True Love Test


“When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.”
Jess C. Scott,

“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”
Lisa Kleypas,

“Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.”
J.K. Rowling,

“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”
Haruki Murakami,

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
Carl Gustav Jung

“A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other…Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever”
Dave Matthews Band

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
C. JoyBell C.

“For the two of us, home isn’t a place. It is a person. And we are finally home.”
Stephanie Perkins,

“Man may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it.”
Candace Bushnell,

“It hurts to let go. Sometimes it seems the harder you try to hold on to something or someone the more it wants to get away. You feel like some kind of criminal for having felt, for having wanted. For having wanted to be wanted. It confuses you, because you think that your feelings were wrong and it makes you feel so small because it’s so hard to keep it inside when you let it out and it doesn’t coma back. You’re left so alone that you can’t explain. Damn, there’s nothing like that, is there? I’ve been there and you have too. You’re nodding your head.”
Henry Rollins,

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: it’s got to be the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
Andrew Boyd,

“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships – the ones that last – are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.”
Gillian Anderson

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
Ernest Hemingway,

“I mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?”
Nicholas Sparks,

“Why is it,” he said, one time, at the subway entrance, “I feel I’ve known you so many years?”
Ray Bradbury,

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”
Donald Miller,

“Every man I meet wants to protect me. I can’t figure out what from.”
Mae West

“There is greatness in doing something you hate for the sake of someone you love.”
Shmuley Boteach

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    How long have you two been together?

    • 4-6 months
    • 1-3 months
    • 7 – 9 months
    • 10 months or more
    • Less than a month
  • Question of

    Do you find yourself fantasizing about kissing, making out with, or having sex with your partner?

    • No, I don’t really enjoy touching them in a sexual way
    • They don’t turn me off, but I’m not really turned on by them, either
    • Yes, there’s a lot of physical chemistry
  • Question of

    Do you ever talk about the future of your relationship?

    • No, we just kind of go with the flow
    • Sometimes we make plans for something that won’t take place for a month or so
    • Yeah, we’ve talked about what it would be like to be married/with kids/living together, etc.
    • Yeah, we’ve actually talked about dog types and kid names and family values…all that stuff
  • Question of

    Have you and your partner seen each other at your worst? (For example, when you’re puking, when you’ve just had your wisdom teeth out and are all puffy, when you reek of BO and haven’t brushed your teeth for days, etc.)

    • Kind of, but not to an extreme. Maybe a little bit of BO or lack of makeup or something
    • Yeah, we’ve seen each other in some pretty bad states, but it really hasn’t changed our feelings toward each other
    • Nope, never
    • Yep, we’ve seen each other in some pretty gross situations, and it’s kind of made the whole sex-appeal thing a little difficult to keep
  • Question of

    When you think about Christmas/birthday gifts for your partner, can you think of something they would want or like?

    • I have a pretty good feel for their personality and interests, plus I know what they already have. So yeah, I’m pretty set
    • A mixture of answers 3 and 4 – they’ve talked about what they want AND I know their likes and interests
    • I’m so clueless
    • I have some generic ideas, but nothing really sticks out in my mind
    • He/she is always talking about things they want, so I have a pretty good idea
  • Question of

    How often do you spend time together?

    • We don’t live together, but we spend time together about five times a week
    • When we can. We’re both pretty busy, but we try to make time for each other
    • Every day
    • Sometimes we go for weeks without being with each other alone
    • We live together, but we actually do relationship-y things maybe three or four times a week
  • Question of

    If you have an embarrassing illness/disorder/condition, do you tell your partner?

    • Yeah, I tell them. I need someone to talk to about it, and they’re always really reassuring
    • I only tell them if it’s going to affect them – like an STD. Otherwise I’d rather not bring stuff like that up
    • I usually bring it up because I figure I kind of have to, but it’s pretty awkward
    • Sometimes, but not always
    • Nope. Never
  • Question of

    Do you talk about past relationships?

    • Nope. It’s never come up
    • Nope. There are no past relationships
    • Nah. What’s in the past belongs in the past
    • Yeah. It kind of leads to jealousy, but we still do it
    • Yep. It gives me better insight as to what kind of person they are
  • Question of

    Do you talk about sexual responsibilities, like what you’d do in case of accidental pregnancy? Do you get tested for STDs together?

    • Oh yeah. We’ve covered all the bases there. I’m not going to take chances
    • Sort of, sort of not. We’ve talked about it, but not tackled it and come up with perfect answers
    • We don’t need to worry about that yet; we’re still in the kissing phase, and aren’t getting out of it anytime soon
    • We haven’t talked about it. I just take care of myself and make sure nothing can happen
  • Question of

    So, what’s the sex like?

    • We haven’t gotten to that point in our relationship yet
    • So-so. We do it fairly often, and it’s usually OK
    • So-so. We do it when we can, and it’s great when we DO find time
    • Good. We do it fairly often, and it’s usually really great
    • Bad. Either we don’t do it enough, or it just isn’t all that fun
  • Question of

    What’s the money situation like?

    • Sometimes I treat them; sometimes they treat me
    • We tend to split the bills
    • I always pay
    • They always pay
    • Whoever has more money at the time pays
  • Question of

    What about alone time?

    • We usually spend time alone, but sometimes we do group stuff
    • We spend about an equal amount of time alone together and in a group of friends
    • We only do group stuff
    • We only do alone stuff
  • Question of

    What’s the conversation like?

    • We don’t talk much
    • We have moments of silence, but it’s never awkward. We have interesting conversations sometimes, but sometimes we’ve just exhausted topics
    • Great. We never run out of things to say!
    • It’s always about silly, fun stuff
    • It’s always about our relationship and other serious stuff
  • Question of

    Do you trust each other?

    • Sometimes we get jealous, but deep down, we have trust
    • We don’t trust each other
    • We’ve actually caught each other cheating
    • We’re both kind of insecure and have trust issues, even if in reality, neither of us would ever cheat
    • We usually trust each other, although we occasionally get suspicious
  • Question of

    Do you ever have romantic moments?

    • No – we never got into that
    • We’re always doing sweet romantic things like sending flowers
    • Once in a blue moon, one of us will do something sweet, like send ‘anonymous’ flowers or have a ‘kidnapping’ which leads to a surprise dinner. However, this doesn’t happen all that often
    • No – we’re past that stage
  • Question of

    Are you ever embarrassed around them (like if you farted in front of them or did something else you’re self-conscious about)?

    • No
    • Rarely
    • Yes
  • Question of

    What are your arguments usually like?

    • Rare, and only about serious things. We always resolve them
    • Often, and only about serious things. We sometimes resolve them
    • Rare, and only about silly things. We usually resolve them
    • Who cares? They’re never resolved, at any rate
    • Often, and only about silly things. We sometimes resolve them
  • Question of

    When did you first say ‘I love you’ to each other?

    • Before six months
    • One of us hasn’t yet
    • After six months
    • Within the first three months
    • Before the first month was up
  • Question of

    How often do you tell each other, ‘I love you’?

    • A lot
    • Haven’t said it once yet
    • At least once a day, but not constantly
    • Once a week
    • Now and then

Who’s Dominant In Our Relationship?

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