Are You Hot


“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Man, when you lose your laugh you lose your footing.”
Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest

“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

“I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.”
Martha Gellhorn, Selected Letters

“Maybe its like you said before, all of us being cracked open. Like each of us starts out as a watertight vessel. And then things happen – these people leave us, or don’t love us, or don’t get us, or we don’t get them, and we lose and fail and hurt one another. And the vessel starts to crack in places. And I mean, yeah once the vessel cracks open, the end becomes inevitable. Once it starts to rain inside the Osprey, it will never be remodeled. But there is all this time between when the cracks start to open up and when we finally fall apart. And its only that time that we see one another, because we see out of ourselves through our cracks and into others through theirs. When did we see each other face to face? Not until you saw into my cracks and I saw into yours. Before that we were just looking at ideas of each other, like looking at your window shade, but never seeing inside. But once the vessel cracks, the light can get in. The light can get out.”
John Green, Paper Towns

“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.”
Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are … I just don’t want that responsibility.”
Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”
Mary Manin Morrissey Dairy Queen

“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
Catherine Gilbert Murdock, Venus in Arms

“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner’s love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother’s love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant.”
bell hooks The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
Criss Jami, Between the Tides

“Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”
Fred Rogers, The Fall

“Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.”
Patti Callahan Henry, Along for the Ride

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
David Richo At First Sight

“I used to advertise my loyalty and I don’t believe there is a single person I loved that I didn’t eventually betray.”
Albert Camus, The Intern

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
Shannon L. Alder Poems from the Heart

“Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside”
Sarah Dessen, Waiting for You

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
C. JoyBell C. Remember Me

“Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.”
Nicholas Sparks, The Cocktail Party

“Those sweet lips. My, oh my, I could kiss those lips all night long.
Jess C. Scott, Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love

“I may not always be with you
Marc Wambolt, Straight Up and Dirty

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How tall is your ideal girl?

    • 5′ or under
    • 5’5” to 5’8”
    • 5’9” to 6′
    • 5’1” to 5’4”
    • 6′ or over
  • Question of

    What type of body does your ideal girl have?

    • I don’t mind a few extra pounds
    • Thin, but not too skinny
    • She’s got to be a Big Momma
    • I want Twiggy
    • Average, I don’t want her to starve herself
  • Question of

    How does your ideal girl dress?

    • She doesn’t really care about clothes, like me
    • She’s into all the trendy stuff
    • She keeps herself nice, but she’s not obsessed with clothes
    • She’s a supermodel when it comes to fashion
    • She’s tailor trash, dude
  • Question of

    What kind of personality does your ideal girl have?

    • She’s quiet and serious
    • She’s shy, but she can joke around a little
    • She love to laugh and loves to talk
    • She enjoys a good laugh and likes to talk, but she’s not super outgoing
    • I can’t get a word in edgewise
  • Question of

    How Tall Are You?

    • 5’8” or under
    • 6’6” or over
    • 5’9” to 5’11”
    • 6′ to 6’2”
    • 6’3” to 6’5”
  • Question of

    What color is your hair?

    • Black
    • Some Weird Color
    • Blonde
    • Red
    • Brown
  • Question of

    How Long is Your Hair?

    • Short and Spiky or Styled
    • Long (shaggy to shoulder length)
    • Short and Clean Cut
    • Buzz Cut or Bald
    • Super Long (past shoulders)
  • Question of

    How Into Clothes Are You?

    • I wear all the most stylish clothes…I’m sexy
    • Not much, I just keep myself looking nice
    • I’m a total metro; I dress better than you
    • Not at all…I’m a total slob
    • I like to look good; that’s really important to me
  • Question of

    What is your body type?

    • Muscular
    • Skin and Bones
    • Average…maybe a few extra pounds
    • I’m huge
    • Pretty Thin, But Not Nasty Thin…we’ll just say lean
  • Question of

    How smart do you consider yourself?

    • I’m about average…I can hold intelligent conversations anyway
    • I’m very smart….you should see my grades
    • Yeah…I don’t know how to add 2+2…so Dennis Rodman pretty much
    • I’m not too brilliant, but I have my moments
    • I’m a genius…definitely smarter than you
  • Question of

    How big of a sense of humor do you have?

    • I’ll laugh a little when someone jokes, but that’s about it
    • I’m a one man show
    • I’m pretty average…I laugh when something’s funny, and I can be funny too
    • I’m as dull as stats class (no offense to math lovers)
    • I’m hilarious, you should hear some of my jokes
  • Question of

    Do you consider yourself to be honest?

    • I’m about 50/50…catch me on a good day
    • I’m a pathological liar….don’t trust me
    • Yes, I always tell the truth no matter what…even if it hurts
    • I lie quite a bit….it’s just too easy
    • I’m honest, but I won’t hurt someone if put on the spot
  • Question of

    How religious are you?

    • Not at all…in fact, I don’t believe in God
    • I’m fanatical…either get saved now or you’re going to hell
    • I regularly attend church and love God a lot
    • I go to church once in a while and I’m a good person
    • I’m not, but I’m not sure about God…haven’t quite decided on that
  • Question of

    What religion are you?

    • Seventh Day Adventist
    • Something other than Christian
    • Catholic
    • I told you…I’m not religious
    • Some other type of Christian (Baptist, Lutheran, etc….)
  • Question of

    How concerned are you with other people?

    • Super concerned…I organize groups to help the homeless and do charity work all the time
    • Whatever….that’s their business, not mine
    • I’m not really worried about it….I fend for myself
    • I’m concerned, but I don’t do too much…basically I’m just a nice person
    • I’m concerned…I help out when needed
  • Question of

    How much of a slut are you?

    • I get around, but I wouldn’t define myself as a slut per say
    • I’ve had my share of relationships, but I haven’t slept with anyone
    • A total slut…you bitches better beware
    • Yeah, I made a mistake one time….
    • I’ve had very few relationships…I’m haven’t met the right girl yet
  • Question of

    How athletic are you?

    • I’m athletic, but not obsessed with it
    • I like to play sports a lot; it keeps me in shape
    • Yeah, try to catch me on that field
    • Super athletic…everywhere I go, there’s something to be conquered
    • I like to watch TV…is that a sport?
  • Question of

    What kind of music do you like?

    • Classical….I’m so refined, aren’t I?
    • Country rocks my socks
    • I like the older stuff…you, know….Bob Dylan, The Beatles, that kind of stuff
    • Rap, Hip Hop, and R&B all the way
    • Rock n’ Roll…that’s what I’m talking about
  • Question of

    What’s your kind of movie?

    • Drama….nothing like a good story
    • Foreign films (yes, I’m that intellectual)
    • Action, yeah!
    • Comedy…I like to laugh
    • Chick flick…please don’t laugh at me
  • Question of

    What color hair does your ideal girl have?

    • Blonde
    • Some Weird Color
    • Red
    • Brown
    • Black

Are you the one?

Do Guys Like Me? (For The 12- to 14-Year-Old)