Is your spouse in love with you now, or the you then?


“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

Marty McConnell Mythology

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, Eleanor & Park

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, Looking for Alaska

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens New Order

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    What have you learned from your spouse?

    • How to love
    • Hate and Cruelty
    • Love and Tenderness
  • Question of

    Have you ever done the following?

    • Physically abuse your spouse?
    • Emotionally Control Your Spouse?
    • Had an affair?
  • Question of

    Do you have kids with someone else and how do they feel about your spouse?

    • They go by what I have told them which is not good not bad
    • The kids have had a problem with her
    • They absolutely love him/her
  • Question of

    Do you feel that your spouse is having an affair?

    • Maybe
    • No
    • Yes
  • Question of

    What do you find most about your spouse that you admire on the inside?

    • Nothing at all
    • Caring, always helps people
    • Honest and loyal
  • Question of

    How do you think your spouse would respond to a flirty situation?

    • Walk away and tell me when he/she comes home
    • Cuss them out
    • Flirt Back
  • Question of

    Do you think that your spouse wants a divorce?

    • Yes
    • Papers filed already
    • No
  • Question of

    What don’t you like that you do?

    • Take everyone’s side over partners
    • Accuse partner of things you know he/she isn’t doing
    • Not a good listener or friend
    • Nothing at all
    • Can’t admit you are wrong
  • Question of

    Do you think your marriage is worth saving?

    • Partner doesn’t want to save our marriage
    • My mind is already made up
    • I want to save our marriage
    • My spouses mind is already made up
    • Partner wants to save marriage
  • Question of

    What would you do if you lived every day like it was your last?

    • Love my spouse much more
    • Hug and Kiss
    • Be loyal honest faithful and committed
    • Continue your same behaviors

Should you marry your current partner?

Is He Going To Marry Me?