What Is the One Thing That Makes You Irresistible to Men?



Taking a wallet out of the front pants pocket

In theory, this should not be more attractive than taking your wallet out of your coat pocket, which in many ways is the more civilized move, but for some reason that lean back and hand slide into a pair of jeans is irresistible.

10Rolling a buttoned-up shirt to the elbows

man rolls up sleeves

In a massive reddit thread on things men do they don’t even realize are attractive, this got the top spot. For some reason, this is way more of a turn on with a buttoned-up shirt than, say a sweater, perhaps because it sort of says, “Yes, I’m a professional man with his life together, but I’m not afraid to get my hands dirty when need be.” And for more style tips, learn the 40 Ways to Dress Well In Your 40s.

11The “soft eyes” gaze

man looks at woman with love

So much of what men are told is attractive revolves around being “dominant” and “assertive.” And while those can be, indeed, good qualities, one of the most upvoted responses on the aforementioned Reddit thread was that feeling a woman has when she’s reading or putting on makeup and she looks up to find her man looking at her with eyes that suddenly resemble tiny pools of water. As one user put it, “‘I’ll catch my boyfriend looking at me with that softer look, and I’ll say, teasingly, ‘You’re staring!’ and he’ll say, ‘Gazing!’ and look away. The next minute I see him looking at me like that again, and every time, it makes my heart squeeze.” No wonder woman are more attracted to men with more “feminine features” for long-term relationships.

12Wearing a nice sweater

charlie hunnam

This seems counterintuitive, but a lot of women describe seeing a muscular man in a sweater that is at once fitted and snuggly the same way men describe seeing Emily Ratajkowski in a bathing suit. Perhaps women have been inculcated into thinking this is attractive by the Victoria’s Secret winter catalogues, or perhaps it’s just a turn-on because it’s cuddly and protective. Plus, it gives a woman the opportunity to “drop the handkerchief.” For more on this move, check out 10 Subtle Signs a Girl Really Likes You.
“I never hated a man enough to give him his diamonds back.”
Zsa Zsa Gabor Still Life with Woodpecker

“A man is lucky if he is the first love of a woman. A woman is lucky if she is the last love of a man.”
Charles Dickens American Gods

“Conversation between a princess and an outlaw:
Tom Robbins, The People Look Like Flowers at Last

“I believe that all men are just overgrown boys with deep problems communicating.”
Neil Gaiman, Laughable Loves

“What a woman wants is a reaction. What a man wants is a woman.”
Charles Bukowski, Practicalities

“A man is responsible for his ignorance.”
Milan Kundera, The Woman in White

“You have to be very fond of men. Very, very fond. You have to be very fond of them to love them. Otherwise they’re simply unbearable.”
Marguerite Duras, All the Pretty Horses

“No sensible man ever engages, unprepared, in a fencing match of words with a woman.”
Wilkie Collins, Lady Chatterley’s Lover

“There is no forgiveness. For women. A man may lose his honor and regain it again. But a woman cannot. She cannot.”
Cormac McCarthy, The Queen of Everything

“Show me a woman who doesn’t feel guilty and I’ll show you a man.”
erica jong The Portable Dorothy Parker

“But that is how men are! Ungrateful and never satisfied. When you don’t have them they hate you because you won’t; and when you do have them they hate you again, for some other reason. Or for no reason at all, except that they are discontented children, and can’t be satisfied whatever they get, let a woman do what she may.”
D.H. Lawrence, Gone with the Wind

“It’s good to let God pick a man for you. We don’t do so well when we pick them ourselves. They end up lipsticks in a drawer, all those wrong colors you thought looked so good in the package.”
Deb Caletti, The Museum of Innocence

Dorothy Parker, Very Valentine

“I wish to Heaven I was married,” she said resentfully as she attacked the yams with loathing. “I’m tired of everlastingly being unnatural and never doing anything I want to do. I’m tired of acting like I don’t eat more than a bird, and walking when I want to run and saying I feel faint after a waltz, when I could dance for two days and never get tired. I’m tired of saying, ‘How wonderful you are!’ to fool men who haven’t got one-half the sense I’ve got, and I’m tired of pretending I don’t know anything, so men can tell me things and feel important while they’re doing it… I can’t eat another bite.”
Margaret Mitchell, Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul

“After all, a woman who doesn’t love cats is never going to be make a man happy.”
Orhan Pamuk, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

“Mom, how do you know if the guy is
Adriana Trigiani, Dragon Bones

“There is an emotional promiscuity we’ve noticed among many good young men and women. The young man understands something of the journey of the heart. He wants to talk, to “share the journey.” The woman is grateful to be pursued, she opens up. They share the intimacies of their lives – their wounds, their walks with God. But he never commits. He enjoys her… then leaves. And she wonders, What did I do wrong? She failed to see his passivity. He really did not ever commit or offer assurances that he would. Like Willoughby to Marianne in Sense and Sensibility.
Stasi Eldredge, Magic Bites

“Usually when you see females in movies, they feel like they have these metallic structures around them, they are caged by male energy.”
Björk Gone with the Wind

“The only way a woman can ever reform a man is by boring him so completely that he loses all possible interest in life.”
Oscar Wilde Handle with Care

“A man fishes for two reasons: he’s either sport fishing or fishing to eat, which means he’s either going to try to catch the biggest fish he can, take a picture of it, admire it with his buddies and toss it back to sea, or he’s going to take that fish on home, scale it, fillet it, toss it in some cornmeal, fry it up, and put it on his plate. This, I think, is a great analogy for how men seek out women.”
Steve Harvey, Catch a Mate

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    What physical attribute do you get complimented on most often?

    • My laugh
    • My eyes
    • My smile
    • My booty
  • Question of

    Do you consider yourself a flirt?

    • Maybe? I don’t know.
    • I don’t think so.
    • Oh, yeah.
    • I can be when I want to be.
  • Question of

    Which one of these date ideas sound the worst to you?

    • A walk on the beach
    • A loud nightclub
    • A movie
    • Fast food restaurant
  • Question of

    Are you the kind of person who would kiss on a first date?

    • I don’t know.
    • If I feel like it
    • Maaaaaaybe
    • Yes
  • Question of

    What physical trait tends to attract you to a man the most?

    • Do clothes count? It’s hard not to notice someone’s clothes.
    • His eyes
    • His hands
    • His body
  • Question of

    How many serious relationships have you been in before?

    • Just a couple
    • Three or four
    • Five or six
    • More than seven
  • Question of

    Is love at first sight a real thing or just a myth?

    • I think it’s real.
    • I think it’s a myth, really.
    • Could be real.
    • Maybe lust at first sight
  • Question of

    Are you friendly with any of your exes?

    • Not many
    • Not really
    • I have nothing to do with any of my exes.
    • Yes
  • Question of

    How many nights in a given week are you going out?

    • It’s not a weekly thing, usually.
    • Once a week, if I can.
    • Depends on who can interest me enough to go out.
    • As many as I can
  • Question of

    Do people call you sexy very often?

    • I guess it happens every now and then.
    • Sometimes, yes
    • Too often
    • All the time
  • Question of

    Where would you be most likely to take someone on a first date?

    • A stand-up comedy show
    • Dinner
    • An amusement park
    • A club
  • Question of

    Would you be down for playing something like basketball or volleyball on a date?

    • I suck at spots but sure, why not?
    • That could be fun.
    • Maybe!
    • I’d rather not.
  • Question of

    Do you think all men are truly just interested in one thing?

    • I think everyone’s pretty much the same in their interests.
    • No, not all men
    • Not ‘just’ one thing
    • Well, yeah
  • Question of

    What kind of restaurant seems like a good place to have dinner on a date?

    • Hey, take me to Taco Bell and I’m good.
    • A nice, fancy restaurant
    • Some place with a patio
    • Any place quiet and intimate
  • Question of

    Have you ever dated anyone you met online?

    • No
    • A number of people
    • A few people
    • Yes, but not often

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