How Vulnerable Are You?

 

 

The word vulnerability could have several different meanings but the one which is closely tied to a human’s self-image is emotional vulnerability. Emotional vulnerability is also defined differently by different psychologists and scientists but the point is that it is mostly experienced when you have felt the anxiety of being shamed or rejected. Most of the definitions agree on this point at least.

The biggest problem for those who are emotionally vulnerable is the fact that you cannot tell them with the assurance that they would not be shamed or rejected in any particular situation. You could, however, tell them that without risk success has no joy.

It is the reality of life that you would face failures as you take on those risks but it is simply not possible that you will fail always. It is no rocket science that with each failure you face in a particular situation the chances of your success increases. Now that increase in chance will only happen if you try to learn from your failures and take a step in the right direction.

There may be caveats to this theory but the point is that if you are always afraid of taking risks then you will never be able to achieve your true potential. Failures are painful but avoiding it will take you nowhere. I do get the fact that there are hyper-sensitive people who are more prone to anxiety than normal people and in if that is the case they need to take medical help.

I am talking about normal people here. We need to accept the fact that we all are emotionally vulnerable to some degree but we need to work on it.

It is also true that emotional vulnerability is experienced differently by the two genders. Women feel that they always need to do things perfectly and never let anyone see them sweat. Men on the other hand feel that they should not be perceived as weak. The two genders need to be tackled differently but it is proven that this happens.

Play the quiz to know how vulnerable are you.

“Trust means that they will never throw our pain and vulnerabilities in our face. Trust means we know they will protect us and our innermost thoughts and shared feelings without question.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“your imperfections are beautiful. when you open up and tell me about your emotions. when you tell me about your thoughts. your feelings that are only yours. when you show me your vulnerabilities. when you share your insecurities. your desires that are only yours. your eyes light up when you tell me about your dreams. you become more charming, when you show me your flaws. your impefections are beautiful.”
― Avijeet Das

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
― Brene Brown

“It does good to no woman to be flattered [by a man] who does not intend to marry her; and it is madness in all women to let a secret love kindle within them, which, if unreturned and unknown, must devour the life that feeds it; and, if discovered and responded to, must lead, ignis-fatuus-like, into miry wilds whence there is no extrication.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“I only share when I have no unmet needs that I’m trying to fill. I firmly believe that being vulnerable with a larger audience is only a good idea if the healing is tied to the sharing, not to the expectations I might have for the response I get.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Would you rather take a weekend vacation at the beach or in the mountains?

    • Beach
    • Mountains
  • Question of

    Tea or coffee?

    • Tea
    • Coffee
    • Neither/No Preference
  • Question of

    How often do you check your cell phone (without it ringing or buzzing first) during working hours?

    • Not at all
    • Only during breaks
    • 1-3 times an hour
    • 4-6 times an hour
    • 7 or more times an hour
  • Question of

    Which of the following sounds like the perfect way to warm yourself up on a cold winter day?

    • Drink a hot drink or eat some soup
    • Cuddle up with a loved one
    • Take a hot bath
  • Question of

    When was the last time you cried?

    • Less than a month ago
    • 1-4 months ago
    • 5-12 months ago
    • More than a year ago
  • Question of

    Are you more extroverted or introverted?

    • Extroverted
    • Introverted
  • Question of

    Do you believe in true love?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    When you’re angry, how do you calm yourself down?

    • Punch something or scream
    • Complain to a friend about whatever is making me angry
    • Go for a run or do some kind of physical activity
    • Take deep breaths or count to ten
  • Question of

    Which of the following is your favorite movie genre?

    • Romance
    • Comedy
    • Drama/Suspense
    • Horror
  • Question of

    On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the most, how much of a hopeless romantic are you?

    • 1-5
    • 6-8
    • 9-10
  • Question of

    Do you like being lonely?

    • True
    • False
    • Sometimes
    • Hardly
  • Question of

    Do you have Relationship issues?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Sometimes
    • Never
  • Question of

    Do you love your partner?

    • True
    • False
    • Sometimes
    • Hardly
  • Question of

    Do you usually get disappointed?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Sometimes
    • Hardly
  • Question of

    Are you afraid of years to come?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Sometimes
    • Hardly

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