What Kind of Guy Should I Go For?


“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

“I was suffering the easily foreseeable consequences. Addiction is the hallmark of every infatuation-based love story. It all begins when the object of your adoration bestows upon you a heady, hallucinogenic dose of something you never dared to admit you wanted-an emotional speedball, perhaps, of thunderous love and roiling excitement. Soon you start craving that intense attention, with a hungry obsession of any junkie. When the drug is witheld, you promptly turn sick, crazy, and depleted (not to mention resentful of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place but now refuses to pony up the good stuff anymore– despite the fact that you know he has it hidden somewhere, goddamn it, because he used to give it to you for free). Next stage finds you skinny and shaking in a corner, certain only that you would sell your soul or rob your neighbors just to have ‘that thing’ even one more time. Meanwhile, the object of your adoration has now become repulsed by you. He looks at you like you’re someone he’s never met before, much less someone he once loved with high passion. The irony is,you can hardly blame him. I mean, check yourself out. You’re a pathetic mess,unrecognizable even to your own eyes. So that’s it. You have now reached infatuation’s final destination– the complete and merciless devaluation of self.” – pg 20-21”
Elizabeth Gilbert Sputnik Sweetheart

“Of course it hurt that we could never love each other in a physical way. We would have been far more happy if we had. But that was like the tides, the change of seasons–something immutable, an immovable destiny we could never alter. No matter how cleverly we might shelter it, our delicate friendship wasn’t going to last forever. We were bound to reach a dead end. That was painfully clear.”
Haruki Murakami, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

“I think you are wrong to want a heart. It makes most people unhappy. If you only knew it, you are in luck not to have a heart.”
L. Frank Baum, The Wise Man’s Fear

“nothing in this world was more difficult than love.”
Gabriel García Márquez The Goddess Test

“Books are a poor substitute for female companionship, but they are easier to find.”
Patrick Rothfuss, I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence

“I care,” he said in a trembling voice. “I care so much that I do not know how to tell you without it seeming inconsequential compared to how I feel. Even if I am distant at times and seem as if I do not want to be with you, it is only because this scares me, too.”
Aimee Carter, The Indigo Spell

“Don’t leave a piece of jewelry at his house so you can go back and get it later; he may be with his real girlfriend.”
Amy Sedaris, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

“Because I can’t help doing it,” he said with a shrug. “And hey, if I keep loving you, maybe you’ll eventually crack and love me too. Hell, I’m pretty sure you’re already half in love with me.”
Richelle Mead, Rules of Attraction

“All I’m telling you to do is to be smart about it. Know that if this man isn’t looking for a serious relationship, you’re not going to change his mind just because you two are going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord’s green earth-you’re capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you’re independent (which means, to him, that you’re not going to be in his pockets)-but if he’s not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish.”
Steve Harvey, Emma

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
Shannon L. Alder Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“We kiss all the time.” I clear my throat, then add, “We just…do it in private.”
Simone Elkeles, I Wrote This For You

“Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure; seldom can it happen that something is not a little disguised or a little mistaken.”
Jane Austen, Max

“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.”
Steve Maraboli, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“You’re just another story I can’t tell anymore.”
pleasefindthis, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“He could totally be your boyfriend,” [Angel] went on with annoying persistance. “You guys could get married. I could be like a junior bridesmaid. Total could be your flower dog.”
James Patterson, Breaking Bread: Insurgent Black Intellectual Life

“Moving on is easy. It’s staying moved on that’s trickier.”
Katerina Stoykova Klemer The English Patient

“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.”
Mandy Hale, Letters to a Young Poet

“A fit, healthy body—that is the best fashion statement”
Jess C Scott Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.”
Steve Maraboli, Wicked Lovely

“There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.”
Shannon L. Alder All About Love: New Visions

“We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.”
Cornel West, Warbreaker

“We die containing a richness of lovers and tribes, tastes we have swallowed, bodies we have plunged into and swum up as if rivers of wisdom, characters we have climbed into as if trees, fears we have hidden in as if caves.
Michael Ondaatje, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“only someone who is ready for everything, who doesn’t exclude any experience, even the most incomprehensible, will live the relationship with another person as something alive and will himself sound the depths of his own being.”
Rainer Maria Rilke, Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    So, which of these is your ideal guy’s best feature?

    • He’d make me laugh all the time, and would be flirtatious
    • His chiseled muscles – he’s got to have a hot body
    • His deep music or art, and his mysterious air
    • His laid-back attitude
    • The way he would choose his words, and would sound so clever all the time
  • Question of

    Which would be your ideal first date scenario?

    • We’d watch the stars, and he’d show me the constellations on his telescope. So cool!
    • We might watch the stars if I were to suggest it – but he’s happy to just chill and spend time together
    • He’d play the song he wrote for me
    • Screw watching the stars – we’d dance and kiss, and he’d make me feel like the most beautiful woman alive
    • We’d watch the stars, and he’d lift me up and carry me in his arms
  • Question of

    How about his friends? What are they like?

    • Football players – yeah!
    • They’re all great, and so much fun
    • Kind of geeky, but I like them, and they like me
    • He doesn’t have a lot of friends – he’s a bit of a loner
    • A few guys from the track team, some academics – just a mixture of good guys
  • Question of

    Which of the following guys would you be most likely to date?

    • The guy who threw the paper airplane and hit my least favorite teacher
    • My math tutor
    • The co-captain of the town’s junior hockey team
    • A man in a tool belt – what more can I say?
    • The boy who plays at the café on Wednesday nights
  • Question of

    You’ve been dating him for a year – which would be the best anniversary present?

    • He’d build me something himself and take me out for the night
    • He’d paint me a beautiful picture or write me a song
    • Something clever that I probably would never have thought of mentioning, but is absolutely perfect
    • Dinner, and some bizarre gift that’s adorable, plus a little something extra later on in the evening
    • He’d buy me some flowers, perfume or jewelry I’d pointed out earlier
  • Question of

    You’re a couple. What’s the buzz among the other girls about your status with him?

    • ‘Man, he is so good-looking! I am so jealous!’
    • ‘Aww, that’s cute. Too bad he flirts with everyone’
    • ‘They’re a good couple. I’m surprised he asked her out, though. He’s not with girls much’
    • ‘I don’t really know him’
    • ‘I bet her marks will go up now’
  • Question of

    It’s his birthday and you want to take him somewhere that’s important to him. Where do you end up?

    • At the field, sitting on the bleachers
    • To his boat, out on the lake
    • The science center or museum
    • Somewhere scenic that he says inspires him
    • His bedroom
  • Question of

    Which of these is closest to your ideal first kiss?

    • We’d be listening to this amazing song and studying its words. He’d claim they suit me, and then would do it
    • It’d be raining, and the school would have just moved on to the championship game. He’d run up the bleachers and it would happen
    • He’d study my face and wait for the right moment – nothing would be too rushed
    • We’d be chilling out casually and he’d plant it unexpectedly
    • At a wild party – he’d pull me into the corner
  • Question of

    How about the flirting?

    • It’s casual and friendly
    • It’s playful and fun
    • It’s hilarious and sometimes a little dirty
    • It’s sophisticated and intelligent
    • It’s deep and complimentary
  • Question of

    A few years have passed and you two are madly in love. He proposes – but how does it go?

    • He asks me in poem form
    • He asks in front of a bunch of people, and I think it’s a joke at first – but then he gets serious for once and it’s ADORABLE!
    • He asks me kind of suddenly, when we’re just hanging out one night, and pulls out the ring after I say yes
    • He comes up with some clever way to present the ring
    • CLASSIC! Down on one knee, on the bleachers where we had our first kiss
  • Question of

    What type of guy would you go for?

    • Fun and preppy
    • Geeky and smart
    • Athletic
    • Daredevil
    • Sweet and shy
  • Question of

    What color do you prefer?

    • Red
    • Pink
    • Purple
    • Blue
    • Green
  • Question of

    Where would you want him to take you?

    • Concert
    • Amusement park
    • Romantic dinner
    • Study at the library
    • Sporting event
  • Question of

    What kind of animal do you like?

    • Snake
    • Dog
    • Horse
    • Gerbil
    • Dolphin
  • Question of

    What career do you want him to have?

    • Doctor
    • Musician
    • Athlete
    • Business man
    • Artist
  • Question of

    Where did you meet him?

    • At the library
    • The beach
    • A party
    • An alley
    • At a game
  • Question of

    What kind of gift did you get from him?

    • Jewelry
    • A book you wanted
    • Chocolate and a big teddy bear
    • Nothing
    • Tickets to a game
  • Question of

    How would he propose?

    • Hid the ring in your favorite dessert
    • Nervously and trying to find the ring
    • During halftime at a game
    • He or you doesn’t want to get married
    • On a rollercoaster
  • Question of

    What would you like him to do for you?

    • Help you with homework
    • Work out with you
    • Spend the whole day with you
    • Something illegal
    • Do fun and crazy things
  • Question of

    What is something you don’t mind about him?

    • Focuses on school most of the time
    • Clingy and emotional
    • Stubborn and rude
    • Checks out other girls
    • Spends more time playing sports

What’s My Type? (Girls Only)

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