Is He Using You?


“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Man, when you lose your laugh you lose your footing.”
Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest

“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

“I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.”
Martha Gellhorn, Selected Letters

“Maybe its like you said before, all of us being cracked open. Like each of us starts out as a watertight vessel. And then things happen – these people leave us, or don’t love us, or don’t get us, or we don’t get them, and we lose and fail and hurt one another. And the vessel starts to crack in places. And I mean, yeah once the vessel cracks open, the end becomes inevitable. Once it starts to rain inside the Osprey, it will never be remodeled. But there is all this time between when the cracks start to open up and when we finally fall apart. And its only that time that we see one another, because we see out of ourselves through our cracks and into others through theirs. When did we see each other face to face? Not until you saw into my cracks and I saw into yours. Before that we were just looking at ideas of each other, like looking at your window shade, but never seeing inside. But once the vessel cracks, the light can get in. The light can get out.”
John Green, Paper Towns

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are … I just don’t want that responsibility.”
Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility

“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.”
Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”
Mary Manin Morrissey Dairy Queen

“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
Catherine Gilbert Murdock, Venus in Arms

“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner’s love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother’s love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant.”
bell hooks The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
Criss Jami, Between the Tides

“Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”
Fred Rogers, The Fall

“Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.”
Patti Callahan Henry, Along for the Ride

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
David Richo At First Sight

“I used to advertise my loyalty and I don’t believe there is a single person I loved that I didn’t eventually betray.”
Albert Camus, The Intern

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
Shannon L. Alder Poems from the Heart

“Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside”
Sarah Dessen, Waiting for You

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
C. JoyBell C. Remember Me

“Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.”
Nicholas Sparks, The Cocktail Party

“Those sweet lips. My, oh my, I could kiss those lips all night long.
Jess C. Scott, Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love

“I may not always be with you
Marc Wambolt, Straight Up and Dirty

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Which is your favorite cartoon character?

    • Barbie!
    • What is a cartoon
    • Ummmmmm
    • Spongebob…duh
  • Question of

    Have you ever meet strange women?

    • Once in a while
    • Why does it matter?
    • They are friendly to me
  • Question of

    Has your significant other ever made mysterious excuses?

    • Is that what that meeting was about last week?
    • That one time he did
    • Every once in a while
    • Everyday
  • Question of

    Is this quiz boring so far?

    • Absolutely…not
    • No comment
    • Eh not really
    • Best test EVER
  • Question of

    Have you seen him with another girl?

    • At the movies once
    • I yelled at him when I caught
    • Once in a while
    • He would never do something like that!
  • Question of

    Have you ever thought about dumping or getting rid of him?

    • ….
    • That one time
    • Every time I see him
  • Question of

    Do you bring up other women in the conversation or does he?

    • Why would we talk about other people we only like ourselves
    • No comment
    • Me all the time
    • Him always him
  • Question of

    Does he love you?

    • I am not for sure
    • ………
    • No comment
  • Question of

    Has he brought up break up/divorce?

    • Every once in a while
    • When he’s on his period
  • Question of

    Will the relationship last forever?

    • EH
    • ……
    • Not sure
  • Question of

    Is he affectionate in public?

    • All the time
    • Kind of
    • Never
    • Not so much
  • Question of

    Has he met your family?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Very quickly
    • He is not interested
  • Question of

    Does he always called you earlier and now you are the one who has to call him regularly?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Very true
    • Absolutely not
  • Question of

    Has he introduced you to his family?

    • Lots of times
    • Once or twice
    • Not yet
    • He never mentions about it
  • Question of

    Does he make excuses to get to you alone?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Yes, but only physically
    • Yes, but only mentally
  • Question of

    Is he always there to speak to when you are in a  problem?

    • Definitely
    • Not really
    • He is not interested
    • Of course
  • Question of

    Does he always find an excuse to have sex with you but avoid talking about marriage?

    • Absolutely
    • So true
    • Not at all
    • We are getting married soon
  • Question of

    Does he have a reputation for chasing girls or indulging in short term relationships?

    • Yes, he does
    • No, he does not
    • He had only a single serious relationship in the past
    • He had five relationships before this one

What type of guy is your crush?

Does he have the hots for you?