How Emotionally Secure Are You?



Hey there guys. How was your day? I hope you all are doing well. Today we will be discussing an important topic How emotionally secure are you? Emotional security can be one of the greatest assets of a person. There are many people around us who are not that much emotionally secure. It happens due to the fact that they are either very underconfident or they don’t know much about emotional security.

It has also been seen in the MBTI community that the feeling types are much more emotionally insecure than their thinking counterparts. Now don’t get me wrong I am not saying that every feeling type will be emotionally secure but I would like to say that if a person is emotionally secure then there is a greater chance that they he/she is a feeling type. We need to learn more about emotional security and it is also there that many of the people are unaware of it. If you want to know more about it then you could watch YouTube videos and read blogs to know more about it. Emotional security is also related to maturity of a aperson and maturity is related to age.

As you might know that the pre-frontal cortex, which is responsible for maturity, develops fully at the age of 25. With this comes maturity and emotional security as well. Now one important thing to point out is that it is not necessary that a person greater than 25 years would be mature. Many of them could still behave like they are in kindergarten. Age is definitely a factor but it is not the only one. The sum total of all the factors decides whether a person would be emotionally mature or not. There are many such things which you need to consider if you want to know more about emotional security.I hope you liked my short article.

If you have any insights into the topic then feel free to share it down into the comments section below. Play the quiz as well and don’t forget to share it with your friends and family. I hope to see you in my next article.

“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“People whose eyes shine are happy to be alive.
They see life and it’s glory even when things aren’t easy.
And because they see life, even through all the problems and obstacles, their eyes shine.”
― Jelena Pantic, Journey to the Center of the Heart

“There is within the human heart a quality of intelligence which has been known to surpass that attributed to the human mind.”
― Aberjhani, Splendid Literarium: A Treasury of Stories, Aphorisms, Poems, and Essays

“Just like it is so important to understand the difference in thinking and feeling to increase our Emotional Intelligence, it is important to take the time to understand the difference in emotional feelings and gut feelings to further increase our intelligence and facility of intuition that we call Intuitional Intelligence.”
― Martha Char Love, Increasing Intuitional Intelligence: How the Awareness of Instinctual Gut Feelings Fosters Human Learning, Intuition, and Longevity

“Emotional intelligence does not mean merely “being nice”. At strategic moment it may demand not “being nice”, but rather, for example, bluntly confronting someone with an uncomfortable but consequential truth they’ve been avoiding.”
― Daniel Goleman, Working with Emotional Intelligence

“Poor feeling hijacks thinking for self-deception: to hide harsh truths, avoid action, evade responsibility, and, as the existentialists might put it, flee from freedom. Thus, poor feeling is a kind of moral failing, indeed, the deepest kind, and virtue principally consists in correcting and refining our emotions and the values that they reflect. To feel the right thing is to do the right thing, without any particular need for conscious thought or effort.”
― Neel Burton, Heaven and Hell: The Psychology of the Emotions

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Would you say you get overwhelmed easily?

    • I would say so
    • Not usually
    • Rarely
  • Question of

    Are you an extrovert or introvert?

    • Extrovert
    • Introvert
    • I’m unsure
  • Question of

    On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the highest, how stressed do you normally get every day?

    • 1-3
    • 4-6
    • 7-8
    • 9-10
  • Question of

    How often would you say you get anxious?

    • Very often
    • Pretty often
    • Sometimes
    • Almost never
  • Question of

    How do you usually feel walking into a crowded room?

    • Anxious
    • Nervous
    • Confident
    • Other
  • Question of

    Pick the word that describes you best

    • Shy
    • Hot headed
    • Calm
    • Laid back
  • Question of

    Would you say you get angry easily?

    • Very easily
    • Only if I was in a bad mood to begin with
    • Not at all
    • Somewhat
  • Question of

    How do you feel when presented with too much work?

    • Ready to quit
    • Angry
    • A little annoyed
    • I’m not sure
  • Question of

    When you worry about things, is ever to the point where you can’t focus?

    • Yes
    • No
    • I’m unsure
  • Question of

    Would you say you’re spontaneous?

    • Not at all
    • Somewhat
    • Yes I am
  • Question of

    What do you enjoy to do in your free time?

    • Work out or do something to better myself.
    • Go out on the mall, obviously. (For the clothes, that may or may not be questionable.)
    • Something creative! (Writing, drawing, etc.)
    • Talking or hanging with friends. They’re a riot, honestly! Love ’em to death.
    • Something other than these.
    • Read, listen to music – just alone time in general. People are tiring after awhile.
  • Question of

    You wake up feeling down. Do you:

    • Talk to somebody
    • Stay in bed
    • Do something you enjoy
    • Eat chocolate
  • Question of

    Do you ever have mood swings?

    • Yeah, not a lot though. They’re ranging from strong feelings to moderately-strong.
    • Yes, quite frequently and with intense emotion.
    • Very rarely, but yes, I do. They’re not all that bad either.
    • Mood swings? My emotions are pretty stable, so… No.
  • Question of

    Be honest here. Do you know what an empath is?

    • No. Not at all. Is that bad?
    • Yeah, but… I looked it up just to make sure.
    • Not really… I’ve heard of it, though.
    • Yeah, I knew before I began to take this test.
  • Question of

    Have you ever cried while watching a movie?

    • No. Never have. Never will.
    • It’s happened, but I either can’t remember the last time it did or what movie it was to.
    • Oh, yes, always. ALWAYS. You should see me – I can’t watch anything violent or sad…
    • Not a lot, but it still happens here and there.

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