Relationship Management
Relationship management is the pinnacle of emotional intelligence. It requires that you use self-awareness, self-management, and social awareness in concert to better your relationships as you interact with other people. You cannot hope to get the most out of your interactions with other people until you understand your emotions, cue in to their emotions, and use this knowledge to adjust your approach on the fly. Women have a slight edge in relationship management for reasons described in the social awareness section above.
The Advantage
Emotional intelligence presents a significant advantage for women in the workplace. Whether you’re a man or a woman, don’t just sit back hoping that you’re one of the high-EQ types. EQ is a flexible skill that you can improve with effort. To that end, here are a few things that you can do to improve your EQ today:
Limit Your Caffeine Intake
Drinking excessive amounts of caffeine triggers the release of adrenaline, and adrenaline is the source of the fight-or-flight response. The fight-or-flight mechanism sidesteps rational thinking in favor of a faster response to ensure survival. This is great when a bear is chasing you, but not so great when you’re responding to a curt e-mail. When caffeine puts your brain and body into this hyper-aroused state of stress, your emotions overrun your behavior. Caffeine’s long half-life ensures you stay this way as it takes its sweet time working its way out of your body. High-EQ individuals know that caffeine is trouble, and they don’t let it get the better of them.
- Question of
What’s your favorite color?
- Red/orange
- yellow/green
- blue/purple
- other
- All of them!
- Black like my soul
- idk
- Question of
Favorite animal?
- Horse
- Dog
- Cat
- Unicorn
- Mouse
- Fish
- Other
- Idk
- Question of
You’re at a party and someone spills a drink on you. How do you react?
- ‘Watch it! You’ll regret that…’
- ‘It’s ok! It will clean right out!’
- Depends on my mood
- Roll your eyes and ignore the person
- Become friends with the person
- Run to the bathroom to wash out the stain
- Question of
Pick an element
- Air
- Water
- Earth
- Fire
- How do I choose? They’re all so cool!
- Why should I??
- Why not RAINBOWS?!
- Question of
You’re walking in a forest and encounter an animal under a spell. What do you do?
- Befriend it
- Fight it
- Avoid it
- Question of
Your friends would describe you as…
- Loyal
- Mysterious
- Creative
- Active
- Organized
- Prepared
- Indescisive
- Question of
What is your Hogwarts house?
- Gryffindor
- Slytherin
- Ravenclaw
- Hufflepuff
- I don’t know
- Question of
Pick an Arcanum
- The sun
- The moon
- The stars
- The sky
- The sea
- The earth
- I don’t know what that is
- Question of
What is your hobby?
- Art
- Dance
- Singing
- Cooking/baking
- Gaming
- Swimming
- Multiple of these
- Something else
- Question of
Pick a social media
- Instagram
- Snapchat
- YouTube
- The Internet
- Pinterest
- Google
- Idk
- I don’t use social media
- Question of
How much do you press ‘snooze’ on your alarm?
- Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t
- Quite a lot
- I don’t even need an alarm
- So many times, I have to set a limit
- Question of
You’ve just woken up: how strong is your craving for breakfast?
- Not breakfast, maybe a burger?
- I’m not hungry at all
- Bacon and eggs are the first thing on my mind
- I’m a little hungry
- Question of
Now you’re at the breakfast table: how alert are you feeling?
- Bright-eyed and bushy-tailed!
- I can barely register what’s happening around me
- Just alert enough, I’d say
- Question of
Your two-hour final exams are tomorrow! Luckily, you can choose when to take it. Which time slot do you pick?
- 8AM to 10AM
- 11AM to 1PM
- 3PM to 5PM
- 7PM to 9PM
- Question of
Around what time do you start to tire and feel sleepy?
- 8PM to 10PM
- 10PM to 12AM
- 12AM to 2AM
- 2AM to 3AM