Shaif Ahmad
- Successful repair attempts
Things get difficult because no one is perfect in a relationship. You might end up getting on each other’s nerves and might not realize when you are being clingy or taking their space away. But in all honesty things do get difficult no matter how hard you try for them to no, but the only option you have is to give your best in making them better. It is necessary to repair the damage that has been done instead of leaving it. Such repair attempts usually start with an apology and a conversation and then leading to a gesture of love that you do in order to make up for the time the mess took away.
- Remaining psychologically calm during conflict
It is understandable and expected for you to loose you cool when in conflict however it is best advised to I’ve your best to avoid that from happening. Make it a habit to not say anything harsh no matter how difficult things get.stopping the negativity in the tracks can help you avoid a breakdown or meltdown which is bound to make things worse.
“It hurts to let go. Sometimes it seems the harder you try to hold on to something or someone the more it wants to get away. You feel like some kind of criminal for having felt, for having wanted. For having wanted to be wanted. It confuses you, because you think that your feelings were wrong and it makes you feel so small because it’s so hard to keep it inside when you let it out and it doesn’t coma back. You’re left so alone that you can’t explain. Damn, there’s nothing like that, is there? I’ve been there and you have too. You’re nodding your head.”
― The Portable Henry Rollins
“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: it’s got to be the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.”
― Daily Afflictions: The Agony of Being Connected to Everything in the Universe
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- Question of
How do you feel when you see your crush or significant other?
- Overjoyed, like fireworks in the sky.
- Energized
- Content
- Indifferent
- Question of
Do you share similar interests or hobbies with your crush?
- Absolutely
- I have to get to know them better first.
- We have a few things in common.
- No, we don’t really have anything in common.
- Question of
Whose happiness matters more to you: yours or theirs?
- Their happiness means more to me.
- Both!
- My happiness will always come first.
- Happiness is overrated.
- Question of
How long have you known the person you feel attracted to?
- Way too long
- A few years
- A few months
- A few weeks
- Question of
Would you be willing to talk to your crush on the phone at 2 a.m.?
- Yes, without a doubt
- Only if I was still awake
- Only if it was an emergency
- No, I need to sleep!
- Question of
Are you always trying to impress your crush with random gifts and surprises?
- You read my mind.
- Occasionally
- Only during holidays
- Nope, that’s a waste of time.
- Question of
What do you admire the most about your crush?
- Their personality
- Their humor
- Their intellect
- Their good looks
- Question of
Have you accepted your crush for who they really are, which may include some of their flaws?
- Of course, I love them just the way they are!
- I’d like to think so.
- I’m not sure yet.
- No, they should change some of their bad habits first.
- Question of
True or false: You’re completely comfortable with expressing your emotions around your crush.
- True
- Somewhat true
- I’m not quite there yet.
- False
- Question of
Do you find yourself judging your crush for some of their odd quirks?
- No, never!
- Only if they’re being super weird
- Occasionally
- Yes, I think they’re a little weird sometimes.
- Question of
Be honest here: Do you ever get sick of talking to your crush?
- No, why would I?
- Only if we’ve been talking for many hours in a single day
- Only if I’m not getting enough space
- Yes, quite often actually.
- Question of
When your crush gets mad about something, do you secretly find this to be adorable?
- Yes, very much so
- A little bit
- It depends on how mad they are.
- No, it’s kind of scary actually.
- Question of
During a conversation with your crush, do you prefer to listen or talk to them?
- Listen
- Both
- It depends on the type of conversation.
- Talk
- Question of
How often do you tend to daydream about your crush?
- Almost every day
- A few times a week
- Once in a while
- Never
- Question of
Do you find that certain types of scents remind you of your crush?
- Yes, there are many scents that remind me of my crush.
- Yes, but I can’t remember what they are.
- Only one or two scents
- What scents?
