What Is Your Emotional IQ?



Emotional Intelligence is very underrated and it is no less than IQ. Emotional intelligence in the simplest of definitions means your ability to navigate through emotions of people, including yours. It could greatly help you in your job, especially if you are in a managerial position. It can help you in your interpersonal relationships as well.

While we are on the topic of emotional intelligence, I would like to point out that some psychologists believe that it is the same as IQ. The reason they say it is that IQ and EQ have approximately the same correlation while predicting a particular thing as job success. In statistics, if two things have almost the same correlation while predicting the same thing then they are considered the same. You may not believe it as many of the other psychologists.

Psychologists who do believe in this theory say that there are 5 key elements to it. Let us discuss them.

  1. Self-Awareness.
  2. Self-regulation.
  3. Motivation.
  4. Empathy.

Self-Awareness – As the word says it people with a high degree of self-awareness have a clear idea of their strengths and weaknesses. Though high amounts of it could be detrimental to your mental health. The reason I say it because high degree of self-awareness is an indicator of high neuroticism, which is something we all should avoid.

Self-Regulation – It is the ability to keep calm in situations of stress. It also helps in keeping the self in check. People with higher levels of self-regulation know how not to get emotional while making critical decisions. They are also less likely to have mood swings.

Motivation – Here we are talking about the internal motivation of the person. Those who are internally motivated are hyper-focused towards their goal. They are also highly conscientious in nature.

Empathy – Empathy, as we all know, is the ability to put oneself in other’s shoe and get to know how they are feeling. It is one of the key aspects of EQ as humans are emotional creatures and if we don’t take care of their emotions then it may ruin your mission.

There are different aspects of emotional intelligence if you follow different psychologists but mostly it revolves around the aforementioned 4 aspects. Play the quiz to know how emotionally intelligent are you?

“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“People who seek psychotherapy for psychological, behavioral or relationship problems tend to experience a wide range of bodily complaints…The body can express emotional issues a person may have difficulty processing consciously…I believe that the vast majority of people don’t recognize what their bodies are really telling them. The way I see it, our emotions are music and our bodies are instruments that play the discordant tunes. But if we don’t know how to read music, we just think the instrument is defective.”
― Charlette Mikulka

“We live in an adolescent society, Neverland, where never growing up seems more the norm than the exception. Little boys wearing expensive suits and adult bodies should not be allowed to run big corporations. They shouldn’t be allowed to run governments, armies, religions, small businesses and charities either and just quietly, they make pretty shabby husbands and fathers too. Mankind has become Pankind and whilst “lost boys” abound, there is also an alarming increase in the number of “lost girls.”
― Daniel Prokop, Leaving Neverland: Why Little Boys Shouldn’t Run Big Corporations

“One of the easiest ways to discover if someone is compatible with you is to gauge their emotional intelligence. Are they a kind and sensitive person? Will they be respectful towards your sensitivities? Or, are they emotionally stunted? Remember, we tend to attract narcissistic types who lack empathy.”
― Aletheia Luna, Awakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Do you tend to stand on the sidelines at a social event or mingle with the crowd?

    • Sidelines
    • Mingle
    • A little of both
    • I don’t know
  • Question of

    Choose a word to go with the face of the man in this picture.

    • Busy
    • Distracted
    • Lonely
    • None of these
  • Question of

    How often do you stop to take the time to make somebody else smile?

    • Daily
    • Weekly
    • I can’t remember
  • Question of

    Do you get upset when you lose?

    • Yes
    • Sometimes
    • No
    • I don’t know
  • Question of

    Where was the last vacation you took?

    • A natural wonder
    • A tourist hotspot
    • An educational expereince
    • A service opportunity
    • None of these
  • Question of

    How often do you exercise?

    • Daily
    • A few times a week
    • Whenever I have time
    • I should work out more
    • None of these
  • Question of

    How do you feel about public speaking?

    • I love it
    • I loathe it
    • I could take or leave it
    • I don’t know
  • Question of

    Where would you sit on this train?

    • Right next to someone
    • As far away from everybody else as possible
    • Close enough to not be rude and far enough away to not be overbearing
    • Closest to the exit
    • None of these
  • Question of

    Do you ever worry that you take yourself too seriously?

    • Yes
    • Sometimes
    • Not really
    • I don’t know
  • Question of

    Do you help others in need?

    • Yes
    • I want to but don’t know where to start
    • No
    • None of these
  • Question of

    You’re playing a game and you are sure someone is cheating. You..

    • explain the rules and tell them to stop cheating
    • say nothing
    • stop playing the game and leave
  • Question of

    You’ve just failed an important exam. You..

    • decide that the subject is too hard for you and change to something else
    • tell yourself it’s OK as there are other subjects you are better at
    • make a plan to improve and promise to work harder
  • Question of

    An old boy/girlfriend calls you and asks to meet, but you are now in a relationship with someone else. You..

    • agree to meet just once, explaining you have a new partner
    • apologise and say you’re busy
    • agree to meet and see what happens
  • Question of

    A friend borrows something from you, but doesn’t return it. You..

    • explain why it’s important and ask them to return it
    • decide to not to mention to avoid any problems
    • feel angry and end your friendship
  • Question of

    Your long-term partner ends your relationship. You..

    • cry and feel miserable for months
    • work as hard as you can and try to forget all about them
    • accept what has happened and think about the future

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