How in love are you?


“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Man, when you lose your laugh you lose your footing.”
Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest

“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

“I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.”
Martha Gellhorn, Selected Letters

“Maybe its like you said before, all of us being cracked open. Like each of us starts out as a watertight vessel. And then things happen – these people leave us, or don’t love us, or don’t get us, or we don’t get them, and we lose and fail and hurt one another. And the vessel starts to crack in places. And I mean, yeah once the vessel cracks open, the end becomes inevitable. Once it starts to rain inside the Osprey, it will never be remodeled. But there is all this time between when the cracks start to open up and when we finally fall apart. And its only that time that we see one another, because we see out of ourselves through our cracks and into others through theirs. When did we see each other face to face? Not until you saw into my cracks and I saw into yours. Before that we were just looking at ideas of each other, like looking at your window shade, but never seeing inside. But once the vessel cracks, the light can get in. The light can get out.”
John Green, Paper Towns

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are … I just don’t want that responsibility.”
Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility

“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.”
Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”
Mary Manin Morrissey Dairy Queen

“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
Catherine Gilbert Murdock, Venus in Arms

“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner’s love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother’s love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant.”
bell hooks The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
Criss Jami, Between the Tides

“Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”
Fred Rogers, The Fall

“Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.”
Patti Callahan Henry, Along for the Ride

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
David Richo At First Sight

“I used to advertise my loyalty and I don’t believe there is a single person I loved that I didn’t eventually betray.”
Albert Camus, The Intern

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
Shannon L. Alder Poems from the Heart

“Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside”
Sarah Dessen, Waiting for You

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
C. JoyBell C. Remember Me

“Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.”
Nicholas Sparks, The Cocktail Party

“Those sweet lips. My, oh my, I could kiss those lips all night long.
Jess C. Scott, Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love

“I may not always be with you
Marc Wambolt, Straight Up and Dirty

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    When you are with him/her, how do you genuinely feel?

    • Happy and excited.
    • Extremely amazing, as if nothing else in the world matters anymore.
    • I don’t feel anything at all.
    • Good.
    • Kind of good, nothing special though.
  • Question of

    When you are with him/her, you are always finding yourself:

    • Just holding hands.
    • Kissing, holding hands and hugging occasionally.
    • Being extremely affectionate with him/her.
    • Being silent.
    • Talking.
  • Question of

    When you talk to him/her, you talk about:

    • A friend of yours.
    • How much you admire them.
    • How happy you are together, your future, and how much you admire them.
    • Your happiness.
    • Don’t really talk much.
  • Question of

    We have sex when:

    • One of us asks many times.
    • It happens on it’s own, we both want it and it just happens.
    • One of us seduces the other.
    • One of us forces the other.
    • One of us threatens to break up with the other.
  • Question of

    How much does your love interest make you smile?

    • Rarely.
    • Smile? What’s that?
    • All the time, like my cheeks are going to burst!
    • Occasionally.
    • A lot of the time.
  • Question of

    Who makes the most sacrifices in your relationship?

    • I do 100%
    • We both equally make the needed sacrifices.
    • None of us ever do.
    • Not many ever come up, but when they do we make them evenly.
    • He/She does.
  • Question of

    Let’s say he/she were to move far away, how far would you be willing to travel for them just to see them again?

    • 10 minute car ride.
    • A few miles.
    • Across the universe and back!
    • Over seas.
    • I’d break up with them and find someone closer.
  • Question of

    Do you see your life with this person?

    • Not really, that’s too far.
    • Yes it is a possibility.
    • I’ve thought about it a few times.
    • Yes, without a doubt. I need him/her in my life or I will feel dead inside.
    • Ew no!
  • Question of

    What do you love most about him/her?

    • Absolutely everything. There is not a thing I would change.
    • The way he/she makes me feel inside.
    • His/Her personality.
    • Nothing really, I’m just into the sex!
    • His/Her looks.
  • Question of

    If your love interest was about to be killed, you would:

    • Try to save him/her.
    • Sit there and cry.
    • Be sad about it, but then move on.
    • Not care.
    • Take the bullet. I value his/her life over mine any day,
  • Question of

    How long have you known the person?

    • My whole life, it seems.
    • A few weeks
    • A few years
    • A few months
  • Question of

    How often do you think about them?

    • All the time
    • I spend quite a bit of time with them on my mind.
    • I don’t keep track.
    • When I see them
  • Question of

    What is your favorite thing about them?

    • Everything
    • Their body
    • Their sense of humor
    • I don’t know.
  • Question of

    Which of these traits is something you dislike about them?

    • Nothing
    • Their impulsivity
    • Their temper
    • They can be annoying sometimes.
  • Question of

    Which of these words best describes them?

    • Sweet
    • Hot
    • Cute
    • Confident
  • Question of

    What did you do the first time you saw them?

    • I almost died.
    • I was in shock.
    • I stared for a few seconds.
    • I smiled at them.
  • Question of

    What would you do if you heard that they liked you?

    • I would throw a party.
    • I would kiss them.
    • I would ask them out.
    • I don’t know what I would do.
  • Question of

    How does the person make you feel about yourself?

    • Confident
    • Excited
    • Happy
    • Indifferent
  • Question of

    Why aren’t you dating that person?

    • I don’t know.
    • I’m busy.
    • Who said we aren’t dating?
    • I’m into someone else.
  • Question of

    How often do you talk about that person?

    • Too often, I’ve been told.
    • Quite a bit
    • Not that much
    • Not at all

Do you really love them?

How do you know you are in love? (Girls Only)