Shaif Ahmad
There is a very thin line between being clingy and being caring or loving. Though these qualities are very subjectivity hence the intensity differs for different people. But despite of that it is necessary to make sure that we don’t end up being the clingy one in the relationship because its not the best thing out there. Therefore it becomes an absolute necessity to make sure that we do everything in our power to avoid that from happening. Here are a few signs that show whether you are clingy or not:
#1 Space in a relationship
The one thing everyone hates is intrusion of privacy and not getting any space in a relationship. No matter how much you believe in your hearts being one, at the end of the day you are two different human beings and need your space at all times. We need space and time to do our own thing and if our partner doesn’t do that we are more likely to call them clingy. So ask yourself do you practice what you preach? Do you give your partner the space they need for themselves? It is when we get space that we are able to unwind.
#2 You want to talk for hours and he doesn’t
You might be the chatterbox but perhaps your partner isn’t but they try their best. The problem is when they stop trying. If you have been talking for hours and hours about things and they aren’t talking at all its a big sign that your are on the ride of clingy factor. This is not the only sign, he might cut down on the duration of conversation, or make excuses to avoid listening at all. They might drop hints about not wanting to talk over phone, which you might wanna pick up. Avoid forcing them to have a conversation that will make things worse. No matter how embarrassing it might be for you try to make sure you don’t make your partner feel that way.
- Question of
True or false? If I’m not in a relationship, I’m nobody:
- True
- False
- Question of
I love trying to fix other people’s problems:
- False
- True
- Question of
I like to let my partner make the majority of the decisions:
- False
- True
- Question of
I tend to break off from the relationship once I start becoming ‘too close’ to someone:
- True
- False
- Question of
When I get married, I would make sure that I have a room all to myself:
- True
- False
- Question of
In general, it’s hard for me to let people get close to me:
- False
- True
- Question of
I worry that my partner cares less about me than I do about them:
- False
- True
- Question of
If my partner asked me to stop hanging with a certain friend, I would:
- True
- False
- Question of
How many times a week do you call your boyfriend or girlfriend?
- Millions of times a day – too many to count
- At least a few times a day
- Whenever I need to chat
- I usually wait for them to call me
- Question of
True or false: You know every single thing your other half has eaten today, with or without you. (Including the calorie intake).
- True
- False
- Question of
True or false: I snoop on their phone whenever I get the chance.
- True
- False
- Question of
Your boyfriend/girlfriend goes out with their friends. You:
- Surprise them by turning up where they are
- Call them up/text them every hour to see when they will be home
- Wait up for them in a mood until they get home
- Make plans with your family and friends and leave your boyfriend or girlfriend to have fun
- Question of
True or false: You love PDAs and force your lover into public kissing sessions whether they like it or not.
- True
- False
- Question of
True or false: You don’t like it when your partner spends more time with their friends than you.
- True
- False
- Question of
Do you think your man or woman should pay you more attention?
- Yes
- No
