Should We Break Up, Or Stay Together?


“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”
Henry Winkler Song of Solomon

“You know that when I hate you, it is because I love you to a point of passion that unhinges my soul.”
Julie de Lespinasse The Shack

“I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?”
Shannon L. Alder He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“She was the third beer. Not the first one, which the throat receives with almost tearful gratitude; nor the second, that confirms and extends the pleasure of the first. But the third, the one you drink because it’s there, because it can’t hurt, and because what difference does it make?”
Toni Morrison, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

“I suppose that since most of our hurts come through relationships so will our healing, and I know that grace rarely makes sense for those looking in from the outside.”
Wm. Paul Young, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

“I believe in love the verb, not the noun.”
Greg Behrendt, Rubaiyat

“Sometimes the one who is running from the Life/Death/Life nature insists on thinking of love as a boon only. Yet love in its fullest form is a series of deaths and rebirths. We let go of one phase, one aspect of love, and enter another. Passion dies and is brought back. Pain is chased away and surfaces another time. To love means to embrace and at the same time to withstand many endings, and many many beginnings- all in the same relationship.”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh The Rosie Project

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
Pandora Poikilos, Laughable Loves

Marty McConnell Mythology

“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Omar Khayyám, The Bridges

“I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”
Steve Maraboli, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

“But why, why, why can’t people just say what they mean?”
Graeme Simsion, Eleanor & Park

“Yes, it’s a well-known fact about you: you’re like death, you take everything.”
Milan Kundera, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“Love cannot live where there is no trust.”
Edith Hamilton, Tender is the Night & The Last Tycoon

“What you want most you push away from you.
Tarjei Vesaas, The Time Traveler’s Wife

“The quickest way to rectify that mistake (choosing the wrong person) is by learning from that, moving on, and choosing much more wisely in the future.”
Greg Behrendt, Looking for Alaska

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens New Order

“You think that holding someone hard will bring them closer. You think that you can hold them so hard that you’ll still feel them, embossed on you, when you pull away.
Rainbow Rowell, The Lover’s Dictionary

“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
Fred Rogers, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Does your boyfriend/girlfriend make you happy? ???? ☹️

    • No
    • I guess so/I’m not sure
    • Yeah
    • Not really
    • Yes! He/She is the reason for my happiness!
  • Question of

    Does he/she get excited when you talk to/text/see him/her? ???? ????

    • No
    • YEAH! They totally get freaked out in excitement whenever we see/talk to each other!
    • They HATE it whenever I see/talk to them!
    • Yeah! Isn’t that what’s supposed to happen?
    • I guess….I mean, they are either crying from joy or growling in frustration
  • Question of

    If you say, ‘I love you,’ how does he/she respond?

    • ‘OK’
    • I ❤️ U (This is the lazy way – unless you both say it like this)
    • ????????????’I love you, too!’❤️????❤️
    • ‘I love you, too’
    • They don’t reply/They don’t say ‘I love you’ back
  • Question of

    What’s the longest time you guys have gone without talking to/seeing each other????? ???? (If it’s a long distance relationship, just choose when you last Skyped/chatted.)

    • A week
    • One or two days
    • A year
    • One minute/One hour
    • We are always together, so, never????????????
  • Question of

    Has he/she changed a lot since you guys started dating? ???? ????

    • I wouldn’t be able to tell if he/she did
    • No, he/she acts like the same old person I first met❤️????????
    • Yes, he/she changed a little
    • He/she is basically a whole different/new person!
    • Not really – he/she has corrected some bad habits, but nothing major
  • Question of

    Does he/she seem to still love/like you the same?

    • He/She barely even likes me/only likes me a little
    • Yes! He/she actually seems to like me even more!
    • Yeah! Nothing has changed
    • He/she seems a little less interested
    • I wouldn’t be able to tell if they did
  • Question of

    Does he/she put effort into your relationship?

    • Yes
    • No, not really????
    • I guess so….
    • Yeah! Of course! He/she loves me
    • No – not at ALL! ????????????????
  • Question of

    What would he/she say if you were to ask, ‘Do you think we should break up?’?

    • ‘OK, I understand, but can we still be friends?’
    • ‘Please – we can fix this!’
    • ‘NOOOO!???????? Please! I’ll change! I just want to be with you! I loooove you!’
    • ‘FINE! But you’re making a big mistake in losing me!’
    • He/she wouldn’t care…they would be like, ‘Bia!’????✋✊
  • Question of

    Who usually starts your conversations, makes plans, or starts texting/chatting first?

    • It’s usually them, but sometimes, it’s me
    • It’s a balanced relationship????????????
    • Neither one of us!
    • I don’t notice a pattern
    • It’s usually me, but sometimes, it’s them
  • Question of

    Would you be willing to risk your life for him or her?

    • We both probably wouldn’t
    • Heck, no! I ain’t risking my life! I have a lot of time left to live!
    • I would for them, but I’m not sure they would for me
    • They would do it for me, but I’m not sure I would for them
    • YES! And he/she would do the same for me
  • Question of

    What’s the first thing you think of when you wake up in the morning?

    • I wish I could go back to sleep.
    • It depends on the day.
    • I check my phone and social media.
    • My boo!
  • Question of

    Have you ever been stood up by your SO?

    • All the time!
    • Maybe once or twice
    • I may have stood them up before.
    • Of course not
  • Question of

    How often do you two text each other during the day?

    • Never
    • Once in a while
    • Too often
    • Whenever we feel like chatting
  • Question of

    How hard is it to agree on where to go for dinner?

    • We don’t really like the same food, so it’s never easy.
    • Not too hard, but you never know!
    • Sometimes it’s a chore.
    • We love all the same stuff, so it’s not super hard.
  • Question of

    Do you like to have people over for parties?

    • Not really my scene
    • Sometimes, sure!
    • I’d rather go out for that.
    • Love it!
  • Question of

    Does your family like your partner?

    • Not at all
    • More or less
    • I’d guess they think my SO is just OK.
    • Maybe even more than I do …
  • Question of

    Have you ever broken up with each other before?

    • A few times
    • No, but I’ve thought about it.
    • Once
    • Never
  • Question of

    Where would the two of you most likely go on vacation together?

    • Meh, doesn’t matter
    • An island, maybe
    • Las Vegas
    • Disney World
  • Question of

    What’s your opinion on couples costumes?

    • Yeah, no.
    • Not for me, I don’t think.
    • I’ve seen some cool ones.
    • I love them!
  • Question of

    When’s the last time your partner did something super sweet out of the blue for you?

    • I can’t even remember.
    • Maybe a week or so ago
    • It’s been a little while.
    • Earlier today!

Should We Break Up Or Just Make Up?

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