Is Your Significant Other Really Your Soulmate?


“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

“I was suffering the easily foreseeable consequences. Addiction is the hallmark of every infatuation-based love story. It all begins when the object of your adoration bestows upon you a heady, hallucinogenic dose of something you never dared to admit you wanted-an emotional speedball, perhaps, of thunderous love and roiling excitement. Soon you start craving that intense attention, with a hungry obsession of any junkie. When the drug is witheld, you promptly turn sick, crazy, and depleted (not to mention resentful of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place but now refuses to pony up the good stuff anymore– despite the fact that you know he has it hidden somewhere, goddamn it, because he used to give it to you for free). Next stage finds you skinny and shaking in a corner, certain only that you would sell your soul or rob your neighbors just to have ‘that thing’ even one more time. Meanwhile, the object of your adoration has now become repulsed by you. He looks at you like you’re someone he’s never met before, much less someone he once loved with high passion. The irony is,you can hardly blame him. I mean, check yourself out. You’re a pathetic mess,unrecognizable even to your own eyes. So that’s it. You have now reached infatuation’s final destination– the complete and merciless devaluation of self.” – pg 20-21”
Elizabeth Gilbert Sputnik Sweetheart

“Of course it hurt that we could never love each other in a physical way. We would have been far more happy if we had. But that was like the tides, the change of seasons–something immutable, an immovable destiny we could never alter. No matter how cleverly we might shelter it, our delicate friendship wasn’t going to last forever. We were bound to reach a dead end. That was painfully clear.”
Haruki Murakami, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

“I think you are wrong to want a heart. It makes most people unhappy. If you only knew it, you are in luck not to have a heart.”
L. Frank Baum, The Wise Man’s Fear

“nothing in this world was more difficult than love.”
Gabriel García Márquez The Goddess Test

“Books are a poor substitute for female companionship, but they are easier to find.”
Patrick Rothfuss, I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence

“I care,” he said in a trembling voice. “I care so much that I do not know how to tell you without it seeming inconsequential compared to how I feel. Even if I am distant at times and seem as if I do not want to be with you, it is only because this scares me, too.”
Aimee Carter, The Indigo Spell

“Don’t leave a piece of jewelry at his house so you can go back and get it later; he may be with his real girlfriend.”
Amy Sedaris, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

“Because I can’t help doing it,” he said with a shrug. “And hey, if I keep loving you, maybe you’ll eventually crack and love me too. Hell, I’m pretty sure you’re already half in love with me.”
Richelle Mead, Rules of Attraction

“All I’m telling you to do is to be smart about it. Know that if this man isn’t looking for a serious relationship, you’re not going to change his mind just because you two are going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord’s green earth-you’re capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you’re independent (which means, to him, that you’re not going to be in his pockets)-but if he’s not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish.”
Steve Harvey, Emma

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
Shannon L. Alder Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“We kiss all the time.” I clear my throat, then add, “We just…do it in private.”
Simone Elkeles, I Wrote This For You

“Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure; seldom can it happen that something is not a little disguised or a little mistaken.”
Jane Austen, Max

“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.”
Steve Maraboli, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“You’re just another story I can’t tell anymore.”
pleasefindthis, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“He could totally be your boyfriend,” [Angel] went on with annoying persistance. “You guys could get married. I could be like a junior bridesmaid. Total could be your flower dog.”
James Patterson, Breaking Bread: Insurgent Black Intellectual Life

“Moving on is easy. It’s staying moved on that’s trickier.”
Katerina Stoykova Klemer The English Patient

“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.”
Mandy Hale, Letters to a Young Poet

“A fit, healthy body—that is the best fashion statement”
Jess C Scott Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.”
Steve Maraboli, Wicked Lovely

“There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.”
Shannon L. Alder All About Love: New Visions

“We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.”
Cornel West, Warbreaker

“We die containing a richness of lovers and tribes, tastes we have swallowed, bodies we have plunged into and swum up as if rivers of wisdom, characters we have climbed into as if trees, fears we have hidden in as if caves.
Michael Ondaatje, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“only someone who is ready for everything, who doesn’t exclude any experience, even the most incomprehensible, will live the relationship with another person as something alive and will himself sound the depths of his own being.”
Rainer Maria Rilke, Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How many times do you see him/her a day?

    • I never met them……In person, at least.
    • Every minute we can find!
    • Like, five times a day?
    • Once or twice a day maybe……
  • Question of

    Be honest. Have you two ever…..kissed?

    • Not yet, but soon. I know it!
    • Never.
    • Yeah! And it was amazing.
    • We’re taking our time.
  • Question of

    Where was your first date?

    • We had a picnic.
    • A classy restaurant.
    • First date? Ha! Your hilarious.
    • Somewhere else.
  • Question of

    Have they ever told you that they loved you?

    • LOVE?
    • Not yet. They are ‘taking their time’. I respect that.
    • Yes!
    • Not yet.
  • Question of

    Does he/she spoil you? If not, it’s okay. If they do, that’s good too. 😉

    • Uh………………
    • He/she has a few times when I least expected it.
    • Only on holidays and special occasions.
    • Yes! He/she is always thinking of me.
  • Question of

    Has he/she introduced you to their family?

    • Yeah, but I don’t go over there often.
    • Yes. I am basically apart of their family.
    • No, not yet.
    • Wait….that’s a thing?
  • Question of

    Do you think that you two are going to last long?

    • I think so. Maybe.
    • No.
    • Yeah. I can see me and him/her together in the far future,
    • I don’t know…there are other fish in the sea, right?
  • Question of

    Has he/she ever mentally or physically hurt you? BE HONEST!

    • Both. Just….both.
    • He/she may swear at me during an argument.
    • NEVER! He/she isn’t like that!
    • Sometimes.
  • Question of

    Do you have a feeling that he/she would or is cheat/cheating on you?

    • He/she probably has the tiniest crush on someone else?
    • I mean, I hope not!
    • Most likely.
    • No. He likes me and only me. That is a fact. Period. The end.
  • Question of

    If you could tell him/her one thing right now, what would it be? And relax, this is the last question.

    • ‘Want to hear a joke? Our relationship!’
    • ‘Will you marry me?’
    • ‘I love you more than you know.’
    • ‘Your cooking tonight, right?’
  • Question of

    What trait is most important to you in a soulmate?

    • I need someone fun.
    • I think honesty is important.
    • I think communication is important.
    • I think openness is invaluable.
  • Question of

    Where would you like to go on vacation with a soulmate?

    • I would love to visit the Australian outback.
    • I would like to visit Napa Valley.
    • I would like to visit Ireland.
    • I think I would like to see Europe.
  • Question of

    What gift would you bring on a first date?

    • I would bring flowers.
    • I would bring a book.
    • I would bring chocolates.
    • I would bring jewelry.
  • Question of

    Have you met your soulmate?

    • I’m not sure.
    • No, I don’t think I have.
    • I think so, but who knows?
    • Yes, we are very happy!
  • Question of

    What is your current relationship status?

    • Single.
    • Married.
    • Engaged.
    • It’s complicated.
  • Question of

    Which romantic movie would you want to watch with your soulmate?

    • ‘Pretty Woman.’
    • ‘Eat Pray Love.’
    • ‘Titanic.’
    • ‘Sleepless in Seattle.’
  • Question of

    Which name would you choose for a new family pet?

    • Sammy.
    • Angel.
    • Marley.
    • Crinkles.
  • Question of

    If you were to marry your soulmate, what wedding theme would you choose?

    • I like the beach theme.
    • I like a princess theme.
    • I like rustic themes.
    • I would love an 80s themed wedding.
  • Question of

    Which kind of flowers would you like to get from your soulmate?

    • I like poppies.
    • I love roses.
    • I love daisies.
    • Any flower will do for me!
  • Question of

    What kind of music should your soulmate like?

    • My soulmate should love metal.
    • My soulmate should love dance music.
    • My soulmate will need to know country.
    • They can like any music they want.
  • Question of

    Do you hope to have children with your soulmate?

    • No, I have enough children.
    • It depends on our careers.
    • I can’t wait to start a family.
    • We will have a great blended family.
  • Question of

    Which celebrity do you hope your soulmate resembles?

    • I hope my soulmate looks like Jennifer Aniston.
    • I hope my soulmate looks like Jared Leto.
    • I hope my soulmate looks like Johnny Depp.
    • I hope my soulmate looks like Katy Perry.
  • Question of

    What meal would you cook for your soulmate on a first date?

    • I would make poached salmon.
    • We would order Indian.
    • I would make pot roast.
    • I would make steak.
  • Question of

    Which drink must your soulmate know how to make?

    • Margaritas would be a bonus!
    • They must know how I take my coffee.
    • They must know how to make tea.
    • The must know how to make eggnog.
  • Question of

    What type of vacation would you take with your soulmate?

    • We might go on a mountain climbing adventure.
    • We would go to the spa.
    • We would take a cruise.
    • Would we go for a couple’s retreat.
  • Question of

    What would you do to keep your soulmate healthy?

    • I would make healthy meals.
    • I would make sure they don’t have too much stress.
    • I would nag them to drink water.
    • We would work out together.
  • Question of

    What is the best reason you have for wanting to meet a soulmate?

    • I need companionship.
    • I need love.
    • I need to give love.
    • I need partnership.
  • Question of

    What board game would you like a soulmate to play with you?

    • I’m great at Scrabble.
    • I love the game Life.
    • I’m a fan of Candyland.
    • I love playing Chess.
  • Question of

    Which word do you find most romantic?

    • Betwixt.
    • Smitten.
    • Cherish.
    • Adore.
  • Question of

    How would you sign a love letter to your soulmate?

    • Forever Yours.
    • Sincerely.
    • All My Love.
    • I Love You.

Have you found your soulmate?

Crush or soulmate?