Should you be scared of . . .*gasp* Your Ex?


“Hugh and I have been together for so long that in order to arouse extraordinary passion, we need to engage in physical combat. Once, he hit me on the back of the head with a broken wineglass, and I fell to the floor pretending to be unconscious. That was romantic, or would have been had he rushed to my side rather than stepping over my body to fetch the dustpan.”
David Sedaris, Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim

“If I never see you again
Charles Bukowski, Living on Luck

“Maybe you could be mine / or maybe we’ll be entwined / aimless in this sexless foreplay.”
Jess C Scott, EyeLeash: A Blog Novel

“You can be in love and you can be in a relationship. But they’re not always the same thing.”
pleasefindthis, I Wrote This For You

“Being single doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means that you’re strong enough to wait for the right person.”
Niall Horan I Wrote This For You

“I could’ve sworn I was telling the truth when I told you I didn’t miss you.”
pleasefindthis, The Shack

“All I want from you is to trust me with what little you can, and grow in loving people around you with the same love I share with you. It’s not your job to change them, or to convince them. You are free to love without an agenda.”
Wm. Paul Young, The Ministry of Fear

“But it is impossible to go through life without trust; that is to be imprisoned in the worst cell of all, oneself.”
Graham Greene, The Bed of Procrustes: Philosophical and Practical Aphorisms

“Love without sacrifice is like theft”
Nassim Nicholas Taleb, The Gifts of Imperfection

“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”
Diane Von Furstenberg Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability

“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.”
Brené Brown, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“Love lasts about seven years. That’s how long it takes for the cells of the body to totally replace themselves.”
Francois Sagan Finding True Love: The 4 Essential Keys to Bring You the Love of Your Life

“Everything you want in life is a relationship away.”
Idowu Koyenikan, The Science of Single: One Woman’s Grand Experiment in Modern Dating, Creating Chemistry, and Finding L ove

“Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.”
Mandy Hale, Little Women

“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation, and conversation must have a common basis, and between two people of widely different culture the only common basis possible is the lowest level.”
Oscar Wilde Lullaby

“Sometimes the most beautiful people are beautifully broken.”
robert m drake The Lucky One

“Be sure it’s your real self you’re showing. Because it is your real self that needs to be loved.”
Daphne Rose Kingma, 300 Questions LDS Couples Should Ask Before Marriage

“I believe with all my heart that the cliches are true, that we are our own best friends and best company, and that if you’re not right for yourself, it’s impossible to be right for anyone.”
Rachel Machacek, From Within I Rise: Spiritual Triumph Over Death and Conscious Encounters with “The Divine Presence”

“She preferred imaginary heroes to real ones, because when tired of them, the former could be shut up in the tin kitchen till called for, and the latter were less manageable.”
Louisa May Alcott, Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs: A Low Culture Manifesto

“How could you love us being together?” he asked me “We are nothing alike and we are not meant for each other and we drive each other crazy, you love that? How can you love that?” So I told him “I know that we’re not meant for each other, that we drive each other crazy, and that we are so different. But that’s us. That’s what we have; a wild nonsense. We are not good together, but together we are bad for each other. I love us together this way just like this. Because even if it’s no good, it’s what we have! It’s us.”
C. JoyBell C. Heart of the Matter

“No matter how much you love someone, you still want to have you own way.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Every now and then, I’d meet a guy and think that we were getting along great, and suddenly I’d stop hearing from him. Not only did he stop calling, but if I happened to bump into him sometime later he always acted like I had the plague. I didn’t understand it. I still don’t. And it bothered me. It hurt me. With time, it got harder and harder to keep blaming the guys, and I eventually came to the conclusion that there was something wrong with me. That maybe I was simply meant to live my life alone.”
Nicholas Sparks, I Had a Dream About You

“Sometimes to self-discover you must self-destruct.”
robert m drake I Had a Dream About You

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How did you break up?

    • They broke up with me. I cried.
    • I let it linger for as long as possible, then said what needed to say and took off
    • I had a friend tell him/her or some other indirect method. I didn’t want to be there when it happened
    • I said it to his/her face. Almost like ordering a Big-Mac.
  • Question of

    What made you like them in the first place?

    • Their sweet nature.
    • Their tough attitude and willingness to take anyone on.
    • Their dark, brooding nature.
    • Their looks.
  • Question of

    Of the four animals listed below, which reminds you most of your ex?

    • A squirrel. Not threatening at all and runs away by instinct.
    • A Walrus. It looks gentle, but it can really throw it’s weight around!
    • A cat. It has claws and knows how to use them, but never would on me.
    • A Grizzly bear. I think I’ll play dead now . . .
  • Question of

    What did your friends think of your ex?

    • They really didn’t care . . .
    • They always told me about the horrible things my Ex would say/do to other people when I’m not around.
    • I don’t know. They all started avoiding us at that point
    • They all thought he/she was Okay and accepted them.
  • Question of

    How much in the relationship did you instigate?

    • Nothing. Sometimes I had to slow my Ex down because they were too far too fast.
    • Everything. It was kinda of cute watching Ex blush . . .
    • Gentle stuff, Ex instigated romantic stuff.
    • Romantic stuff, Ex instigated gentle stuff.
  • Question of

    How does your Ex deal with traumatic events?

    • They go stoic.
    • They bawl their eyes out. Oh God, I feel guilty!
    • They go into a depressed funk for awhile, but they don’t cry much
    • They don’t get sad, they get MAD!
  • Question of

    How good is your Ex with weapons?

    • Not good at all. They’re scared of knives and guns and hate blood.
    • Very good. They know more about guns than Rambo and own every single gun made in the past ten years.
    • They had some things they could use as weapons, but probably wouldn’t.
    • They own some older weapons, but it’s just for show, I’m sure.
  • Question of

    Have you ever met your Exes Exes?

    • Yes, they were the ones that warned me most to dump him.
    • No, but I makes sense because my Ex hasn’t lived here a long time and is very shy.
    • No, which is weird since he/she’s lived here for years and has dated prominently
    • Yes, they seem to be on good terms with my Ex.
  • Question of

    How much did your Ex talk about the future?

    • Reasonable amount, but only about HIS future.
    • Almost never, as if they were scared of the future
    • Eh, once or twice. Only when applicable.
    • He talked about us getting married and living deep in the woods away from all I know and trust every time I saw him.
  • Question of

    What are your nightmares about these days?

    • My Ex. Them chasing me, stalking me, attacking me and my family. It’s almost like a warning . . .
    • Being chased/killed by things. I don’t get it.
    • Being lost/abandoned, all alone.
    • The usual stuff: Ghosts, spiders, insurance salesmen.
  • Question of

    Would you ever consider going back to them?

    • Never. They crossed the line, and I haft to stand up for what I believe in!
    • I’ve actually been considering that for awhile. Maybe . . .
    • I’m too terrified to look at them, why would I ever go back?
    • Probably not, unless they changed their ways completely.
  • Question of

    When you look in their eyes, what do you see?

    • I can’t tell, it’s too blurry with held-back tears.
    • Malice. Pure, uncensored Malice. I try my best not to look in those eyes.
    • I don’t know, I haven’t seen them in awhile . . .
    • The normal guy/girl I always see.

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