Are You Obsessed?

 

“If you need something from somebody always give that person a way to hand it to you.”
Sue Monk Kidd, The Secret Life of Bees

“This is what happened in love. One of you cried a lot and then both of you grew sarcastic.”
Lorrie Moore, Like Life

“Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who’ll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you’re in the wrong house, that’s what it means.”
Henny Youngman A Wild Sheep Chase

“Most everything you think you know about me is nothing more than memories.”
Haruki Murakami, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“When you hold a grudge, you want someone else’s sorrow to reflect your level of hurt but the two rarely meet.”
Steve Maraboli, Dead to the World

“It’s probably a bad indicator of your lifestyle when you miss your ex-boyfriend because he’s absolutely lethal.”
Charlaine Harris, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”
Mandy Hale, It’s Not Summer Without You

“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.”
Jenny Han, Why Things Burn

“When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, “What was it that you wanted and why didn’t you fight for it?”
Shannon L. Alder The Valkyries

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
Brené Brown Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“you can take this mouth
Daphne Gottlieb, You Are Worthless: Depressing Nuggets of Wisdom Sure to Ruin Your Day

“He knew one of the women well, and had shared his universe with her. They had seen the same mountains, and the same trees, although each of them had seem them differently. She knew his weaknesses, his moments of hatred, of despair. Yet she was there at his side. They shared the same universe.”
Paulo Coelho, I’ll Give You the Sun

“The best relationships in our lives are the best not because they have been the happiest ones, they are that way because they have stayed strong through the most tormentful of storms.”
Pandora Poikilos, Where She Went

“Statistically speaking, there is a 65 percent chance that the love of your life is having an affair. Be very suspicious.”
Scott Dikkers, EyeLeash: A Blog Novel

“People die, I think, but your relationship with them doesn’t. It continues and is ever-changing.”
Jandy Nelson, Watermelon

“There are so many things that demand to be said. Where did you go? Do you ever think about me? You’ve ruined me. Are you okay? But of course, I can’t say any of that.”
Gayle Forman, Survivor

“V-Day…if you need this one day in a year to show everyone else you truly care for “your loved one” I think it’s quite stupid. I hate this commercialism. It’s all artificial, and has nothing to do with real love.”
Jess C Scott, Bridget Jones’s Diary

“Failed relationships can be described as so much wasted make-up.”
Marian Keyes, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Six hundred and forty fish later, the only thing I know is everything you love will die. The first time you meet someone special, you can count on them one day being dead and in the ground.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Safe Haven

“A true gentleman is one that apologizes anyways, even though he has not offended a lady intentionally. He is in a class all of his own because he knows the value of a woman’s heart.”
Shannon Alder A Supposedly Fun Thing I’ll Never Do Again: Essays and Arguments

“When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.”
Deepak Chopra The Fault in Our Stars

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Would you make a collage of your obsession?

    • Totally! And I’d share it with all my friends
    • Sorry to disappoint you, but I’m not THAT obsessed. I’m fine with having one picture of him
    • Maybe…but just one I’d keep to myself
  • Question of

    How often is your obsession in your head?

    • When I’m not preoccupied with anything else, I usually daydream about him
    • When I actually see him, I think of him, whether he is on TV or by the pool
    • Pretty much 24/7. When I’m bored, I find my mind traveling to a fantasy involving my obsession and me
  • Question of

    Has your obsession ever appeared in your dreams?

    • Umm…I think he was once standing in the background of one of my dreams
    • DUH! Nearly every dream involves him – and most are romantic!
    • He has appeared here and there…but the dream was never all about him
  • Question of

    How do you share your obsession?

    • I’ll tell my closest friends…maybe….
    • Whoa! My obsession isn’t THAT big, so I’ll tell all my friends and family
    • I tell ALL my friends AND my siblings!
  • Question of

    How often do you kiss his picture?

    • Whenever I’m in the mood
    • It’s in my daily routine…one kiss every morning, and one every night
    • I’ve never been obsessed enough to do that!
  • Question of

    Do you ever find yourself DRAWING him?

    • I’m not a very good artist, and I’d never do that, anyway
    • I’m a really good artist, so I draw him whenever I have paper and pencil. Did I mention I started a comic series starring him?
    • I have a few bad drawings of him that I keep under my bed and look at every so often
  • Question of

    If you think about your obsession at night, what is he doing?

    • I see his face or have a flashback from the last thing I saw him doing
    • I like to think about my ‘obsession’ during the day. Right now, I’m counting sheep
    • Kissing ME!
  • Question of

    Have you ever written anything about him?

    • Everything from poems to love letters to my future marriage proposal
    • I wrote a poem that I keep under my pillow and read every night
    • Uh…I wrote his name on a note I passed in class saying I like him
  • Question of

    So where is he in your future?

    • Geez…I never thought about that!
    • I’ll be over him by then
    • STUPID QUESTION! We’re married, have several kids and share a business
  • Question of

    So how was this quiz?

    • Great! For every question, there was an answer that showed just how obsessed I really am
    • This was a waste of time. I’m not THAT obsessed
    • I hope it tells me if my secret obsession is serious…or just a phase
  • Question of

    There is someone whom you think about often. How much time do you spend thinking about him/her?

    • I don’t spend any time thinking about one single person
    • I think about them a few times a month
    • I think about them a few times a week
    • I can’t get them out of my head!
  • Question of

    You watch a particular person online, joining the websites that they join, posting to the forums where they post.

    • No, no one interests me that much
    • I may go to a site they belong to but only if it is interesting
    • I join so I can keep an eye on them
    • I have tracking software, have signed up for tracking sites and I know EVERYTHING that they do on their computer!
  • Question of

    You think about the person so much that you have trouble sleeping.

    • No way! That is nuts!
    • Sometimes I go to sleep thinking about them, but I am not losing sleep over them!
    • I lie awake for hours thinking about them
    • I can’t sleep and I have to get up to check to see if what they have done online
  • Question of

    You have a regular schedule of when you check up on the person (when you get up, before going to bed, etc)

    • No, I have a life.
    • If I think about it I may pop in, but I hardly ever think about it
    • I might for a few days, then I get bored and stay away for a while
    • Sure! Before I go to work, during my lunch break, when I get home from work and before I go to bed – sometimes more
  • Question of

    Your checking up on this person is affecting your work performance.

    • No, I don’t ‘check up’ on anyone
    • No, I don’t do it at work
    • Well, I may lose a half an hour at work…
    • My supervisor has spoken to me about my online activity or my lowered production
  • Question of

    You can not ‘turn off’ your thoughts about the person.

    • I don’t think about anyone like that
    • I think about them, but can turn it off whenever I like
    • I have a little trouble turning it off
    • I can not turn it off, I think about them all the time
  • Question of

    You neglect your spouse, children, pets and/or family because of the time you spend thinking about and checking up on the person

    • I don’t check up on anyone. Don’t care.
    • No, I stop when they are around and don’t do anything until they are gone/in bed
    • I have not made supper before because I was checking up on the person
    • My spouse has picked up my household chores because I am always online checking up on the person
  • Question of

    Do you continue to defend yourself and argue with people you feel attack you or talk badly about you – even if you just write it on your own blog and do not have direct contact?

    • No, they would have to come to my page and attack me outright for me to even notice them – and then I would ignore them
    • No, I take the path of least resistance and ignore them
    • I may say something at first, then I move on
    • I will come back on them for everything that they write! I will take out my own blog and write about them and say and do things just to tick them off!
  • Question of

    Do you ever think about hurting, scaring, intimidating, manipulating, controlling or killing a patricular person?

    • No, to each his or her own
    • I have thought about it fleetingly, but I was never serious
    • I have thought about it but I don’t know how would do it
    • I think about it and know exactly how I would do it if I had the opportunity
  • Question of

    When you think about the person, how do you feel?

    • I don’t think about anyone like that
    • Nothing at all
    • I get upset and distressed, but I can distract myself and stop feeling like that
    • Very upset and distressed, angry or furious and I can not make it go away (plus, I don’t want to!)

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