Is your relationship going downhill?


“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges

Marty McConnell Mythology

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, Eleanor & Park

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, Looking for Alaska

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens New Order

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How does she act around you?

    • We don’t see each other
    • I don’t know
    • She acts different
    • She acts like she has always acted
  • Question of

    Do you have a feeling that she is cheating on you?

    • No way! She would never do that!
    • I KNOW she is!
    • I think so….
    • A very big feeling, yes
    • A small feeling, but I don’t think she is
  • Question of

    Who starts the conservations first?

    • It’s about 50-50
    • We don’t talk
    • It used to be her, now it’s always me
    • She always does
  • Question of

    Does she trust you as much as she did before?

    • Of course she trusts me!
    • I really don’t think she does….
    • She says she trusts me but I don’t know
    • No way!
  • Question of

    How often do y’all get in arguments?

    • Sometimes we do
    • We get into a lot of arguments
    • Never
    • We get in arguments everyday
  • Question of

    How nice is she to you?

    • She can be mean at times
    • Very nice
    • Very mean and always mad
    • More mean than nice
  • Question of

    Do you think she loves you?

    • No
    • I doubt it
    • Duh! Of course she loves me!
    • Not as much as before
  • Question of

    How often do y’all hang out?

    • We don’t see each other at all…
    • So much it’s almost like she lives at my house!
    • Almost everyday
    • Barely
    • Not very often
  • Question of

    Who would she rather hang out with?

    • Me, duh!
    • Her family than with me
    • Nobody
    • Her girlfriends than with me
  • Question of

    Does she care more about her looks?

    • Sometimes
    • Uhh YEAH!
    • Quite a lot
    • Not at all
  • Question of

    How many times have you broke up and got back together?

    • Over 10 times
    • Once or twice
    • Quite a lot
    • We have never broken up
  • Question of

    Last question: Do you think the relationship is coming to an end?

    • It might be…
    • Very possible
    • No way! We are together forever!
    • Yes, totally
    • Not anytime soon

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