Are you ready for marriage?


“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Man, when you lose your laugh you lose your footing.”
Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest

“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

“I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.”
Martha Gellhorn, Selected Letters

“Maybe its like you said before, all of us being cracked open. Like each of us starts out as a watertight vessel. And then things happen – these people leave us, or don’t love us, or don’t get us, or we don’t get them, and we lose and fail and hurt one another. And the vessel starts to crack in places. And I mean, yeah once the vessel cracks open, the end becomes inevitable. Once it starts to rain inside the Osprey, it will never be remodeled. But there is all this time between when the cracks start to open up and when we finally fall apart. And its only that time that we see one another, because we see out of ourselves through our cracks and into others through theirs. When did we see each other face to face? Not until you saw into my cracks and I saw into yours. Before that we were just looking at ideas of each other, like looking at your window shade, but never seeing inside. But once the vessel cracks, the light can get in. The light can get out.”
John Green, Paper Towns

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are … I just don’t want that responsibility.”
Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility

“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.”
Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”
Mary Manin Morrissey Dairy Queen

“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
Catherine Gilbert Murdock, Venus in Arms

“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner’s love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother’s love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant.”
bell hooks The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
Criss Jami, Between the Tides

“Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”
Fred Rogers, The Fall

“Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.”
Patti Callahan Henry, Along for the Ride

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
David Richo At First Sight

“I used to advertise my loyalty and I don’t believe there is a single person I loved that I didn’t eventually betray.”
Albert Camus, The Intern

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
Shannon L. Alder Poems from the Heart

“Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside”
Sarah Dessen, Waiting for You

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
C. JoyBell C. Remember Me

“Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.”
Nicholas Sparks, The Cocktail Party

“Those sweet lips. My, oh my, I could kiss those lips all night long.
Jess C. Scott, Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love

“I may not always be with you
Marc Wambolt, Straight Up and Dirty

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Your spouse and your mother don’t get on together. What do you do?

    • My mother is wonderful, if he/she would spend more time with them they would see that.
    • Leave my mother out of this.
    • We made an agreement that no one would come between us, including in-laws, we keep our distance from them.
    • Not like my mother, I don’t like his/her mother either
  • Question of

    Your kids don’t like your spouse. What do you do?

    • My spouse should just suck it up, after all, their just kids
    • If my kids don’t like my spouse, they earned it.
    • My spouse and I agreed not to let anyone come between us, including our kids
    • Well, my spouse needs to understand my kids were here first
  • Question of

    It’s your anniversary again. How do you celebrate?

    • I don’t know about my spouse, but I will be out on the lake with a six pack of soda and my new fishing poles.
    • Is it that time again, I swear it was just our anniversary a couple years ago.
    • I plan the most amazing weekend getaway, up in the mountains, just the two of us, a fire place, a bearskin rug, and sparkling cider.
    • I’m gonna give him/her my honey do list, maybe since were off this weekend things will get done.
  • Question of

    It’s Valentine’s day! How do you celebrate?

    • Valentine, Smalentine. Who cares?
    • I married you didn’t I, take this candy and quitchurbellyachin!
    • Dinner at our favorite drive through. Again.
    • Sneak away to an undisclosed location, just the two of us, lock the door, sprinkle the rose petals on the bed and turn down the lights!,
  • Question of

    Your spouse has gained a few pounds. What do you do?

    • Ask them to go walking with me, I want to stay healthy for him/her.
    • Ride them about every piece of food they put in their mouth, telling them the exact nutritional and caloric value.
    • Roll my eyes at him/her and comment about how good looking your favorite celebrity is.
    • Gain weight. I am outta here!
  • Question of

    Do you know your spouses favorite color?

    • Yes of course, cornflower blue!
    • I haven’t got time to worry about his/her favorite color.
    • Ask him/her if they know my favorite color.
    • Brown, who likes brown? Yuck.
  • Question of

    Where did your spouse grow up?

    • Right on the corner of Idiot Lane and Moron Way.
    • In the stupidest city on earth. Or America or something.
    • Who cares, why we gotta be some geniuses anyway?
    • On Dewberry Street, in the blue house in the middle of the block!
  • Question of

    What is your spouse’s favorite icecream?

    • I don’t know, whats the difference?
    • My honey is vegan so he/she eats vegan ice-cream made of brown rice, it’s really tasty!
    • I don’t know, vanilla?
    • We can’t afford ice-cream.
  • Question of

    How does your spouse need to be loved?

    • Yeah, whatever!
    • Well, my honey just loves it when I remember his/her favorite holidays with a unique gift, last year for national pirate’s day, I gave them a vegan parrot cake
    • I married him/her, that says it all right there.
    • What? saying I love you isn’t good enough anymore?
  • Question of

    Would your spouse marry you all over again?

    • Absolutely, He/She can’t live without me!
    • Last year on our anniversary we renewed our vows and sang endless love to each-other
    • I’m the best thing that ever happened to him/her!
    • The question is would I marry them again?
  • Question of

    Did you like this quiz?

    • Are you kidding? This quiz is lame.
    • Are you kidding who likes a quiz? Forget about it!
    • No, I hated it.
    • Yes, it was great.
  • Question of

    Do you dream of having a large family someday?

    • Yes, Definitely
    • Ahh, Maybe
    • Never thought about it
    • No way!
  • Question of

    Do you prefer to follow or lead?

    • No way I am following anybody.
    • Eh, depends.
    • I am definitely the one leading.
    • I am happy following a good leader
  • Question of

    Do you mind sharing your possessions with someone else?

    • Sure no problem, what’s mine is theirs
    • I don’t have any possessions
    • Can we each just keep our own things
    • Keep your hands off my stuff!
  • Question of

    You want to go to horseback riding Saturday, your spouse wants to go to the Baseball game. What do you do?

    • Stay home and sulk.
    • Go with my spouse to the Baseball game.
    • Remind your spouse, that last time you did what they wanted to do, now it’s their turn to do what you want.
    • Go horseback riding alone
  • Question of

    Your spouse loves coffee, you can’t stand the smell of it. Do you complain about his/her coffee breath or kiss them anyway?

    • Tell them their breath stinks and hold your nose closed.
    • Offer them a mint,, as you pop one yourself.
    • Gag and turn away from them.
    • Kiss them anyway
  • Question of

    Your spouses new hairdo/haircut just isn’t working for you. Do you tell them you hate it or find something else to compliment them on?

    • Say nothing at all, just laugh at them in front of your friends and family
    • I can’t stop looking at it and frowning it’s like a train-wreck, horrible and yet I can’t look away
    • I refuse to be seen with them until they fix that mess on top of their head.
    • I find something I do like and compliment them on that, not mentioning their hair.
  • Question of

    My money is my money, I earned it!

    • What’s mine is mine, whats theirs is ours.
    • What’s theirs is mine.
    • I am going to need a prenup
    • Our money is married just like we are.
  • Question of

    Your spouse asks you to have a cup of tea with them, you hate tea. What do you do?

    • I sit at the table and watch them drink their tea, wondering how anybody in their right mind could like that crap.
    • Have a cup of tea with them anyway, I hate tea, but I love my spouse and tea won’t kill me.
    • Make it a double mocha latte with a lemon lime twist and they’ve got a deal.
    • Forget about it!
  • Question of

    Your spouse was supposed to pick you up from work at 3:00 but was an hour and a half late, and now they want to invite their mom over for dinner when all you want to do is collapse into your easy chair. What do you do?

    • Forgive their tardiness and suggest since you are a little worn out that instead of cooking the two of you drop past the supermarket for a rotisserie chicken.
    • Sulk all the way home, and mope around the kitchen preparing a lackluster meal.
    • Fuss all the way home and confess that you can’t stand their mother. Break out the leftover meatloaf and smile in their mother’s face all evening.
    • Yell at them all the way home and lock yourself in your room leaving them to entertain their mother.
  • Question of

    Your spouse wants to use the spare room as an office, you want to make it a love cave for the two of you. What do you do?

    • That’s my home gym!
    • Turn it into an office.
    • Turn it into a love cave.
    • Well I wanted a love cave, but forget it now, if he/she can’t appreciate me.
  • Question of

    You are Vegan, your spouse LOVES meat more than lions do. What do you do?

    • I married a murderer.
    • What kind of a dummy doesn’t understand meat is not healthy for them to eat?
    • Eat meat! Gross! Lips that eat meat will never kiss mine!
    • Fix them healthy, leaner, smaller cuts of meat with Vegan sides, I am good cook they won’t know the sides are healthy, I love them too much to prepare unhealthy meals for them.
  • Question of

    You just met a great guy/gal, just one thing they have a kid, you don’t want kids. What do you do?

    • Just ignore the kid, they only come over on weekends, right?
    • A kid? Long as it doesn’t interfere in our plans.
    • If they are truly the one for me, I marry them and inherit a child to love! Bonus!
    • They have a kid. Well as long as the kid doesn’t live with us.
  • Question of

    Your spouse was married before and is a widow/widower, do you let them hang pictures of their deceased spouse or protest?

    • Of course they can hang pictures of their deceased spouse, the parent of their children.
    • I don’t want pictures of dead people on the walls. Except for my grandma Betty.
    • Seriously, that’s creepy.
    • That was then, this is now, they better get with it.
  • Question of

    Your spouse becomes very ill for a long time. What do you do?

    • Patiently, see them through their illness.
    • Wish they would hurry up and get better, and be impatient and short with them.
    • Laugh at them, and be embarrassed to be seen with them.
    • Separate from them, you didn’t sign on for a sick spouse.

Should you kiss them first?

Are you really ready to get married?