How Long Will It Last?


“If you need something from somebody always give that person a way to hand it to you.”
Sue Monk Kidd, The Secret Life of Bees

“This is what happened in love. One of you cried a lot and then both of you grew sarcastic.”
Lorrie Moore, Like Life

“Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who’ll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you’re in the wrong house, that’s what it means.”
Henny Youngman A Wild Sheep Chase

“Most everything you think you know about me is nothing more than memories.”
Haruki Murakami, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“When you hold a grudge, you want someone else’s sorrow to reflect your level of hurt but the two rarely meet.”
Steve Maraboli, Dead to the World

“It’s probably a bad indicator of your lifestyle when you miss your ex-boyfriend because he’s absolutely lethal.”
Charlaine Harris, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence.”
Mandy Hale, It’s Not Summer Without You

“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.”
Jenny Han, Why Things Burn

“When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, “What was it that you wanted and why didn’t you fight for it?”
Shannon L. Alder The Valkyries

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
Brené Brown You Are Worthless: Depressing Nuggets of Wisdom Sure to Ruin Your Day

“you can take this mouth
Daphne Gottlieb, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“He knew one of the women well, and had shared his universe with her. They had seen the same mountains, and the same trees, although each of them had seem them differently. She knew his weaknesses, his moments of hatred, of despair. Yet she was there at his side. They shared the same universe.”
Paulo Coelho, I’ll Give You the Sun

“Statistically speaking, there is a 65 percent chance that the love of your life is having an affair. Be very suspicious.”
Scott Dikkers, EyeLeash: A Blog Novel

“The best relationships in our lives are the best not because they have been the happiest ones, they are that way because they have stayed strong through the most tormentful of storms.”
Pandora Poikilos, Where She Went

“People die, I think, but your relationship with them doesn’t. It continues and is ever-changing.”
Jandy Nelson, Watermelon

“V-Day…if you need this one day in a year to show everyone else you truly care for “your loved one” I think it’s quite stupid. I hate this commercialism. It’s all artificial, and has nothing to do with real love.”
Jess C Scott, Survivor

“There are so many things that demand to be said. Where did you go? Do you ever think about me? You’ve ruined me. Are you okay? But of course, I can’t say any of that.”
Gayle Forman, Bridget Jones’s Diary

“Failed relationships can be described as so much wasted make-up.”
Marian Keyes, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Six hundred and forty fish later, the only thing I know is everything you love will die. The first time you meet someone special, you can count on them one day being dead and in the ground.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Safe Haven

“A true gentleman is one that apologizes anyways, even though he has not offended a lady intentionally. He is in a class all of his own because he knows the value of a woman’s heart.”
Shannon Alder A Supposedly Fun Thing I’ll Never Do Again: Essays and Arguments

“When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.”
Deepak Chopra The Fault in Our Stars

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    On your first date…

    • He seemed very polite but also uncertain and reserved
    • You felt right away it was something special- everything was perfect
    • He was a bit of a jerk
    • He talked mostly about himself
  • Question of

    As the date was ending…

    • He invited you back to his place
    • You thanked each other for a good time and he said he would call you
    • He kissed you
    • You discussed when you would see each other next
  • Question of

    He called you __ days after your date

    • He sent a text message
    • 1
    • 3+
    • 2
  • Question of

    Before your second date with him you…

    • Were simply looking forward to seeing him again
    • Created scenarios in your head about how the date might go
    • Got on with your regular routine
    • Prepared; (bought new clothes/ got your hair done/ thought of interesting things to say)
  • Question of

    On your second date…

    • You had a good time, (but it was still nothing truly remarkable)
    • You found yourself wondering: ‘could he be the one?’
    • You had a very good time, (and thought about him constantly afterwards)
    • Being with him was wonderful- you knew this was the beginning of a long-term relationship
  • Question of

    How long after you met did you have sex?

    • Less than 1 week
    • 2 months (between 8-16 dates)
    • Less than 1 month
    • We are both waiting for marriage
  • Question of

    Who was first to say: ‘I love you’?

    • Neither of us; we haven’t been dating long enough
    • Only one of us has said it so far
    • I said it first
    • He said it first
  • Question of

    How much time do you spend together?

    • As much as we can- most of our free time is spent together
    • We live together
    • Some, but not enough
    • Not a lot- we are both really busy with work/ school/ friends/ etc.
  • Question of

    If you could pick one word to describe him it would be…

    • Unpredictable
    • Dependable
    • Loving
    • Independent
  • Question of

    Where do you see the relationship 5 years from now?

    • Living together
    • Married
    • Pretty much the same as now; I never think that far ahead
    • Engaged
  • Question of

    Do your friends and family think he is ‘the one’?

    • Yes- they ask all the time when we are getting married
    • My family does
    • No- they all think he’s wrong for me
    • My friends do
  • Question of

    Do you think he is ‘the one’?

    • Probably not
    • Yes
    • Maybe
    • I’m 90% sure

How long will you last together?

How Long Will Your Relationship Last?