Does your ex-boyfriend miss you?


“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

Marty McConnell Mythology

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, Eleanor & Park

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, Looking for Alaska

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens New Order

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

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  • Question of

    Has he told you that he misses you?

    • Yes, all the time/Every chance he gets
    • Yes, but only half-heartedly and rarely
    • Yes/Sometimes, it’s occasional
    • No, not once
    • Only once or twice, it’s very rarely or he’s only hinted it
  • Question of

    How active is his dating life?

    • Non-existent/He won’t see anyone else
    • He says (and seems to mean it) that he likes being single
    • Too active to be normal/Trying too hard to move on
    • Quite active/Becoming involved in real relationships; I’m long forgotten
    • He just started seeing new people/It’s too soon after the break up/I’m not sure what he’s up to
  • Question of

    How does he act around you?

    • He constantly tries to get my attention
    • Basically like he always has, may only show minor differences (only slightly more awkward, no/less romance, etc.)
    • Seemingly wants nothing to do with me, has said or made rude remarks
    • Kind of distant, definitely not like old times. Not rude though
    • He won’t talk to or look at me
  • Question of

    Does he talk about you to other people?

    • Yes, I’m constantly hearing that he’s been mentioning me
    • Sometimes, he seems to bring me up here and there
    • No, I’ve never heard him talk about me since
    • Not necessarily, he doesn’t talk about me unless he has to
    • I’m not sure
  • Question of

    How has he seemingly handled the break up?

    • Not very well, I’ve heard he’s a bit of a wreck
    • He seems great/better than when we were together..
    • I’m not sure, I haven’t seen him much since
    • He seems okay, but not as good as he used to be
    • He seems to be good, not very badly, but I wouldn’t say he’s doing great
  • Question of

    How does/would he react if you started seeing someone else?

    • He would freak/has freaked out or is upset and attempting to interfere
    • He was/would be uncomfortable or unhappy with it, but would unlikely interfere
    • I’m not sure, I never asked/He probably wouldn’t find out
    • He couldn’t care less/Is or would be completely fine with it
    • He would or already has distanced himself from me
  • Question of

    Has he kept any of the things you gave him?

    • I’m not sure, I have no idea
    • I know or think he’s thrown away my things
    • He gave back to me all of the things I gave him
    • He threw away or gave back some things, but he kept others
    • He’s kept most or all of my things
  • Question of

    Does he ever look at/for you?

    • Yes, I’ve caught him many times, or other people have told me that he has
    • Yes, a few times. I’m getting suspicious…
    • Not often, maybe incentive or twice OR he looks uncomfortable when seeing me
    • No, never/He tries to avoid me as much as possible
    • I’m not sure, I don’t pay attention or see him
  • Question of

    Did he ever say, ‘I love you?’

    • No, not once
    • Very few times; it might have been a slip of the tongue; reluctantly, it might have been forced
    • Every now and then, only during the right moments
    • Fairly often/a lot
    • He still says it
  • Question of

    What’s the best you can describe your CURRENT relationship as?

    • Resentful; we can’t stand each other or we don’t talk to each other at all
    • We’re merely acquaintances now/it’s awkward/we’re mostly strangers
    • We’re just friends
    • Friends with benefits/hookup buddies
    • We’re close friends; something might be there again
  • Question of

    Why did you break up?

    • I lose interest/cheated
    • He lost interest/cheated
    • Distance, separated, or other forced break up
    • Fighting or not having enough in common
    • Other mutual break up
  • Question of

    How serious was the relationship?

    • We did nothing really; only holding hands/hugging; kisses were only pecks, if even
    • We’d make out sometimes, maybe some groping, but nothing farther than that
    • We’ve done some sexual things, but none of the ‘big 3’
    • We’ve done at least one of the ‘big 3’ sexual acts
    • We didn’t do much except kissing, but we had a really deep emotional connection
  • Question of

    Do you two still talk?

    • Yes, all the time/We both make an effort
    • Sort of, mainly he makes an effort
    • Sort of, mainly I make an effort
    • Sometimes, but not on a regular basis
    • No/Almost never, neither of us make an effort
  • Question of

    Do you guys ever hang out together?

    • I’ve hardly seen him since the break up; we only hang out if we’re forced to, such as for a school activity or project
    • Sometimes, but only with groups of friends; never alone
    • Sometimes we hang out casually, but we just talk
    • We’ve gone on a couple of possible-dates together
    • We’ve been hooking up
  • Question of

    When you two talk, is it ever flirty or playful?

    • We don’t talk anymore
    • We only small talk; we talk very casually
    • Sometimes it’s playful enough that I wonder if he’s flirting, but I can’t be sure
    • We’re pretty playful with each other; it could be seen as flirting
    • We hardcore flirt; he hardcore hits on me
  • Question of

    Have people been asking if you’re getting back together/dating?

    • People we don’t really know ask if we’re dating
    • Only out of simple curiosity; they have no idea what’s going on with us
    • No, one asks
    • His or my friends joke about us getting back together sometimes
    • His or you friends, or even acquaintances ask if we’re getting back together or dating

Get back with you ex?

Do you hate him or miss him