Should I Ask HIM Out?


“…the opposite of love is not hate — it’s apathy. It’s not giving a damn. If somebody hates me, they must “feel” something … or they couldn’t possibly hate. Therefore, there’s some way in which I can get to them.”
Leo F. Buscaglia

“No matter how close we are to another person, few human relationships are as free from strife, disagreement, and frustration as is the relationship you have with a good dog. Few human beings give of themselves to another as a dog gives of itself. I also suspect that we cherish dogs because their unblemished souls make us wish – consciously or unconsciously – that we were as innocent as they are, and make us yearn for a place where innocence is universal and where the meanness, the betrayals, and the cruelties of this world are unknown.”
Dean Koontz,

“This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience – it looks for a way of being constructive.
Elisabeth Elliot,

“If a man can possess a woman sexually -really possess- he won’t need to control her ideas, her opinions, her clothes, her friends, even her other lovers.”
Toni Bentley

“I don’t understand dating.. and the other things that people do.. all I know is that you ought to find the one you recognize. The one who gives you four arms, four legs, four eyes, and has the other half of your heart. There’s only one of those, so what are all the other things for? Like dating?”
C. JoyBell C.

“Caring about someone isn’t complicated. It isn’t easy. But it isn’t complicated, either. Kinda like lifting the engine block out of a car.”
Jim Butcher,

“But in the real world, you couldnt really just split a family down the middle, mom on one side, dad the other, with the child equally divided between. It was like when you ripped a piece of paper into two: no matter how you tried, the seams never fit exactly right again. It was what you couldn’t see, those tiniest of pieces, that were lost in the severing, and their absence kept everything from being complete.”
Sarah Dessen,

“I hope we’ll be friends forever, together we’ll always be. I don’t think you understand just how much you mean to me. And one day when we part our ways, we’ll think back to the past and think about how happy we are ’cause our friendship will always last.”
Bridget Davis

“When forever becomes a place…when forever ceases to be just a word… when it ceases to be just a measurement of time…but instead becomes a place where soul mates can dance to the song in their hearts… that is a reflection of true love.”
Steve Maraboli,

“Death is the easy part, the hard part is living and knowing you could be so much more then you’re willing to be.”
robert m drake

“Your absence has not taught me to be alone, it merely has shown that when together we cast a single shadow on the wall.”
Doug Fetherling

“Often men who have been emotionally neglected and abused as children by dominating mothers bond with assertive women, only to have their childhood feelings of being engulfed surface. While they could not ‘smash their mommy’ and still receive love, they find that they can engage in intimate violence with partners who respond to their acting out by trying harder to connect with them emotionally, hoping that the love offered in the present will heal the wounds of the past. If only one party in the relationship is working to create love, to create the space of emotional connection, the dominator model remains in place and the relationship just becomes a site for continuous power struggle.”
bell hooks

“Falling in love in a Christian way is to say,’I am excited about your future and I want to be part of getting you there. I’m signing up for the journey with you. Would you sign up for the journey to my true self with me? It’s going to be hard but I want to get there.”
Timothy Keller

“Husbands are chiefly good as lovers when they are betraying their wives.”
Marilyn Monroe

“We met each other when we were young, before we knew enough about disappointment, and once we did we found we reminded each other of it.”
Nicole Krauss,

“..he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he’s just not that into you.”
Greg Behrendt,

“I didn’t know someone could love me like this,” she said. “Could love me and love me and love me without…needing space.”
Rainbow Rowell,

“But whenever I meet dynamic, nonretarded Americans, I notice that they all seem to share a single unifying characteristic: the inability to experience the kind of mind-blowing, transcendent romantic relationship they perceive to be a normal part of living. And someone needs to take the fall for this. So instead of blaming no one for this (which is kind of cowardly) or blaming everyone (which is kind of meaningless), I’m going to blame John Cusack.”
Chuck Klosterman,

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    When you talk to him, does he hold your gaze?

    • Never. He doesn’t seem to care
    • Sometimes. He usually keeps looking at me when I talk, but he doesn’t stare at me
    • He looks at me, but not always into my eyes
    • Kind of. He looks away often, though
  • Question of

    Has he ever told you he likes you?

    • Kind of. He flirts with me a lot, so I think he likes me
    • Maybe – he sort of skirted around the subject
    • No, but I like him
    • No, he doesn’t even know my name
  • Question of

    Do YOU think he’s Mr. Right?

    • Yeah. I like him, and he sort of likes me, too, I think
    • How could he? He doesn’t know me
    • Sometimes. He’s perfect…sometimes
    • I’m not sure – we don’t often talk
  • Question of

    Do you enjoy spending time with him?

    • Yes. He’s funny when we go places together
    • He’s too busy to go somewhere alone with me
    • We only talk at school
    • Does the phone count as ‘spending time’?
  • Question of

    What do you like best about him?

    • His personality
    • His friends (they’re all so hot!)
    • His body
    • His $
  • Question of

    Are you two friends?

    • Not best friends, but we hang out together a lot
    • No, he never talks to me
    • Not even close
    • His friends are my friends
  • Question of

    Has he hinted he wants to go out with you?

    • No, I’ve only known him for a little while
    • Maybe
    • Who wouldn’t?
    • I think so – he kind of flirts with me
  • Question of

    Does he seem to find you attractive?

    • Everyone does
    • I don’t know. He compliments me often, though
    • I don’t think so
    • Maybe
  • Question of

    If he asked you out right this second, would you say yes?

    • I don’t know, I’d have to think about it
    • Yeah, if he’d buy me whatever I wanted
    • Of course!
    • No, I don’t know him very well
  • Question of

    Say he was a millionaire. How would you feel about him if he suddenly lost all his money?

    • Depends on how he lost the money
    • Who needs him?
    • Bummer. But I’d still like him
  • Question of

    Do his friends ever tell you he likes you?

    • No, I don’t know his friends
    • Yeah, sometimes
    • Oh! That’s what they were saying?
    • They might have hinted….
  • Question of

    Last one. Would you be afraid to ask him out?

    • Why, what have you heard?
    • No – I’ve asked guys out so many times
    • A little nervous
    • Whatever!
  • Question of

    What’s your ideal first date?

    • Coffee or some other setting where we can get to know one another.
    • Something special that they planned with me in mind.
    • Hot air balloons. And concerts. Maybe a road trip.
    • Classic dinner and a movie are fine.
  • Question of

    What would you say is your best quality?

    • I’m a great relationship-builder.
    • I care deeply about others.
    • I’m excited about life.
    • I’m logical and great at planning.
  • Question of

    Which trait is most important to you in a partner?

    • Willingness to put in effort
    • Thoughtfulness
    • A sense of adventure
    • Rational decision-making
  • Question of

    It’s time to meet your partner’s family for the first time. How are you feeling?

    • I’m nervous; it’s important to me that we have a good relationship.
    • I’m okay; I’d do anything for my partner.
    • I’m good! I love meeting new people.
    • I’m okay. We’ve been planning this for a while so I could brace myself.
  • Question of

    Which physical aspect is most attractive to you in a partner?

    • Arms
    • Eyes
    • Smile
    • Shoulders
  • Question of

    How do you want to spend your first anniversary with your partner?

    • Going back and repeating our first date
    • It doesn’t matter, as long as they’ve planned something thoughtful.
    • On a new, crazy adventure!
    • A quiet, classic celebration together is fine.
  • Question of

    How do you feel about marriage?

    • Great, as long as we have a great connection.
    • Good, as long as the people in our lives approve.
    • It depends on the day.
    • If we’d been together for a long time and weighed our options, I’d be open to it.
  • Question of

    Your partner brings home a small surprise at the end of the day; you love it. What’s the surprise?

    • Flowers
    • Wine
    • A dog
    • Chocolates

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