other guys – I’m totally faithful
    • He comes up and starts saying bad things about the guy
    • Looks at the guy, then gives me a cute ‘skeptical’ look
    • Not much – maybe looks in the guy’s direction
    • Who would I be talking to?
  • Question of

    He sees someone teasing you. What does he do?

    • Gives them an evil glare
    • No one teases me, because they know if they do, he’ll hunt them down and kill them
    • Comes to my side and starts yelling back insults
    • Nothing – everyone teases me
    • Nothing
  • Question of

    Do you guys work together well?

    • Yes, we do
    • We never work together
    • Yeah, we can practically read each other’s minds
    • No, not really
    • Kind of, we’re good lab partners, but only in school
  • Question of

    Who usually starts the convo?

    • I don’t know, usually it’s me
    • It’s around 50/50
    • I do
    • There’s a convo the entire day, and we both start talking at once, and never stop
    • We don’t talk
  • Question of

    How do you friends feel about him?

    • Neutral – they think he’s cute, too
    • I don’t know, we don’t talk about him much
    • They’re mostly fine – a few of them don’t get along
    • We all sit together, and they are fine with him
  • Question of

    He needs help with something. What do you do?

    • Not much – I might pass him a note with the answer
    • I offer to help
    • He asks me, and only me, and I help him, or we try to figure it out together
    • I laugh and say I need help too, and go work with him
    • Nothing
  • Question of

    Does he have a girlfriend?

    • No, he’s a loner, except around me
    • No, but he did a little while ago
    • Yes, but he doesn’t like her anymore
    • No, not since he met me
    • Yeah, probably, but I don’t know for sure
  • Question of

    How often do you think of your crush?

    • Some, but not enough to drive me crazy
    • Not much, but I think he’s cute
    • A lot – OK, most of the time
    • Whenever I see him
    • All the time – I never stop
  • Question of

    How often do you and your crush speak?

    • We’re best friends, and we talk every second of the day
    • Only for academic reasons, but enough
    • Never – I don’t think he knows I exist
    • Not much – like, when he has to sit next to me in class
    • A lot – we’re pretty good friends
  • Question of

    Why do you like him?

    • For his personality
    • He’s cute
    • He’s smart
    • He’s charismatic/a ladies’ man
    • All of the other answers
  • Question of

    How do you feel around him?

    • I want to be in a secluded room with him and talk alone
    • All of the above
    • I want him to kiss me
    • I want him to talk to me
    • I have a funny feeling, like butterflies in my stomach
  • Question of

    Do you dress up for him, or think about him while putting on makeup?

    • No, not really
    • I don’t put on makeup, not even for him
    • Yes, I put on makeup for him
    • I think about him all the time! How could I not?
    • I dress according to his color preferences (if you know him well)
  • Question of

    Do you tell your friends about him?

    • What friends?
    • Sometimes, but I don’t say I like him
    • No, not really
    • Yes, often, and they think we’d be good together
    • All the time – my friends think I’m obsessed
  • Question of

    If you could get the courage to ask him out, how would you ask?

    • I don’t know, probably tell my friends, and then hope they would tell him
    • I couldn’t get up the courage, sorry
    • In person – I LOVE HIM!
    • By letter/email
    • By text
  • Question of

    How does he stand around you?

    • He looks straight into my eyes, even if we’re in a group
    • He puts his hands in his pockets, and slouches
    • He’s normal – he often looks my way, though
    • He puts and arm around my shoulder, and hugs me a lot
    • We don’t stand next to each other
  • Question of

    How does he treat you?

    • Not special or anything
    • Like a normal person – he’s always looking at me, though
    • UGH, he’s always teasing and poking me! It’s cute, but annoying!
    • Very nicely, with respect and kindness
    • We don’t talk or interact at all

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