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According a new study by Gilda Giebel and her colleagues the kind of traits we desire in our partner is based on gender differences among us. Where as the preference for dominant partners is completely based on our own individual personality traits. Usually people who like fun and thrill and despise boredom are the ones who are more probable to prefer a dominant partner. People who are adventurous and like taking risks and are intense are usually attracted to dominant partners and even dominant people find such adventurous traits very appealing.

According to a research which included 172 German adults out of which 63 percent were females and 60 percent students; the outcome matched the above mentioned information. Tested with personalities questionnaires these candidates levels of preference for a dominant partner was evaluated. With four sub scales which are mentioned, majority of the candidates put emphasis on their attraction levels for a partner who is much more assertive, controlling and decisive.

– thrill and adventure seeking: partners who are adventurous, fearless and engage in activities which involves risk for instance skydiving and mountain climbing.

– disinhibition: partners who make impulsive decisions or engage in impulsive behaviours like drug or alcohol use or unsafe sex.

– experience seeking: involving partners who take less risk but are open to new possibilities and experiences. These can be related to ravel or something else.

– boredom susceptibility: such people are more probable to boredom hence require entertainment every now and then, it could be in form of attention, validation or acknowledgement.

Sensation seekers be it whichever gender preferred a partner who is dominant, and so were people belonging to boredom susceptibility and disinhibition levels, whereas thrill-seeking people had no such preference related to dominant partners. This states that people more likely to get bored seed entertainment factors which they could find in dominant partners. On evaluating the anxiety levels of the candidates it was observed that people with high anxiety levels preferred dominant partners because of the sense of security they bring a long.

The results further clarified women in two categories based on their preference for dominant partners. The categories were the women who displayed boredom susceptibility and disinhibition, and anxiety. As these characteristics are not at all related to each other there are definitely different reasons behind these women preferring what they prefer. The reason for anxious women could be protection, security and comfort whereas reason for women who get easily bored prefer partners who are dominant to fulfil their desire and need of entertainment.

Because not all anxious women portrayed the need to seek a dominant partner it implied that anxious women were probable to score high on the experience-seeking aspect of sensation-seeking. This observation resulted tat there are two methods anxious women use in order to cope; first is to seek a security by a dominant partners whereas the other one is looking for a more non-conformist lifestyle which is sophisticated. This is because these women don’t want a partner to put restrictions on them and their need of seeking new experiences.

All in all here might be some truth in the stereotype that “women like bad boys” it is also true that the case is much more complicated than that. The complexity intensifies when men seek dominant partners too with the reason of fulfilling their need of excitement and entertainment. Whereas it can be concluded that women who are anxious might either seek dominant men to make them feel secured and as much as it fits into the stereotype of a damsel in distress looking for a knight; it is also true that not all anxious women are looking for partners who are dominating as they believe it can be a hindrance in their desire to experience new thing and might not necessarily open up more and more possibilities.

“Isabelle snorted, “All the boys are gay. In this truck, anyway. Well, not you, Simon.”
“You noticed,” said Simon.
“I think of myself as a freewheeling bisexual,” added Magnus.
“Please never say those words in front of my parents,” said Alec.”
― Cassandra Clare, City of Lost Souls

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