What Do People Actually Envy About You?



Being envious of other people, for example, your neighbor buying a costlier car than yours and you feeling envious of them. While we are on the topic of envy, I will also like to clear out the concept that envy, jealousy, and shame are not the same. People often use them interchangeably and they don’t even realize it. While they don’t have drastic differences but it is enough that you could use them to solve these problems.

Being envious is basically the desire what others have, for the sole reason that they have and not you. It is very common among neighbors as I had stated earlier while you could also see them among siblings. Siblings often behave as if they are in a competition for their parent’s attention and love. It can also be seen in the child and the same-sex parent for the love of the opposite-sex parent. It is very common in families and we should address them as it could really impact the child’s mental growth. Many of the criminals have a history of not getting enough love from their parents. It is the sad reality of our society and we should treat it seriously.

Jealousy is the fear of losing what you already have. There are many more instances where you could see jealousy at play such as a girlfriend acting in ways that could make her boyfriend jealous of her. If you have introspected ever and if you are suffering from being envious or jealous then you would realize that you have an underlying issue of shame. Shame is often the core reasons of envy and jealousy. People don’t often realize it and spend their entire life searching the solution to their problems. There are many such problems that the humanity is currently facing.

These are very complex issues and one could only solve them if one wants to. Most of the time these things go undetected and create havoc later on in our life. Most of the times you could involve people from your close relationships to solve your issues.

“Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty… I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.”
― Theodore Roosevelt


“Four be the things I am wiser to know:
Idleness, sorrow, a friend, and a foe.
Four be the things I’d been better without:
Love, curiosity, freckles, and doubt.
Three be the things I shall never attain:
Envy, content, and sufficient champagne.
Three be the things I shall have till I die:
Laughter and hope and a sock in the eye.”
― Dorothy Parker, The Complete Poems of Dorothy Parker

“Envy is the religion of the mediocre. It comforts them, it soothes their worries, and finally it rots their souls, allowing them to justify their meanness and their greed until they believe these to be virtues. Such people are convinced that the doors of heaven will be opened only to poor wretches like themselves who go through life without leaving any trace but their threadbare attempts to belittle others and to exclude – and destroy if possible – those who, by the simple fact of their existence, show up their own poorness of spirit, mind, and guts. Blessed be the one at whom the fools bark, because his soul will never belong to them.”
― Carlos Ruiz Zafón, The Angel’s Game

“There is a magnificent, beautiful, wonderful painting in front of you! It is intricate, detailed, a painstaking labor of devotion and love! The colors are like no other, they swim and leap, they trickle and embellish! And yet you choose to fixate your eyes on the small fly which has landed on it! Why do you do such a thing?”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Are you more or less outgoing than other people in your life?

    • I’m about average.
    • I’m a bit more outgoing.
    • I’m seriously outgoing!
    • I’m less outgoing.
    • I’m a total wallflower.
  • Question of

    When you need some advice in life, who do you turn to?

    • My co-workers.
    • My Mom.
    • My significant other.
    • The internet.
    • Me, myself, and I!
  • Question of

    What is more important when it comes to success?

    • Hard work
    • Luck
    • Connections
    • All three are equally important.
  • Question of

    Do you think you’ve endured more struggles than most?

    • Definitley.
    • In some ways.
    • No, I’m about average.
    • Not at all.
  • Question of

    When you experience hard ship, how long does it take you to bounce back?

    • A few days.
    • A few weeks.
    • A few months.
    • Let’s just say, it takes awhile…
    • Right away.
  • Question of

    What were you complimented on most often as a kid?

    • My grades.
    • My personality.
    • My creativity.
    • My sense of humor.
    • My looks.
  • Question of

    Is your mood impacted by the moods of others?

    • Typically, it’s the other way around.
    • It definitely is.
    • Some days it is.
    • I don’t think so.
    • Nah, nothing effects me.
  • Question of

    How would you describe your outlook most days?

    • Sunny
    • Cheerful
    • Logical
    • Gloomy
    • Realistic
  • Question of

    When you head to work in the morning, how do you feel?

    • Excited, I love my job!
    • Exhausted, another day?
    • Indifferent, work is work.
    • Normal, it could be worse!
  • Question of

    If you do get jealous of others, what do you usually get jealous of?

    • Their success.
    • Their looks.
    • Their style.
    • Their relationships.
    • Their confidence.
  • Question of

    Does anxiety tend to weigh you down?

    • Only if I have something big coming up at work
    • Not usually
    • Rarely
    • All the time
  • Question of

    What do you like the best about yourself or your life?

    • I finally feel financially stable.
    • I’m learning to accept my body for what it is.
    • I’m in love for real.
    • I’ve made a house a home.
  • Question of

    Does adapting to new situations come naturally to you?

    • I have to work at it.
    • Pretty naturally
    • I don’t think it comes naturally to anyone.
    • I pride myself on it.
  • Question of

    Have you ever been called shy?

    • Definitely not
    • Yes, but not often.
    • Frequently
    • Only by people who don’t know me
  • Question of

    Do you find yourself getting jealous a lot?

    • I wouldn’t say a lot.
    • With certain things
    • Quite often
    • Jealousy is a wasted emotion.

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