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Taking a wallet out of the front pants pocket

In theory, this should not be more attractive than taking your wallet out of your coat pocket, which in many ways is the more civilized move, but for some reason that lean back and hand slide into a pair of jeans is irresistible.

10Rolling a buttoned-up shirt to the elbows

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In a massive reddit thread on things men do they don’t even realize are attractive, this got the top spot. For some reason, this is way more of a turn on with a buttoned-up shirt than, say a sweater, perhaps because it sort of says, “Yes, I’m a professional man with his life together, but I’m not afraid to get my hands dirty when need be.” And for more style tips, learn the 40 Ways to Dress Well In Your 40s.

11The “soft eyes” gaze

man looks at woman with love

So much of what men are told is attractive revolves around being “dominant” and “assertive.” And while those can be, indeed, good qualities, one of the most upvoted responses on the aforementioned Reddit thread was that feeling a woman has when she’s reading or putting on makeup and she looks up to find her man looking at her with eyes that suddenly resemble tiny pools of water. As one user put it, “‘I’ll catch my boyfriend looking at me with that softer look, and I’ll say, teasingly, ‘You’re staring!’ and he’ll say, ‘Gazing!’ and look away. The next minute I see him looking at me like that again, and every time, it makes my heart squeeze.” No wonder woman are more attracted to men with more “feminine features” for long-term relationships.

12Wearing a nice sweater

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This seems counterintuitive, but a lot of women describe seeing a muscular man in a sweater that is at once fitted and snuggly the same way men describe seeing Emily Ratajkowski in a bathing suit. Perhaps women have been inculcated into thinking this is attractive by the Victoria’s Secret winter catalogues, or perhaps it’s just a turn-on because it’s cuddly and protective. Plus, it gives a woman the opportunity to “drop the handkerchief.” For more on this move, check out 10 Subtle Signs a Girl Really Likes You.

13Stretching while standing

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When a man stretches and his shirt rises so that the V-shape of his pelvis is just slightly visible, it’s even better than being fully shirtless.

14Offering Your Coat

man puts coat on woman

The difference between being “chivalrous” and “patronizing” is all in the tone and body language. If you do something for a woman in a condescending way, that’s not attractive. But when you do it just to be nice, it is. On several threads, many women noted that there’s something charming and intimate about a man sliding his coat on and brushing her hair out of the way before you venture out into the cold. Don’t go overboard with full-on Prince Charming moves like kissing her hand. Remember: being a modern gentleman is about making her feel good, not about making yourself look awesome.

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