Do Guys Like Me? (For The 12- to 14-Year-Old)


“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Man, when you lose your laugh you lose your footing.”
Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest

“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

“I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.”
Martha Gellhorn, Selected Letters

“Maybe its like you said before, all of us being cracked open. Like each of us starts out as a watertight vessel. And then things happen – these people leave us, or don’t love us, or don’t get us, or we don’t get them, and we lose and fail and hurt one another. And the vessel starts to crack in places. And I mean, yeah once the vessel cracks open, the end becomes inevitable. Once it starts to rain inside the Osprey, it will never be remodeled. But there is all this time between when the cracks start to open up and when we finally fall apart. And its only that time that we see one another, because we see out of ourselves through our cracks and into others through theirs. When did we see each other face to face? Not until you saw into my cracks and I saw into yours. Before that we were just looking at ideas of each other, like looking at your window shade, but never seeing inside. But once the vessel cracks, the light can get in. The light can get out.”
John Green, Paper Towns

“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.”
Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are … I just don’t want that responsibility.”
Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”
Mary Manin Morrissey Dairy Queen

“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
Catherine Gilbert Murdock, Venus in Arms

“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner’s love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother’s love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant.”
bell hooks The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
Criss Jami, Between the Tides

“Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”
Fred Rogers, The Fall

“Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.”
Patti Callahan Henry, Along for the Ride

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
David Richo At First Sight

“I used to advertise my loyalty and I don’t believe there is a single person I loved that I didn’t eventually betray.”
Albert Camus, The Intern

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
Shannon L. Alder Poems from the Heart

“Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside”
Sarah Dessen, Waiting for You

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
C. JoyBell C. Remember Me

“Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.”
Nicholas Sparks, The Cocktail Party

“Those sweet lips. My, oh my, I could kiss those lips all night long.
Jess C. Scott, Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love

“I may not always be with you
Marc Wambolt, Straight Up and Dirty

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    About how many guy friends do you have?

    • Tons – and I flirt with them ALL the time!
    • A few. I talk to them a lot, but they’re not really FRIEND friends
    • None. I’m pretty guy-shy
    • I have a group of guys I like to hang out with sometimes
  • Question of

    A hot guy from your English class gives you the eye. You:

    • Give him a friendly smile
    • Quickly look away, but make a point of talking to him later
    • Glance back flirtatiously, and wink
    • Turn red and run the other way!
  • Question of

    Have you ever been to the movies with a guy?

    • I went with a few guys and some of my friends
    • Sure, but only as friends
    • Of course, I’ve been on dates before
    • Never
  • Question of

    True or False: Your friends consider you a big flirt.

    • Totally! I never hear the end of it
    • Not exactly. I prefer guys as friends
    • Not a BIG flirt, but I do hit on guys when I’m in the mood
    • If they said that, they’d be making fun of me. Big time
  • Question of

    You’re doing a group project in history class and wind up with a bunch of guys. How do you deal?

    • I crack jokes with them and goof off
    • I make up an excuse to visit the nurse
    • I casually come up with ideas, make small talk, and flirt a little
    • I start up a conversation with them, and flirt endlessly with the cutest
  • Question of

    You’re into this guy who’s not in any of your classes at school. How do you let him know?

    • I find him in the lunch line and make small talk, but still act flirty
    • I walk up to his locker and start a flirty conversation
    • I don’t. Heck, I’m almost afraid to LOOK at him!
    • You tell a mutual friend you like him, and hope for the best
  • Question of

    You’re crushing MAJORLY on a hot guy. How do you dress?

    • Regular jeans and a hoodie, maybe a pair of cool earrings once in a while
    • I glam up my look a little bit, and take more time doing my hair. I want to spark his interest
    • I dress a little more girly than usual, but I depend more on personality than style to win him over
    • Sweet little skirts, cute tees, and sassy accessories. I want to be noticed, without looking slutty
  • Question of

    You trip on the stairs right in front of your crush! What do you do?

    • Start talking to him like it never happened
    • Pull myself together and RUN!
    • Laugh and say, ‘Whoops!’
    • Laugh nonstop, and ask him to help me up
  • Question of

    You think guy friends are just as important as boyfriends. Yes or no?

    • Who can tell the difference? I don’t have any male friends!
    • Absolutely. Maybe even better!
    • Well, maybe boyfriends are just a LITTLE bit better! But I love my guy friends, too
    • They’re equally important. I couldn’t live without either!
  • Question of

    Boys tend to flirt with you nonstop. Right?

    • I guess. Sometimes, at least
    • Yes, of course!
    • Well, if they’re not one of my best friends, then maybe
    • Um, no, that’s ridiculous

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