Should you end the relationship?


“Hugh and I have been together for so long that in order to arouse extraordinary passion, we need to engage in physical combat. Once, he hit me on the back of the head with a broken wineglass, and I fell to the floor pretending to be unconscious. That was romantic, or would have been had he rushed to my side rather than stepping over my body to fetch the dustpan.”
David Sedaris, Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim

“If I never see you again
Charles Bukowski, Living on Luck

“Maybe you could be mine / or maybe we’ll be entwined / aimless in this sexless foreplay.”
Jess C Scott, EyeLeash: A Blog Novel

“You can be in love and you can be in a relationship. But they’re not always the same thing.”
pleasefindthis, I Wrote This For You

“Being single doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means that you’re strong enough to wait for the right person.”
Niall Horan I Wrote This For You

“I could’ve sworn I was telling the truth when I told you I didn’t miss you.”
pleasefindthis, The Shack

“All I want from you is to trust me with what little you can, and grow in loving people around you with the same love I share with you. It’s not your job to change them, or to convince them. You are free to love without an agenda.”
Wm. Paul Young, The Ministry of Fear

“But it is impossible to go through life without trust; that is to be imprisoned in the worst cell of all, oneself.”
Graham Greene, The Bed of Procrustes: Philosophical and Practical Aphorisms

“Love without sacrifice is like theft”
Nassim Nicholas Taleb, The Gifts of Imperfection

“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”
Diane Von Furstenberg Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability

“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.”
Brené Brown, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“Love lasts about seven years. That’s how long it takes for the cells of the body to totally replace themselves.”
Francois Sagan Finding True Love: The 4 Essential Keys to Bring You the Love of Your Life

“Everything you want in life is a relationship away.”
Idowu Koyenikan, The Science of Single: One Woman’s Grand Experiment in Modern Dating, Creating Chemistry, and Finding L ove

“Single is no longer a lack of options – but a choice. A choice to refuse to let your life be defined by your relationship status but to live every day Happily and let your Ever After work itself out.”
Mandy Hale, Little Women

“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation, and conversation must have a common basis, and between two people of widely different culture the only common basis possible is the lowest level.”
Oscar Wilde Lullaby

“Sometimes the most beautiful people are beautifully broken.”
robert m drake The Lucky One

“Be sure it’s your real self you’re showing. Because it is your real self that needs to be loved.”
Daphne Rose Kingma, 300 Questions LDS Couples Should Ask Before Marriage

“I believe with all my heart that the cliches are true, that we are our own best friends and best company, and that if you’re not right for yourself, it’s impossible to be right for anyone.”
Rachel Machacek, From Within I Rise: Spiritual Triumph Over Death and Conscious Encounters with “The Divine Presence”

“She preferred imaginary heroes to real ones, because when tired of them, the former could be shut up in the tin kitchen till called for, and the latter were less manageable.”
Louisa May Alcott, Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs: A Low Culture Manifesto

“How could you love us being together?” he asked me “We are nothing alike and we are not meant for each other and we drive each other crazy, you love that? How can you love that?” So I told him “I know that we’re not meant for each other, that we drive each other crazy, and that we are so different. But that’s us. That’s what we have; a wild nonsense. We are not good together, but together we are bad for each other. I love us together this way just like this. Because even if it’s no good, it’s what we have! It’s us.”
C. JoyBell C. Heart of the Matter

“No matter how much you love someone, you still want to have you own way.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Love Quotes for the Ages. Specifically Ages 19-91.

“Every now and then, I’d meet a guy and think that we were getting along great, and suddenly I’d stop hearing from him. Not only did he stop calling, but if I happened to bump into him sometime later he always acted like I had the plague. I didn’t understand it. I still don’t. And it bothered me. It hurt me. With time, it got harder and harder to keep blaming the guys, and I eventually came to the conclusion that there was something wrong with me. That maybe I was simply meant to live my life alone.”
Nicholas Sparks, I Had a Dream About You

“Sometimes to self-discover you must self-destruct.”
robert m drake I Had a Dream About You

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Do you love them and do they love you?

    • Yes I love them so much and they make it clear that they love me too.
    • Yes I love them but sometimes I can’t tell if they love me back.
    • Yes I love them but recently things have gone bad and I don’t think they love me anymore.
    • I used to love them and I kind of still do but things keep happening that make me feel like I don’t.
  • Question of

    Are y ‘all constantly arguing?

    • Yes but we always work it out and never stay mad long.
    • Yes and we normally go to bed mad and stay mad for days and don’t communicate.
    • Yes and we used to work it out but now we just don’t and stay mad.
    • Yes and I’m tired of it but everything turns into an argument.
  • Question of

    Do they make you feel unwanted and treat you like an average person at times?

    • OMG no.
    • Yes sometimes but I think I do the same thing
    • Yes but normally its when we argue
    • YES all the time.
  • Question of

    How often do y’all communicate? Like texting, talking on the phone and hanging out in person?

    • All the time.
    • Every night we talk otp or text and they come over just about every weekend.
    • Well we don’t talk much. Only if we have something to important to talk about.
    • Ehhh not much and if we do the conversation is really dry and boring.
  • Question of

    When something is bothering y’all do you communicate about it until the problems solved?

    • Yes if either one of us is feeling any type of way we’ll talk about it until we find a solution.
    • It depends.
    • Well sometimes we don’t because what if it’ll start an argument or we break up.
    • Nope we just deal with it alone and never speak up about anything bothering us.
  • Question of

    Is the person becoming distant or doing things they purposely know you dislike?

    • NO
    • Well now that you mention it. Maybe
    • Yes sometimes.
    • YES 100%
  • Question of

    Are you getting tired of the arguing and the lack of communication or affection.

    • We’re perfect. We don’t argue much and we communicate all the time and we make sure each other knows that we love each other.
    • Well no because we’re not really having that problem. Or are we?
    • Kind of but I think things we’ll get better.
    • YES
  • Question of

    How ‘intimate’ are y’all now? Or how much do you show each other you care?

    • At least a few times a week.
    • We used to all the time but now that things have gotten rough we never do anymore
    • NEVER
  • Question of

    Do you feel that they are interested in someone else or are they making you feel like they don’t need you anymore?

    • NO
    • Not really.
    • Some-days yes.
    • YES we’ve been distant but when we’re with each other its like it doesn’’t matter to them and they rather be with someone else.
  • Question of

    Do you want to stay in the relationship?

    • Yes because our relationship is perfectly fine.
    • Yeah I think.
    • I don’t know anymore
    • No but we’ve been together so long/ been through so much that I think I should stay.
  • Question of

    What’s the first thing you think of when you wake up in the morning?

    • I wish I could go back to sleep.
    • It depends on the day.
    • I check my phone and social media.
    • My boo!
  • Question of

    Have you ever been stood up by your SO?

    • All the time!
    • Maybe once or twice
    • I may have stood them up before.
    • Of course not
  • Question of

    How often do you two text each other during the day?

    • Never
    • Once in a while
    • Too often
    • Whenever we feel like chatting
  • Question of

    How hard is it to agree on where to go for dinner?

    • We don’t really like the same food, so it’s never easy.
    • Not too hard, but you never know!
    • Sometimes it’s a chore.
    • We love all the same stuff, so it’s not super hard.
  • Question of

    Do you like to have people over for parties?

    • Not really my scene
    • Sometimes, sure!
    • I’d rather go out for that.
    • Love it!
  • Question of

    Does your family like your partner?

    • Not at all
    • More or less
    • I’d guess they think my SO is just OK.
    • Maybe even more than I do …
  • Question of

    Have you ever broken up with each other before?

    • A few times
    • No, but I’ve thought about it.
    • Once
    • Never
  • Question of

    Where would the two of you most likely go on vacation together?

    • Meh, doesn’t matter
    • An island, maybe
    • Las Vegas
    • Disney World
  • Question of

    What’s your opinion on couples costumes?

    • Yeah, no.
    • Not for me, I don’t think.
    • I’ve seen some cool ones.
    • I love them!
  • Question of

    When’s the last time your partner did something super sweet out of the blue for you?

    • I can’t even remember.
    • Maybe a week or so ago
    • It’s been a little while.
    • Earlier today!

Should you break up?

Is it time to let go?