Are you good Girlfriend? V2

 

“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

“I was suffering the easily foreseeable consequences. Addiction is the hallmark of every infatuation-based love story. It all begins when the object of your adoration bestows upon you a heady, hallucinogenic dose of something you never dared to admit you wanted-an emotional speedball, perhaps, of thunderous love and roiling excitement. Soon you start craving that intense attention, with a hungry obsession of any junkie. When the drug is witheld, you promptly turn sick, crazy, and depleted (not to mention resentful of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place but now refuses to pony up the good stuff anymore– despite the fact that you know he has it hidden somewhere, goddamn it, because he used to give it to you for free). Next stage finds you skinny and shaking in a corner, certain only that you would sell your soul or rob your neighbors just to have ‘that thing’ even one more time. Meanwhile, the object of your adoration has now become repulsed by you. He looks at you like you’re someone he’s never met before, much less someone he once loved with high passion. The irony is,you can hardly blame him. I mean, check yourself out. You’re a pathetic mess,unrecognizable even to your own eyes. So that’s it. You have now reached infatuation’s final destination– the complete and merciless devaluation of self.” – pg 20-21”
Elizabeth Gilbert Sputnik Sweetheart

“Of course it hurt that we could never love each other in a physical way. We would have been far more happy if we had. But that was like the tides, the change of seasons–something immutable, an immovable destiny we could never alter. No matter how cleverly we might shelter it, our delicate friendship wasn’t going to last forever. We were bound to reach a dead end. That was painfully clear.”
Haruki Murakami, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

“I think you are wrong to want a heart. It makes most people unhappy. If you only knew it, you are in luck not to have a heart.”
L. Frank Baum, The Wise Man’s Fear

“nothing in this world was more difficult than love.”
Gabriel García Márquez The Goddess Test

“Books are a poor substitute for female companionship, but they are easier to find.”
Patrick Rothfuss, I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence

“I care,” he said in a trembling voice. “I care so much that I do not know how to tell you without it seeming inconsequential compared to how I feel. Even if I am distant at times and seem as if I do not want to be with you, it is only because this scares me, too.”
Aimee Carter, The Indigo Spell

“Don’t leave a piece of jewelry at his house so you can go back and get it later; he may be with his real girlfriend.”
Amy Sedaris, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

“Because I can’t help doing it,” he said with a shrug. “And hey, if I keep loving you, maybe you’ll eventually crack and love me too. Hell, I’m pretty sure you’re already half in love with me.”
Richelle Mead, Rules of Attraction

“All I’m telling you to do is to be smart about it. Know that if this man isn’t looking for a serious relationship, you’re not going to change his mind just because you two are going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord’s green earth-you’re capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you’re independent (which means, to him, that you’re not going to be in his pockets)-but if he’s not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish.”
Steve Harvey, Emma

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
Shannon L. Alder Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“We kiss all the time.” I clear my throat, then add, “We just…do it in private.”
Simone Elkeles, I Wrote This For You

“Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure; seldom can it happen that something is not a little disguised or a little mistaken.”
Jane Austen, Max

“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.”
Steve Maraboli, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“You’re just another story I can’t tell anymore.”
pleasefindthis, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“He could totally be your boyfriend,” [Angel] went on with annoying persistance. “You guys could get married. I could be like a junior bridesmaid. Total could be your flower dog.”
James Patterson, Breaking Bread: Insurgent Black Intellectual Life

“Moving on is easy. It’s staying moved on that’s trickier.”
Katerina Stoykova Klemer The English Patient

“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.”
Mandy Hale, Letters to a Young Poet

“A fit, healthy body—that is the best fashion statement”
Jess C Scott Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.”
Steve Maraboli, Wicked Lovely

“There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.”
Shannon L. Alder All About Love: New Visions

“We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.”
Cornel West, Warbreaker

“We die containing a richness of lovers and tribes, tastes we have swallowed, bodies we have plunged into and swum up as if rivers of wisdom, characters we have climbed into as if trees, fears we have hidden in as if caves.
Michael Ondaatje, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“only someone who is ready for everything, who doesn’t exclude any experience, even the most incomprehensible, will live the relationship with another person as something alive and will himself sound the depths of his own being.”
Rainer Maria Rilke, Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How long do you think your relationship will last?

    • A long long time
    • Not long at all
    • Pretty long
    • Always and Forever <3
    • A while
  • Question of

    Do you share milestones in a great way (E.G. by making a video or a song, or maybe even a picture collage)?

    • I wake up and send a message immediately
    • I Don’t really send him many
    • Yes every time
    • Always
    • Never
  • Question of

    Do you still talk to his friends?

    • Little bit.
    • Yes a lot.
    • Not at all.
  • Question of

    Do you still treat him the same?

    • Well it depends on how he treats me.
    • Yes, always
    • I would never change the way I treat him.
    • Sometimes
    • No it has changed quite a bit.
  • Question of

    If given the chance would you move to the same place and let go of all of what you have where you currently reside?

    • Probably
    • I would give anything to be with him.
    • No
    • It depends
    • Yes definitely!
  • Question of

    Would you trust them with the password to your phone?

    • I expect them to have it memorized.
    • Sure, if we’ve been together for a while.
    • Not under any circumstances.
    • If they are trustworthy.
  • Question of

    Did you hesitate to agree to be exclusive?

    • No! We must merge like one person in two bodies.
    • Of course, what else is the point of being in a relationship?
    • Yes, I think maybe I could do better.
    • No, because that isn’t in line with my values.
  • Question of

    Who initiates most of your calls?

    • I do! I call exactly 47 times a day.
    • We both do out parts.
    • My partner does, always.
    • It depends on what’s going on in our lives at the time.
  • Question of

    If you were going away for a while, would you let them stay in your place?

    • I would demand that they do!
    • Sure, if they keep it clean.
    • No way.
    • Only if they learn to cook.
  • Question of

    Have you ever made each other laugh without even speaking, perhaps just by looking at each other intently or doing silly faces?

    • My partner makes me laugh like that, and they politely pretend I do!
    • We do, frequently.
    • Rarely.
    • A lot of the time.
  • Question of

    How often can you order for them in a restaurant and be sure you will pick something they’ll like?

    • Not all the time, but I always try.
    • Most of the time.
    • Not often.
    • Almost all the time, though they sometimes don’t realize they like it until they’ve tried it.
  • Question of

    How many nicknames do you have for them?

    • One, and it’s very sweet!
    • More than we can count, each for a special occasion.
    • None. Nicknames are silly.
    • A few, none of them are embarrassing.
  • Question of

    Do you often know what they are thinking without them telling you?

    • I always think I do, but I don’t always know.
    • I usually know.
    • I neither know nor care.
    • I can often sort it out, and I try to be helpful.
  • Question of

    If they asked you for the truth about whether they had gained weight, and they had, would you give it?

    • I should hope so!
    • If there is trust, I would expect it.
    • No, and I probably wouldn’t bother asking.
    • Maybe, maybe not. Either way, if they want to lose weight, I’ll be supportive.
  • Question of

    What’s the longest you can go without speaking?

    • Twenty six minutes.
    • Sixteen hours or so.
    • Weeks.
    • A day or so.
  • Question of

    Do you know the details about their finances?

    • I know them all. I have all their account details memorized.
    • I know the broad strokes of them.
    • I don’t know and I don’t care.
    • I do, because I help my partner organize them.
  • Question of

    Would you trust them to look after your dog?

    • I would give them my dog forever!
    • Sure, if we’ve been together long enough that they know how to take care of it.
    • No. My dog is more important to me than anyone but family.
    • Of course! They could benefit from a little time with a dog.
  • Question of

    If they failed to return their bestie’s call, would that friend call you before anyone else?

    • No, they might call another mutual friend to find out if my snookums is dead or alive.
    • Yes.
    • Maybe.
    • Probably, but they might call my boo’s parents.
  • Question of

    Do you have a key to their place?

    • I have seven!
    • Yes, and I’m glad that I do.
    • No, and I don’t want one.
    • Not yet, but if we develop a strong bond, we’ll trade keys.
  • Question of

    Do their neighbors know who you are?

    • Of course! I’ve had them all over for dinner.
    • Some of them do, but they live in a large apartment building, so it would be hard to know everyone.
    • No, and that’s just how I like it.
    • Yes, and my introducing myself is the reason my boo knows their neighbors.
  • Question of

    Do you know how they take their tea or coffee?

    • I know how they take drinks they haven’t even tried yet.
    • Yes, and I know what they don’t like to drink at all.
    • I don’t know either.
    • I know a bit, and I encourage my partner to really figure out their favorites so I can be helpful.
  • Question of

    When you miss them, does it ever actually physically hurt?

    • Like a blow to my little heart!
    • Sometimes, if life is particularly tumultuous.
    • No, I just wander.
    • Sometimes, but not often.
  • Question of

    Do you have an agreed definition of cheating that you both commit not to transgress?

    • Yes, and it is stricter than the definition used by the Taliban.
    • Yes, of course we do.
    • No, and I aim to keep it that way.
    • Yes, and it is carefully thought through.
  • Question of

    Do you brag about them a lot?

    • All the time, to anyone who will listen and many who will not.
    • I brag about them to the people whose opinions are important.
    • Not really.
    • I brag about them to their colleagues.
  • Question of

    If you broke a prized possession of theirs, would you confess?

    • I would prostrate myself before them.
    • I would confess and do my very best to replace it.
    • I’d just ghost them.
    • I’d try to fix or replace it before they noticed, and otherwise confess and try to make amends.
  • Question of

    Do you love him unconditionally?

    • No, not yet at least.
    • We will have to wait for that and see what happens.
    • Yes
    • He is okay I guess?
    • OMG YEEESSS HE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!
  • Question of

    Do you talk to him every day?

    • Yep we have plans and times to talk to each other.
    • Rarely…
    • Not that much, probably a couple times a week.
    • Yes for a couple hours a day.
    • It is scattered through the day.
  • Question of

    Do you have memorabilia of him/her (Video, Photo, or any other object)?

    • Not really I lost most of them but they will always be in my memory.
    • Yes he has given me a lot and I have kept all of it is a safe place.
    • Nope I lost them.
    • Yes I have a couple things here and there.
    • He has not given me any.
  • Question of

    How often do you think about him?

    • 2 to 3 seconds apart
    • Once or twice a day
    • Usually everyday
    • All the time
    • Not really
  • Question of

    Are you romantic or ‘cheesy’ often?

    • Most of the time.
    • Yes every time I talk to him.
    • Not really
    • Rarely
    • It depends

Does He Like Me? (Long-Distance)

Does my long distance crush like me back?