Should I Date Him?


“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges

Marty McConnell Mythology

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, Eleanor & Park

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens Looking for Alaska

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, New Order

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How often do you see him (even if you don’t talk to him)?

    • Every day
    • Every other day
    • 1-2 times a week
    • 1-3 times a month
    • Almost never
  • Question of

    How busy are you?

    • I never have time to rest
    • I have a little time to rest
    • I have quite a bit of free time
    • I’m busy but can easily make time
    • I never have anything to do
  • Question of

    Do you try to look better when you know you’ll be seeing him?

    • Yes, of course
    • I always look good, so whatever
    • Yeah, sometimes
    • If I can
    • No, I don’t really care
  • Question of

    Are you always yourself around him?

    • Yes, because I want him to know who I am
    • Yes, because I don’t want to be caught in a lie
    • Mostly
    • Sometimes
    • Not really
  • Question of

    Do you daydream about him?

    • Like, all the time!
    • Yeah, when I have time
    • When I can’t sleep
    • Rarely
    • No – that’s weird!
  • Question of

    How long do you think the relationship would last (be honest)?

    • Until death parts us
    • A few years
    • A while
    • A few months
    • I don’t know
  • Question of

    Have you only thought about one person this entire test?

    • Duh!
    • Yes, but I have other guys I could take this test about
    • Yeah, I think so
    • No
    • Yeah, right!
  • Question of

    Is he your age?

    • Yup! We’re in the same grade
    • He is one to three years older
    • He is one to three years younger
    • He is A LOT older
    • He is A LOT younger
  • Question of

    Do you hang out often?

    • Just at school, church, etc.
    • Yeah, we hang out often, I guess
    • Yeah, all the time!
    • I wish we did
    • Does texting count?
  • Question of

    How long have you had a crush on him?

    • For over a year
    • For a few months
    • For a couple of weeks
    • I just got it today
    • We are just good friends – I don’t have a crush on him
  • Question of

    Do you get nervous when you talk to him?

    • YES – I MIGHT DIE!
    • Yeah, but we’ve been hanging out for a long time, so it’s not that bad
    • Sometimes
    • When he looks good
    • Not really
  • Question of

    If you had to choose between your crush and your favorite famous person, who would you rather date?

    • Probably my crush
    • That’s a hard one
    • Well, the famous guy is really hot
    • The famous person
  • Question of

    On a scale of 1 to 10, how hot is your crush?

    • 8 to 10
    • 4 to 7
    • 0 to 2
    • I’m hotter than he is, and that’s what matters to me
  • Question of

    What’s his best quality?

    • His personality
    • His looks!
    • His money
    • His friends
    • We have some shared interests
  • Question of

    Do you think he likes you back?

    • Yes, I heard it from a friend
    • I think so
    • I hope so
    • I wish!
    • Yes, he told me he does

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