What is Your Dating Style?

 

 

A study published in the Journal of Neurophysiology suggests that the trauma of breaking up can be severe because rejection of love affects primitive areas of the brain associated with motivation, reward, and addiction. This study explains the painful feelings that go along with an attitude of withdrawal and all that follows, such as extreme behavior.

Here are some ways to heal wounds and feel better after breaking up, along with some tips on what to do next.

It takes time to get over it You have to stop thinking that things are going to work out right away. Give yourself some time to recover from the loss of a friendship and a partner. It’s better to cry now than to try to avoid feelings that are inevitable.

Not seriously engaging after a breakup There is a difference between enjoying your new status which is in itself unique (make sure you are safe and protected!) Being emotional with someone new and being committed immediately in another relationship can prove to be deceptive. You may think you have a good relationship with someone, but now is not the time.

Get rid of memories left by your old relationship Whether it’s photos, cards, letters or gifts, if you don’t want to throw them away, give them to a friend who will keep them for the time being. Don’t be in a hurry to get rid of everything, you might want to look back later and wish you had some memories. Keep a cool head!
“There’s nothing like that feeling of waiting for a guy. It’s the loneliest feeling in the world. Holding that cell phone in your hand as you take out the trash, use the bathroom, change the litter box. Fearful that the one second you aren’t looking will be when they call. Pathetic. And something I have done as recently as last week.”
Hilary Winston, My Boyfriend Wrote a Book About Me: And Other Stories I Shouldn’t Share with Acquaintances, Coworkers, Taxi drivers, Assistants, Job Interviewers, Bikini Waxers, and Ex/Current/Future Boyfriends but Have

“Once you embrace your value, talents and strengths, it neutralizes when others think less of you.”
Rob Liano The Secret Life of Prince Charming

“We look down our noses at people who’ve made mistakes in relationships. She’s so stupid! How could she do that! Our superiority makes us feel better. But I’d bet everything I have on the fact that people to claim to have a perfect record in love are either lying or have very limited dating experience. People who say, I’d never do that! Someday, unless you are very, very lucky, you’ll have a story to tell. Or not to tell.”
Deb Caletti, The Science of Single: One Woman’s Grand Experiment in Modern Dating, Creating Chemistry, and Finding L ove

“The formula I’ve figured out: Stop being so damn picky and let go of the mental image of an ideal; talk to more strangers, because it builds confidence and helps you feel more connected; be open to every opportunity, and when you do meet someone you like, keep dating around. And there’s the mother of all lessons-the one I’m still working on: follow your instincts and even if you’re wrong about him (or her), you’ll know better for the next time.”
Rachel Machacek, The Science of Single: One Woman’s Grand Experiment in Modern Dating, Creating Chemistry, and Finding L ove

“I’m terrified of getting involved with someone who disappoints me or leaves me empty and alone. I’m terrified of rejection, so I set my expectations so high that they can never be met, and I dig around with a magnifying glass looking for flaws in very person I date. There’s always a flaw to exploit, and I’ll find it so I never have to get too close.”
Rachel Machacek, City of Fallen Angels

“Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another: Why can’t you see who I truly am?”
Shannon L. Alder Touch of Frost

“Because’, she said, ‘your problems are not real problems. You’re dating two beautiful girls at once. Think about it. That’s like…having rock-star problems.’
Cassandra Clare, The Science of Single: One Woman’s Grand Experiment in Modern Dating, Creating Chemistry, and Finding L ove

“What did you expect? That he’d send you flowers and write you bad poetry? That dead Nemean prowler is pretty much as close to a stuffed animal as you’re ever going to get from a Spartan like Logan Quinn.”
Jennifer Estep, Rich in Love

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    If you were into the barista at your local coffee shop, what would you do?

    • Nothing
    • Try a pickup line
    • Flirt with them
    • Find out if they are single
  • Question of

    Do you like to see multiple people at once?

    • One is all I can handle.
    • If possible
    • Always
    • No, I like monogamy.
  • Question of

    How do you feel about online dating or dating apps, like Hinge and Tinder?

    • I don’t use them.
    • It’s ok.
    • I live for it.
    • I hate it but use it.
  • Question of

    Do you think that pickup lines work?

    • Probably not
    • For sure
    • Sometimes
    • Never
  • Question of

    If a date was going really badly, what would you do?

    • Stay to be polite
    • Find an excuse to leave
    • Just go
    • Have a friend show up
  • Question of

    Would you ever want to have a joint bank account with a partner?

    • It depends on the partner.
    • Probably not
    • No way
    • Definitely
  • Question of

    Would you ever consider a polyamorous relationship for yourself?

    • No, one partner is all I can handle.
    • Definitely
    • I don’t want any kind of relationship.
    • Never, I’m all for monogamy.
  • Question of

    What kind of wedding do you want?

    • Small and intimate
    • Eloping
    • None
    • Flashy and romantic
  • Question of

    Do you feel ready to be married?

    • If I met the right person
    • Probably not
    • No way
    • Yes
  • Question of

    If you were with a long term partner and they wanted to open your relationship, what would you do?

    • Hate it.
    • Be into it.
    • Leave them.
    • Try to accept it.
  • Question of

    Does it take you a while to feel comfortable with new people you meet?

    • A long time
    • Not really
    • I’m always comfortable.
    • It depends on the person.
  • Question of

    How much of a romantic are you?

    • A little bit
    • I’m anti-romance.
    • I’m a realist.
    • Total hopeless romantic
  • Question of

    What is the most dates with different people you have ever been on in one week?

    • One
    • Three
    • Four or more
    • Two
  • Question of

    Do you think that true love exists?

    • For others, maybe
    • Romance is a marketing tactic.
    • No way
    • 100%
  • Question of

    Which classic date location do you like the least?

    • The movies
    • A restaurant
    • A coffee shop
    • A museum

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