Are you over him? (12-13)


“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

Marty McConnell Mythology

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, Eleanor & Park

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, Looking for Alaska

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens New Order

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How often do you think about him a day?

    • Often
    • One or twice
    • Some things remind me of him
    • Rarely
    • Never
  • Question of

    Do you ever have dreams about him and/or fantasize about him.

    • Yeah, their often sexual
    • Sometimes
    • Rarely
    • I couldn’t even if I tried
  • Question of

    He admits to you that he likes your best friend and you find out that your best friend likes him back. What do you do.

    • Be happy for him that he found someone else
    • Help him to confess his feelings but wistfully wish it was you
    • Try and thwart their feelings for each other
    • Cry in a corner
    • Your best friend can’t date your ex! Your breaking the girl code!
  • Question of

    He sends you text asking you how you feel about your relationship with him now. You text him:

    • ‘I can’t stop thinking about how much I want to be with you.’
    • ‘its complicated.’
    • ‘We’re best friends, lol!’
    • ‘we’re friends aren’t we?’
  • Question of

    You are cleaning your room and you see the snow globe that he gave you on your first date. What do you do with it?

    • Clutch it tight
    • Lock it away in a box, to treasure
    • Put it in the attic
    • Chuck it away, its meaningless
  • Question of

    A song that you and him used to listen to pops up on YouTube. Do you:

    • Click on it but then realise it was a mistake when you start crying over it
    • Listen to it and memories flash in your head
    • Scroll past it: his is depressing sh*t
    • Listen to it and make new memories over it
    • Dance to it
  • Question of

    Is his number still in our quick dial?

    • Yep, so if I get a call from him I can call him back quickly
    • I know it by heart
    • Just in case…
    • No, but I still have his number saved
    • I deleted his number off my phone bare long
  • Question of

    You walk into the classroom and everyone is sitting in random seats. You sit:

    • Right next to him
    • On his table
    • Next to his table
    • As far away as possible from him
    • With your friends
  • Question of

    The hottest boy in your year asked you out to the dance. It’s a one chance, what do you say.

    • Say yes, hoping he’ll see and get jealous
    • Sorry, your interested in someone else
    • I’m taken (not really)
    • I’ll think about it
    • I’ll pass thanks, I’m going with my gals
  • Question of

    Do you think your over him?

    • Of course
    • Maybe
    • I think so
    • Yep.
  • Question of

    Do you spend a lot of time on social media?

    • No, I never do.
    • Only in moments of great weakness
    • Most days I do.
    • Every day
  • Question of

    Do you want to still be friends with people even if they have done you wrong?

    • No, that makes no sense.
    • Sometimes I do.
    • Yes, I wish I could be.
    • Sure, I appreciate friendship.
  • Question of

    How often do you text people you’re dating?

    • Never
    • Once a week or so
    • Every day
    • Every hour
  • Question of

    How emotional are you?

    • Not at all. Gross.
    • I don’t think I am.
    • I can be.
    • Totally emotional
  • Question of

    Do you have any nicknames?

    • No, that would be odd.
    • No, I always kind of wanted one though.
    • I used to have one.
    • Yes, and I love it.
  • Question of

    Are you imaginative?

    • I don’t think I am really.
    • I think so, but doesn’t everyone think so?
    • Sure I am.
    • Yes, I am so imaginative.
  • Question of

    Do you have a type?

    • Seriously? No.
    • I don’t think so, but now that you mention it.
    • Maybe a little
    • Totally
  • Question of

    Do you think of your ex when being romantic with someone else?

    • No, that is nasty.
    • No, that is not my vibe.
    • Sometimes I do briefly.
    • All the time
  • Question of

    How many books are on your nightstand waiting to be read?

    • None
    • 1
    • 2
    • 3 or more
  • Question of

    Do you think a lot about whether people like you?

    • I never think about it.
    • Sometimes
    • I do a lot.
    • I do all the time.

Are You Sure You’re Over Him?

Are You Over Him?