Are you ready for your first relationship?


“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Man, when you lose your laugh you lose your footing.”
Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest

“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

“I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.”
Martha Gellhorn, Selected Letters

“Maybe its like you said before, all of us being cracked open. Like each of us starts out as a watertight vessel. And then things happen – these people leave us, or don’t love us, or don’t get us, or we don’t get them, and we lose and fail and hurt one another. And the vessel starts to crack in places. And I mean, yeah once the vessel cracks open, the end becomes inevitable. Once it starts to rain inside the Osprey, it will never be remodeled. But there is all this time between when the cracks start to open up and when we finally fall apart. And its only that time that we see one another, because we see out of ourselves through our cracks and into others through theirs. When did we see each other face to face? Not until you saw into my cracks and I saw into yours. Before that we were just looking at ideas of each other, like looking at your window shade, but never seeing inside. But once the vessel cracks, the light can get in. The light can get out.”
John Green, Paper Towns

“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.”
Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are … I just don’t want that responsibility.”
Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”
Mary Manin Morrissey Dairy Queen

“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
Catherine Gilbert Murdock, Venus in Arms

“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner’s love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother’s love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant.”
bell hooks The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
Criss Jami, Between the Tides

“Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”
Fred Rogers, The Fall

“Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.”
Patti Callahan Henry, Along for the Ride

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
David Richo At First Sight

“I used to advertise my loyalty and I don’t believe there is a single person I loved that I didn’t eventually betray.”
Albert Camus, The Intern

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
Shannon L. Alder Poems from the Heart

“Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside”
Sarah Dessen, Waiting for You

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
C. JoyBell C. Remember Me

“Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.”
Nicholas Sparks, The Cocktail Party

“Those sweet lips. My, oh my, I could kiss those lips all night long.
Jess C. Scott, Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love

“I may not always be with you
Marc Wambolt, Straight Up and Dirty

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How often do you have crushes?

    • Sometimes 2 at the same time in a span of 2 months
    • Once a week
    • A couple a month
    • All the time!
    • Once or twice a year
  • Question of

    Do you tend to flirt?

    • I’ll sneak in a wink and let him do the flirting
    • I try but my tongue always gets tied!
    • When ever there is eye candy!
    • I’ll stare from afar!
    • When I see someone I like
  • Question of

    How old are you?

    • 14 and under
    • 16 – 19
    • Older
    • 15
    • 20 and up
  • Question of

    Have you had any sexual experience?

    • Not the whole way
    • A couple of kisses
    • Awkward almost moments!
    • Quite a bit!
    • A few hookups
  • Question of

    How comfortable would you be in a relationship?

    • Queasy and nervous:/
    • A little but nervous!
    • Would feel normal and quite comfortable
    • So ready! can’t wait
    • Depends I guess, how I feel around the guy
  • Question of

    Does you crush make you feel?

    • Sexy and hot
    • Cute and fun!
    • Nervous, definitely butterflies in my stomach!
    • Like where old friends
    • Smart, Beautiful and funny
  • Question of

    What first date would you go on?

    • A home cooked meal at his place
    • Fancy restaurant for dinner and an old movie in the park
    • Carnival, fun and flirty!
    • A cute lunch and beach walk afterwards
    • A surprise! He won’t tell!
  • Question of

    How would you like to end the night?

    • A steamy hot kiss indicated by me 😉
    • A sweet kiss
    • His number slipped in your hand after whispering goodnight in your ear!
    • A cute goodbye with a promise of a next date
    • A kiss on the cheek from him
  • Question of

    How does your family feel about you dating?

    • I can make my own choices
    • They trust me and know that I can make the right choices
    • When the times right the times right
    • Fine, when there are rules
    • Not too happy
  • Question of

    If your first boyfriend told you to shoplift a watch for him, would you do it?

    • Yeah, probably. If I thought I could get away with it.
    • Maybe. Depends on how expensive the watch is.
    • No, that’s stupid. He can steal it himself if he wants to be bougie.
    • The swag move would be to just buy the watch for him.
  • Question of

    Do you think that people who have boyfriends are better than people who don’t have boyfriends?

    • YEAH OBVS.
    • I think it CAN make you cooler, but not always.
    • Absolutely not. Whether you have a man or not says nothing about your personality.
    • IDK but I think it would make ME better.
  • Question of

    You’ve been chatting with someone cute on Instagram. After a few weeks, he reveals that he’s actually much older than you. Would you keep chatting with him?

    • Hmm … maybe.
    • Well, how much older is he than me?
    • Ew, no!
    • I’d report him to the police, fr.
  • Question of

    How much do you like boys?

    • Quite a bit, SOMETIMES.
    • I like certain guys but not ‘boys’ in general.
    • I like boys more than I like breathing.
  • Question of

    How do you feel when you fail a test?

    • Sad. Why am I so dumb?
    • Furious with myself.
    • Neutral. It sucks to fail a test, but maybe the teacher will let me take a make-up test?
    • I feel nothing. I don’t care about my grades, TBH.
  • Question of

    What kind of guys do you like?

    • Anyone cute. I’m thirsty!
    • Mysterious bad boys
    • Smart guys who have it together
    • Guys who like ME
  • Question of

    How confident are you? Could you lead a school assembly if the principal asked you to?

    • Girl, no.
    • Maybe as part of a group …
    • Yeah, why not?
    • Ugh, that sounds like a nightmare!!!!!
  • Question of

    Who’s your favorite ‘Star Wars’ bae?

    • Kylo Ren
    • Alden Ehrenreich
    • Donald Glover
    • Oscar Isaac
  • Question of

    Imagine that a new friend comes over and starts making fun of your little brother for his lisp. What do you do?

    • Say, ‘Haha, yeah he sounds ridonkulous.’
    • Change the subject.
    • Shut it down.
    • Clap back at your friend so savagely that she cries.
  • Question of

    Do your friends think you’re ready for a boyfriend?

    • Uh … no.
    • Yuh.
    • Yesssss. They keep asking why I’m not dating so-and-so yet.
    • Idgaf what they think because I KNOW I’m ready.
  • Question of

    How confidant are you with your body?

    • I often criticize my imperfections in the mirror
    • I have a few blemishes that I cover up
    • Wouldn’t really want to wear a bikini anytime soon
    • I think I have a perfect body for me:)
    • I’d like to change small things about myself

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