Are you the best girlfriend/boyfriend?


“If you need something from somebody always give that person a way to hand it to you.”
Sue Monk Kidd, The Secret Life of Bees

“This is what happened in love. One of you cried a lot and then both of you grew sarcastic.”
Lorrie Moore, Like Life

“Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who’ll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you’re in the wrong house, that’s what it means.”
Henny Youngman A Wild Sheep Chase

“Most everything you think you know about me is nothing more than memories.”
Haruki Murakami, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“When you hold a grudge, you want someone else’s sorrow to reflect your level of hurt but the two rarely meet.”
Steve Maraboli, Dead to the World

“It’s probably a bad indicator of your lifestyle when you miss your ex-boyfriend because he’s absolutely lethal.”
Charlaine Harris, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”
Mandy Hale, It’s Not Summer Without You

“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.”
Jenny Han, Why Things Burn

“When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, “What was it that you wanted and why didn’t you fight for it?”
Shannon L. Alder The Valkyries

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
Brené Brown Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“you can take this mouth
Daphne Gottlieb, You Are Worthless: Depressing Nuggets of Wisdom Sure to Ruin Your Day

“He knew one of the women well, and had shared his universe with her. They had seen the same mountains, and the same trees, although each of them had seem them differently. She knew his weaknesses, his moments of hatred, of despair. Yet she was there at his side. They shared the same universe.”
Paulo Coelho, I’ll Give You the Sun

“The best relationships in our lives are the best not because they have been the happiest ones, they are that way because they have stayed strong through the most tormentful of storms.”
Pandora Poikilos, Where She Went

“Statistically speaking, there is a 65 percent chance that the love of your life is having an affair. Be very suspicious.”
Scott Dikkers, EyeLeash: A Blog Novel

“People die, I think, but your relationship with them doesn’t. It continues and is ever-changing.”
Jandy Nelson, Watermelon

“There are so many things that demand to be said. Where did you go? Do you ever think about me? You’ve ruined me. Are you okay? But of course, I can’t say any of that.”
Gayle Forman, Survivor

“V-Day…if you need this one day in a year to show everyone else you truly care for “your loved one” I think it’s quite stupid. I hate this commercialism. It’s all artificial, and has nothing to do with real love.”
Jess C Scott, Bridget Jones’s Diary

“Failed relationships can be described as so much wasted make-up.”
Marian Keyes, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Six hundred and forty fish later, the only thing I know is everything you love will die. The first time you meet someone special, you can count on them one day being dead and in the ground.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Safe Haven

“A true gentleman is one that apologizes anyways, even though he has not offended a lady intentionally. He is in a class all of his own because he knows the value of a woman’s heart.”
Shannon Alder A Supposedly Fun Thing I’ll Never Do Again: Essays and Arguments

“When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.”
Deepak Chopra The Fault in Our Stars

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How often do you do something thoughtful for your lover?

    • I try to every day, but certainly many times each week
    • 2-3 times per week
    • I think about them all the time, but am very busy
    • They know I love them and that’s what really matters
    • I’m used to others doing more for me in a relationship
  • Question of

    How often do you make the first move – plan your date, suggest an activity for the two of you, or start the text or conversation?

    • I am usually the one taking the lead
    • It is the man’s job to do all this
    • I’m not sure
    • I take lead in some areas, they take lead in others
    • I don’t think it matters
  • Question of

    Do you make your boyfriend/girlfriend feel like the center of the world?

    • I make them feel so special – my partner knows they are IT to me!
    • Yes, as much as possible, given various demands
    • Yes, most of the time
    • I try, but I also have lot of demands in my life
    • Our relationship is not emotional like that
  • Question of

    Do you give your partner gifts, and how special are they?

    • I’m the best gift giver
    • Outstanding, I do great job
    • I’m good at this, but it’s not my best quality
    • I don’t really do this well
    • This is area of weakness, much improvement needed
  • Question of

    If your boyfriend/girlfriend asked you to do something – something that would be inconvenient or hard for you – would you do it for them?

    • Yes, 100% of time, I am there for them in good and bad times
    • Yes, almost all the time
    • Yes, most of time, but not as much as I would for family
    • Some yes, some no
    • Maybe, not sure
  • Question of

    Do you understand your girlfriend/boyfriend? Their hopes, fears, goals, desires, values? Do you feel you really listen to them?

    • 100%
    • Yes, considering how long we have been dating
    • Yes, in most respects
    • Sometimes yes, sometimes no
    • Not really
  • Question of

    Do you ask your partner what you can do for them? Do you ask how to be better boyfriend/girlfriend?

    • All the time! It is focus of mine to be everything they want
    • Yes, I do this often and in many areas of the relationship
    • I believe I do this
    • Sometimes, but should do it more
    • Our relationship is great as it is
  • Question of

    Do you keep your lover satisfied sexually?

    • 100%
    • Almost all the time
    • I try, and think it’s good
    • I’m not sure, I hope so
    • Sex is just small part of relationship
  • Question of

    Would you do anything sexually for your lover? How excited are you about new things? Do you also take initiative to make suggestions?

    • I would do whatever my lover wanted in bed, and like to make my own suggestions
    • Yes, I would try most things and also make suggestions
    • Yes, I would try most things, but am not comfortable making suggestions
    • I am open to some things, but not other things
    • We have fine sex life, don’t need to do new things
  • Question of

    How often do you each want to have sex?

    • We are the same – we both want more sex with each other
    • We want it about the same amount
    • I want it more than he does
    • I want it more than she does
    • We don’t talk about it so not sure
  • Question of

    Do you talk with your partner about things other than your day? How much do you ask them about growing up, previous careers, favorite things, etc? Do you bring up topics (text or talk) that allow deeper discussion?

    • Yes, I do this very often, as I’m very curious about them
    • Yes, I do this sometimes
    • Some, but my partner does more
    • I don’t like to talk about those kind of things too much
    • I’m not sure
  • Question of

    How happy would you estimate that your boyfriend or girlfriend is with your relationship when they are completing this questionnaire?

    • Everything is PERFECT, they could not be any happier
    • They are 100% happy
    • They are very happy
    • They are very happy, but things can always be better
    • I’m not sure

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