Should you and he get together?


“You couldn’t just pick and choose at will when someone depended on you, or loved you. It wasn’t like a light switch, easy to turn on or off. If you were in, you were in. Out, you were out.”
Sarah Dessen,

“I got my heart’s desire, and there my troubles began.”
Lev Grossman,

“My head’ll explode if I continue with this escapism.”
Jess C Scott,

“I just…I just miss him. And I hate being so alone.”
Suzanne Collins,

“She was a beautiful dreamer. The kind of girl, who kept her head in the clouds, loved above the stars and left regret beneath the earth she walked on.”
robert m drake

“That night when you kissed me, I left a poem in your mouth, and you can hear some of the lines every time you breathe out.”
Andrea Gibson

“Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.”
Alain de Botton

“Submission is not about authority and it is not obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.”
Wm. Paul Young,

“We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything—what a waste!”
André Aciman,

“Most men claim to desire driven, independent and confident women. Yet when confronted with such a creature reverence often evolves into resent. For just like women, men need to be needed.”
Tiffany Madison

“If equal affection cannot be,
W.H. Auden

“Wanting him to come back before anyone notices part of the world has not moved since he left.”
Brian Andreas

“If a man, who says he loves you, won’t tell you the details of a private conversation between him and another woman you can be sure he is not protecting your heart. He is protecting himself and the women he has feelings for. Wise women simply see things as they are, not as their low self-esteem allows.”
Shannon L. Alder

“An unarticulated crush is very different from an unrequited one, because at least with an unrequited crush you know what the hell you’re doing, even if the other person isn’t doing it back. An unarticulated crush is harder to grapple with, because it’s a crush that you haven’t even admitted to yourself. The romantic forces are all there — you want to see him, you always notice him, you treat every word from him as if it weighs more than anyone else’s. But you don’t know why. You don’t know that you’re doing it. You’d follow him to the end of the earth without ever admitting that your feet were moving.”
David Levithan,

“The reason we all like to think so well of others is that we are all afraid for ourselves. The basis of optimism is sheer terror.”
Oscar Wilde,

“Oh, you know. Jace reminds me of an old boyfriend. Some guys look at you like they want sex. Jace looks at you like you’ve already
Cassandra Clare,

“It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine”
Byron Katie

“It’s hard to communicate anything exactly and that’s why perfect relationships between people are difficult to find.”
Gustave Flaubert,

“Have you ever noticed how parents can go from the most wonderful people in the world to totally embarrassing in three seconds?”
Rick Riordan,

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How often do you think about him?

    • 24/7!
    • A lot during the day
    • At least once a week
    • Every day
    • Several times a day
  • Question of

    What do you find attractive about him?

    • He’s outgoing, generous, caring, funny, kind, heroic… just everything I could want
    • He’s popular and cute
    • He’s funny, kind, responsible, cool and even a little cute
    • His eyes and smile
    • He’s sweet and friendly
  • Question of

    Do you have a lot in common?

    • A few things
    • Not really
    • Just about EVERYTHING!
    • We have some common interests
    • Yeah, a lot!
  • Question of

    How does he act around you?

    • I’m just another normal person there
    • He seems to want to spend a lot of time with me
    • He smiles and talks, like friends
    • He talks to me quite a bit, and sometimes hugs me
    • He doesn’t notice me
  • Question of

    How do you act around him?

    • I start conversations with him now and again, and I stare at him
    • I talk to him a lot, and stare at him, and sometimes I seem to smile for no reason
    • I try to get his attention sometimes, but it doesn’t really work in the way I want it to
    • I act awkward and sometimes make a fool of myself
    • I talk to him every chance I get, and smile and laugh around him
  • Question of

    On a scale of one to ten, how much would you say you like/love him?

    • 3 or 4 – I quite like him, but I’m not sure in what sort of way
    • 1 or 2 – I’m not sure about him yet
    • 9 or 10 – I love him! I think he’s the only guy for me!
    • 7 or 8 – I really like him, and I think we could be great together
    • 5 or 6 – I think about him quite a bit and could see us together in the future
  • Question of

    How many times have you been in/thought you’ve been in love?

    • Maybe 5 or so times
    • Never, he is my first
    • Once or twice
    • Around 3
    • Loads of times, but it passes eventually
  • Question of

    Say you’re with a group of people – friends, or family – and he tries to make a move on you. You:

    • Tell him you have feelings for him and hint that maybe you can do something later
    • Get super excited, but only hold his hand/hug him – you don’t want to move ahead too quickly
    • Push him away – you’re just not ready, not in front of other people
    • Smile at him, and squeeze his hand/hug him back
    • Lean straight in for a kiss
  • Question of

    Say you’re alone together – watching a movie or in a spa or whatever – and he moves closer and looks at you lovingly. You:

    • Giggle and wait for him to move closer
    • I don’t know – that would be totally heart-stopping!
    • Look back and smile, and maybe blush a little
    • Look away and shuffle further over
    • Look back into his eyes and move closer to him
  • Question of

    How much do you talk?

    • When we get the chance or have something important to talk about
    • Pretty often, when we’re together
    • Hardly ever, except perhaps in passing
    • Don’t think we’ve ever spoken…
    • It’s pretty much all we do
  • Question of

    What sort of things do you talk about?

    • Pretty much everything – we share a lot.
    • Anything that pops into our heads, or what we’ve been doing lately
    • We talk about school or work, or other reasonably boring topics
    • Whatever’s happening at the moment, how we are, or maybe a few little personal things
    • We make awkward small-talk..
  • Question of

    How much do you know about one another?

    • All about his family and his hobbies, and some other random things
    • Some of the songs and foods he likes
    • We spend so much time talking; I don’t think there’s a thing I don’t know about him!
    • Hardly a thing – and he probably wouldn’t care to know.
    • He’s a close friend; I know a lot about what he likes and does, his past and his plans for the future.
  • Question of

    Do you feel that you have a connection?

    • Not really – I don’t know him all that well
    • I think there is something there
    • There must be – we seem to have so much in common
    • I can see the sparks fly.
    • Not sure, but I hope so
  • Question of

    If you make a joke, he:

    • Doesn’t find it all that funny, but probably appreciates your effort
    • Tells you you’re hilarious
    • Ignores you or insists it isn’t funny
    • Laughs and agrees that it’s funny
    • Smirks or chuckles a little bit
  • Question of

    What’s the longest time you’ve ever spent with him – i.e. staying at his house?

    • Several nights
    • I haven’t even been to his house…
    • A day and night, at least
    • An afternoon
    • A whole day
  • Question of

    What do you imagine you doing together in your daydreams?

    • Just spending time with him, talking and having fun
    • A romantic evening together
    • Getting married!
    • Just sex and making out, pretty much
    • I don’t really have daydreams about him.
  • Question of

    What are your friends’ opinions of him?

    • They keep telling me to ask him out, and that he likes me!
    • My friends likes him too
    • They think we’d make a cute couple, and they often talk about him/us
    • They don’t like him, or they don’t think he’s right for me
    • They don’t even know about him; I’m too shy/worried about what they would think.
  • Question of

    Does he have any annoying habits?

    • No way, and if he does I don’t even care!
    • Maybe a few, but I could live with it.
    • Yeah, but I’m sure I could train him out of them
    • Yes! They make me want to strangle him sometimes!
    • I don’t even know him well enough
  • Question of

    How many relationships has he been in?

    • 2 or fewer – he’s fresh and has next to no record of bad relationships
    • Loads; they all ended badly
    • I have no idea
    • More than I have, anyway
    • Maybe 3 or 4 – enough to have experience
  • Question of

    How do you think he feels about you?

    • Honestly, I don’t think he even notices me at all.
    • I think he just sees me as a friend
    • He’s told me he likes me
    • I’m sure he likes me – there are so many signs!
    • There’s a chance that he likes me, but I could be imagining it…

True Love Test

Is your boyfriend/girlfriend a good lover to you?