Are you with the right partner?

 

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges


Marty McConnell Mythology

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, Eleanor & Park

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens Looking for Alaska

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, New Order

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Start the Quiz”

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    Are you and your partner physically attracted to one another?

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    Do you feel your partner is someone who you will likely find attractive long term?

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    Do you and your partner feel compelled to be physically close to one another?

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    Does your partner like to touch and be close approximately as often as you do?

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    Does your partner meet your expectations regarding personal hygiene?

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    Do you and your partner have basically compatible and/or flexible schedules?

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    Do you feel that your partner’s habits are generally tolerable?

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    Does your partner manage his or her life in a way that is acceptable to your needs and standards?

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    Does your partner live and/or desire to live in the same situation that you desire regarding your house, location and lifestyle?

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    Are you and your partner able to spend enough time together to satisfy both people? And do your goals for the future definitely include spending adequate time with one another?

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    Do you and your partner both want the same things regarding marriage and children?

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    Do you and your partner share the same believes about monogamy?

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    Do you feel that you satisfy and will be able to satisfy your partner’s sexual needs long term?

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    Does your partner satisfy your sexual needs, and do you think they will likely satisfy them long term?

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    Do you and your partner generally like the same things regarding sex?

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    Does your partner respect your boundaries?

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    Are you and your partner both able to assert your needs?

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    Is your partner willing to communicate with you about your needs?

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    Do you feel that you and your partner are usually able to compromise when you disagree?

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    Does your partner respect your opinions and beliefs?

    • True
    • False

Is your boyfriend/girlfriend a good lover to you?

Where do I stand with the guy I am currently dating?