Are You a Guy Magnet or Repellent?



Trying to compare intelligence and gender doesn’t typically yield much in the way of productive discussion, but sometimes research comes along that makes opening this particular can of worms worth it.


Decades of research show unequivocally that men and women are equal in general intelligence (IQ), but that isn’t the case when it comes to emotional intelligence (EQ). There are subtle, and not so subtle, differences in men’s and women’s expression and understanding of emotions that must be explored and understood.


Gender is a common place for people to assign labels around emotion. Such generalizations have pegged women as everything from the “fairer sex” to overly emotional, and men from emotionally aloof to explosive. You’ll find that none of these platitudes are true.

There’s an enormous amount of research suggesting that emotional intelligence (EQ) is critical to men’s and women’s performance at work. Emotional intelligence is responsible for 58% of performance in all types of jobs, and 90% of top performers are high in EQ.


“Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.” -Timothy Leary


TalentSmart has tested the emotional intelligence of more than a million people and it’s clear that women have the upper hand. While women’s overall EQ score is just a couple of points higher than men’s, this is a statistically significant difference that shows that women have greater skill in using emotions to their benefit.


It just doesn’t answer the pressing question: Why?

“To be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn’t mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person’s opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.”
― Jocelyn Soriano, Mend My Broken Heart

“You picked a lemon, throw it away lemonade is overrated. Freaks should remain at the circus, not in your apartment. You already have one asshole. You don’t need another. Make a space in your life for the glorious things you deserve. Have faith.”
― Greg Behrendt , He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, “What was it that you wanted and why didn’t you fight for it?”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Should you be looking for a guy or should guys be looking for you?

    • Why not both?
    • I kind of like guys looking for me.
    • I guess whatever works.
    • I prefer doing the looking if I feel the need to.
  • Question of

    Do you need a guy to be happy?

    • No, but it wouldn’t hurt.
    • Sometimes
    • Yes
    • Pfft
  • Question of

    How often are you chowing down on some garlic?

    • When the recipe calls for it, I suppose.
    • A normal amount?
    • I could eat it raw.
    • Are you asking if I stink? I brush regularly.
  • Question of

    Do you make an effort to get to know a guy’s family?

    • Of course!
    • I’m happy to meet them.
    • I’m awkward around families.
    • As much as I make an effort to know anyone
  • Question of

    If your guy is out for a while with friends, how long before you call him to see how he’s doing?

    • I can wait until he gets back.
    • Maybe if there’s an emergency or he’s out late
    • I’ll check in a few times.
    • If I know where he is and what he’s doing, why would I bother him?
  • Question of

    Are you more of an Xbox fan or a PlayStation fan?

    • Why not both?
    • Nintendo Switch
    • Not really a big gamer
    • I’m more into real life stuff. Or board games.
  • Question of

    Is there any chance you’d ever enter an eating competition?

    • Yeah, that could be fun.
    • If it was a kind of food I liked, maybe.
    • Gross
    • Only if I thought I had a chance at winning
  • Question of

    There are plenty of movie genres to choose from out there. What are you pulling up on Netflix?

    • Action
    • Comedy
    • Rom-Com
    • Documentary
  • Question of

    When a guy is telling you about a hobby of his, what are you doing?

    • Asking questions
    • Listening intently
    • Drifting off
    • Nodding
  • Question of

    Do you ever go out of your way to be a bit of a tease?

    • Always
    • I guess sometimes.
    • That’s childish.
    • Maybe?
  • Question of

    Are you willing to try out a guy’s hobbies even if you normally would have no interest in them?

    • Definitely. Never hurts to try new things.
    • As long as it’s not too weird
    • I’d rather not.
    • If I have to.
  • Question of

    Do you have more friends of the same sex or the opposite sex?

    • Opposite sex
    • I don’t have many friends.
    • Same sex
    • It’s about even.
  • Question of

    Are you going out of your way to make yourself look hot for no particular reason?

    • Never hurts to look your best
    • For no reason? Meh
    • Not really
    • If I look hot I look hot. I dunno.
  • Question of

    How’s your sense of humor?

    • I love to laugh.
    • I like a good comedy as much as anyone else.
    • I’m not sure what you mean.
    • Just dandy, thanks for asking.
  • Question of

    Do you feel like you have a lot of self-confidence?

    • I’m doing OK.
    • It’s not my strongest suit.
    • I’m amazing!
    • Tons!

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