What kind of relationship are you in?

 

 

Relationships are pretty serious affairs and should not be taken otherwise. The reason for it is that it takes a great deal of time, money, and energy to sustain a relationship and all those resources are very valuable and limited. We, humans, have a very short life and we should not be wasting it on toxic people. This is the reason why we should choose romantic partners wisely.

It is true that you will be attracted to many of the human beings romantically, but you should use some other filters to find your perfect match. These filters will not automatically come in your head. It must be taught to you by somebody.

I have been into quite a few of the relationships and hence I know some broad filters that you could be used by anybody to find their partners.

1. The first up is getting to know if the goals and lifestyle of your partner are compatible with you. The reason for sorting this out is that it might happen that you and your partner’s goals are diverging in nature. They are extremely different and requires a lifestyle that you don’t agree with. This is one of the most important ones and if you could sort it out in the beginning then you will live a pretty happy life.

“I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough..”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love


“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    When you and your partner are walking down the street…

    • We skip and hold hands!
    • We hold hands and talk
    • One of us follows the other; we don’t walk side by side
    • We just walk beside each other casually and talk
    • We’ve got our arms around each other and laugh a lot
    • We just walk beside each other. It’s awkward
  • Question of

    When you and your partner kiss…

    • You feel happy and comfortable
    • Your heart skips a beat
    • You feel awkward
    • You feel violated or uncomfortable
    • You feel nothing
    • We don’t really kiss anymore..
  • Question of

    I would describe my partner as…

    • Condescending/mean
    • Supportive/understanding
    • Thoughtful/caring
    • Irrational/rash
    • Energetic/affectionate
    • I don’t really know him/her that well
  • Question of

    You and your partner began dating because…

    • You clicked immediately
    • You needed to feel like you had someone to hold on to
    • You had been friends for a while and decided to try it out
    • Your friends pressured you into it
    • You’ve been friends for a while and the two of you have always had..something..
    • You found each other attractive and cool
  • Question of

    Your partner relies on you to…

    • Do nothing. He/she is independent
    • Do everything. He/she can’t do anything without my help
    • Do some things, but I’m glad to help
    • Do almost nothing but I am constantly trying to help him/her out anyways because I do not think they can handle everything on their own
    • Do almost nothing, which is good because I hate helping him/her with anything
  • Question of

    You rely on your partner to…

    • Do nothing. You are independent
    • Do everything. You can’t do anything without his/her help
    • Do some things, but they seem happy to help
    • Do nothing, but he/she tries to help you anyways because he/she believes you are incompetent.
    • Do nothing. My partner never seems to want to help me anyways..
  • Question of

    My close friends…

    • Do not like my partner or do not think he/she is right for me
    • Love my partner! We’re all friends! I dont know what they think of our relationship though
    • Think he’s really sweet and perfect for me 🙂
  • Question of

    How far into your relationship did you and your partner first say ‘I love you’?

    • We haven’t yet
    • A couple weeks
    • A couple months
    • A couple years
    • Within the first couple days
    • Before the relationship started
  • Question of

    What is your age?

    • Under 18 Years Old
    • 18 to 24 Years Old
    • 25 to 30 Years Old
    • 31 to 40 Years Old
    • 41 to 50 Years Old
    • 51 to 60 Years Old
    • Over 60 Years Old
  • Question of

    What is your gender?

    • Male
    • Female
  • Question of

    When you watch a movie together, what position do you and your partner sit in?

    • We sit on opposite ends of the couch
    • We spoon 🙂
    • We just sit next to each other
    • We have our arms around each other or we hold hands
    • Whatever crazy position we find ourselves in. We can’t sit still.
    • We don’t watch movies together
  • Question of

    If your partner got a brand new car that he/she LOVES and you accidentally scratched it when you took it out for a quick drive by yourself you would…

    • Come clean straight away. He/she deserves to know and will understand that it was an accident.
    • Tell him/ her but only if he/she notices the scratch and asks about it.
    • Uh UH, no way can he/she ever know. I’d secretly take the car to the shop and have the scratch fixed.
    • I HAVE to tell him/ her because if I don’t and he/she finds out on their own…..oh god
    • Don’t tell him/her. It’s just a scratch, he/she shouldn’t care.
    • Tell him/her or not, doesnt matter. Now you’re even from the last time that he/she wronged you.
  • Question of

    You’re telling your partner about something really exciting that happened earlier that day. You throw your hands up as an expression of joy and accidentally hit him/her in the face. What happens next?

    • I apologize and we laugh if off
    • He hits me back jokingly and I continue what I was saying
    • He hits me back NOT jokingly or we begin to yell at each other
    • Despite my persistent apologies, he/she begins to pout and eventually guilts me into holding an ice pack on his/her face
    • Nothing really, it’s not a big deal
    • There would be a moment of awkwardness.. That’s so embarrassing
  • Question of

    Does one of you ask more questions when you and your partner are having an every day conversation? (Ex: did you get that paper in on time? OR why do you think that? Etc.)

    • Definatly
    • No, it’s about even
    • Yes but only because one of us doesn’t have very good social skills..
    • Sometimes, depends on the conversation
    • Yes, it can be hard to hold a conversation
    • We dont really talk..
  • Question of

    You want to go out with your friends (without your partner) Saturday night. You…

    • Let your partner know what you’re planning
    • Don’t tell your partner, you know he/she won’t care anyways
    • Don’t tell your partner, it’s none of his/her business
    • Tell your partner, who then guilts you into inviting him/her along
    • Ask your partner for permission

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