Should you pursue boys?


“You couldn’t just pick and choose at will when someone depended on you, or loved you. It wasn’t like a light switch, easy to turn on or off. If you were in, you were in. Out, you were out.”
Sarah Dessen,

“I got my heart’s desire, and there my troubles began.”
Lev Grossman,

“My head’ll explode if I continue with this escapism.”
Jess C Scott,

“I just…I just miss him. And I hate being so alone.”
Suzanne Collins,

“She was a beautiful dreamer. The kind of girl, who kept her head in the clouds, loved above the stars and left regret beneath the earth she walked on.”
robert m drake

“That night when you kissed me, I left a poem in your mouth, and you can hear some of the lines every time you breathe out.”
Andrea Gibson

“Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone – and finding that that’s ok with them.”
Alain de Botton

“Submission is not about authority and it is not obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.”
Wm. Paul Young,

“We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything—what a waste!”
André Aciman,

“Most men claim to desire driven, independent and confident women. Yet when confronted with such a creature reverence often evolves into resent. For just like women, men need to be needed.”
Tiffany Madison

“If equal affection cannot be,
W.H. Auden

“Wanting him to come back before anyone notices part of the world has not moved since he left.”
Brian Andreas

“If a man, who says he loves you, won’t tell you the details of a private conversation between him and another woman you can be sure he is not protecting your heart. He is protecting himself and the women he has feelings for. Wise women simply see things as they are, not as their low self-esteem allows.”
Shannon L. Alder

“An unarticulated crush is very different from an unrequited one, because at least with an unrequited crush you know what the hell you’re doing, even if the other person isn’t doing it back. An unarticulated crush is harder to grapple with, because it’s a crush that you haven’t even admitted to yourself. The romantic forces are all there — you want to see him, you always notice him, you treat every word from him as if it weighs more than anyone else’s. But you don’t know why. You don’t know that you’re doing it. You’d follow him to the end of the earth without ever admitting that your feet were moving.”
David Levithan,

“The reason we all like to think so well of others is that we are all afraid for ourselves. The basis of optimism is sheer terror.”
Oscar Wilde,

“Oh, you know. Jace reminds me of an old boyfriend. Some guys look at you like they want sex. Jace looks at you like you’ve already
Cassandra Clare,

“It’s hard to communicate anything exactly and that’s why perfect relationships between people are difficult to find.”
Gustave Flaubert,

“It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine”
Byron Katie

“We know from daily life that we exist for other people first of all, for whose smiles and well-being our own happiness depends.”
Albert Einstein

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Are you already friends?

    • Yes, besties!
    • Kind of
    • Not really
    • He doesn’t know I exist
    • It’s complicated
  • Question of

    Do you have mutual friends?

    • A few
    • We don’t know any of the same people
    • Yes! We run in the same circles!
    • Maybe one
  • Question of

    Do your friends approve?

    • Not really, they probably think we’d be better with other people.
    • Not at all. They always tell me how awful we are for each other
    • Yes! They try to set us up!
    • Yeah, if someone suggested it they’d probably think it was cool
    • Kind of, they only really think of us as friends.
  • Question of

    Do you approve?

    • No, I could be convinced but not really
    • Not at all.
    • Maybe, but I’m open to other options
    • Yeah, it wouldn’t hurt to try
    • Yes! He’s my dream. Any more moments without him would crush my spirit and abuse my soul
  • Question of

    Is he a good influence?

    • Yes we always study together and make good grades
    • Not really. He doesn’t care about his grades/well being or mine.
    • Maybe, he’s kind of a distraction sometimes
    • Yeah, he wouldn’t peer pressure me into doing bad things
  • Question of

    Would your parents approve?

    • I honestly have no idea
    • Probably they would just have to meet him
    • They would hate him immediately.
    • Yes, my parents know him and like him
    • They’d probably encourage me to find someone else
  • Question of

    Have you had feelings for him in the past?

    • Not really. He never really crossed my mind.
    • Yeah, just once
    • Maybe, I didn’t think about him much like that
    • Yes, a few times/ for a while
    • I had feelings for him. Horrible feelings
  • Question of

    Has he had feelings for you?

    • I really couldn’t say
    • It’s really unlikely
    • Yes!
    • He might have, someone might have mentioned it
    • Never. I know that for a fact.
  • Question of

    Would dating ruin your friendship?

    • Probably, I think we could get past it though
    • No, we are barely friends so it wouldn’t matter
    • Maybe, we aren’t super close so it probably wouldn’t be a big deal
    • Not really, we don’t see each other that much so it probably wouldn’t be that bad
    • Yeah, he’s one of my closest friends and I would hate for it to be awkward between us.
  • Question of

    Do you think you gave up to soon?

    • Maybe, but I don’t regret it much now
    • No, it’s better that it never happened
    • Yeah, I just didn’t know if it would be worth the time and energy
    • Probably not, he’s cool but I don’t need him in my life as an S/O
    • Yes, I was scared and I didn’t want to take the risk
  • Question of

    What’s your current relationship status?

    • It’s complicated.
    • I’m single.
    • I’m divorced.
    • I’m already seeing someone.
  • Question of

    If a guy wants to win you over, what SHOULDN’T he do?

    • Try to get me to commit too fast
    • Fail to laugh at my jokes
    • Show up late to dates
    • Borrow money from me
  • Question of

    In your opinion, which of these fictional hotties can get it?

    • Sherlock Holmes
    • Joey Tribbiani
    • Mr. Darcy
    • Patrick Bateman
  • Question of

    What would your ideal boyfriend give you for Valentine’s Day?

    • A book of Neruda poems
    • Tickets to see your favorite comedian
    • A horseback ride on the beach
    • A silk scarf that matches your eyes
  • Question of

    How do you like guys to dress?

    • Sloppy but cool
    • I don’t really care?
    • In jeans and T-shirts
    • For success!
  • Question of

    A nerdy guy asks you on a date. You say … ?

    • ‘Maybe. Let me check my calendar.’
    • ‘Sure, why not?’
    • ‘Sorry, but you’re not my type.’
    • ‘As if, you dumb nerd!’
  • Question of

    Would you rather your partner have more romantic experience than you do or less romantic experience than you do?

    • Less. I’ve picked some real lemons.
    • More. I’m more innocent than I’d prefer.
    • Less. Let’s just say, I have some regrets.
    • More. I’m such a workaholic that my social life is anemic at best.
  • Question of

    Imagine you’re buying a new couch. Which of these options appeals to you the most?

    • A reupholstered antique Mission settee
    • IKEA three-seater
    • A rustic leather sofa
    • Something sleek and black
  • Question of

    Which musical genre do you hate?

    • Nu metal
    • Folk
    • Trance music
    • Country
  • Question of

    Let’s say you have to date a mythological creature. Would you rather date a werewolf, a vampire, a merman or a centaur?

    • A werewolf
    • A merman
    • A centaur
    • A vampire

Have you already met your future husband? (GIRLS ONLY!)

Am I loyal or a player?