Can you make your relationship last?


“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Man, when you lose your laugh you lose your footing.”
Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest

“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

“I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.”
Martha Gellhorn, Selected Letters

“Maybe its like you said before, all of us being cracked open. Like each of us starts out as a watertight vessel. And then things happen – these people leave us, or don’t love us, or don’t get us, or we don’t get them, and we lose and fail and hurt one another. And the vessel starts to crack in places. And I mean, yeah once the vessel cracks open, the end becomes inevitable. Once it starts to rain inside the Osprey, it will never be remodeled. But there is all this time between when the cracks start to open up and when we finally fall apart. And its only that time that we see one another, because we see out of ourselves through our cracks and into others through theirs. When did we see each other face to face? Not until you saw into my cracks and I saw into yours. Before that we were just looking at ideas of each other, like looking at your window shade, but never seeing inside. But once the vessel cracks, the light can get in. The light can get out.”
John Green, Paper Towns

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are … I just don’t want that responsibility.”
Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility

“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.”
Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”
Mary Manin Morrissey Dairy Queen

“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
Catherine Gilbert Murdock, Venus in Arms

“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner’s love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother’s love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant.”
bell hooks The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
Criss Jami, Between the Tides

“Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”
Fred Rogers, The Fall

“Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.”
Patti Callahan Henry, Along for the Ride

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
David Richo At First Sight

“I used to advertise my loyalty and I don’t believe there is a single person I loved that I didn’t eventually betray.”
Albert Camus, The Intern

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
Shannon L. Alder Poems from the Heart

“Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside”
Sarah Dessen, Waiting for You

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
C. JoyBell C. Remember Me

“Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.”
Nicholas Sparks, The Cocktail Party

“Those sweet lips. My, oh my, I could kiss those lips all night long.
Jess C. Scott, Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love

“I may not always be with you
Marc Wambolt, Straight Up and Dirty

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Do you enjoy just staying in together or do you have to go out where there are other people?

    • Staying in
    • Being alone together gets boring
    • We work best when there are other people around
    • I like staying in, but I invite other people over to make it better
  • Question of

    How good are you at buying each other gifts?

    • I never know what to get him
    • Great
    • I’m good, they always get me the wrong thing
    • He hates everything I get him, so I just stopped
  • Question of

    Are you guys a team?

    • Not really
    • We work terribly together
    • Yup
    • We keep things separate
  • Question of

    Do you discuss financial responsibilities with each other?

    • No, we keep those things separate from the relationship
    • He takes care of everything
    • I take care of everything myself
    • Yes, we work it out together
  • Question of

    Are you mentally compatible?

    • We very much are
    • No
    • He is way more immature than me
    • We only focus on the physical stuff
  • Question of

    When you’re apart how much do you want to speak with him?

    • I welcome the silence
    • Not very often
    • As often as I can
    • I completely forget to contact him when were apart
  • Question of

    Would you consider your partner one of your best friends?

    • Sometimes it feels more like an acquaintance
    • No, I wouldn’t say so
    • Of course!
    • I have too many to count, maybe top 10?
  • Question of

    How often do you want to argue?

    • Every day
    • Everything is an argument with us
    • Rarely, and it usually blows over quickly
    • Never. If it’s a serious issue, I just ignore it
  • Question of

    How many times have you ‘broken up’ over the course of your relationship?

    • Every argument we do
    • Ive lost count
    • More than a few times
    • Never
  • Question of

    Do you hide your relationship on social media?

    • I hide it all
    • No, it’s quite obvious we are in one
    • I like people to think I’m still available
    • I don’t, but he does
  • Question of

    Do you have shows that you watch together?

    • Nope
    • He hates my shows so he does something else
    • Of course
    • I hate his shows so I make him watch mine
  • Question of

    Do you bicker about small things?

    • Yeah
    • Not really
    • Small things become big things for us very quickly
    • All the time
  • Question of

    Do you eat together?

    • Yeah
    • No. We eat separate meals
    • As long as I’m the one cooking
    • Only at restaurants because we don’t like the same food
  • Question of

    Do you enjoy doing nice things for him?

    • I never remember to do anything
    • I try, but he always hates them
    • Yes! I love it
    • No. He does nice things for me though
  • Question of

    What do you do to make the relationship new and exciting?

    • We flirt with other people
    • We don’t think too much about that
    • We spend nights apart to keep it fresh
    • We have a date night

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