Who should NOT be your type?


“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Man, when you lose your laugh you lose your footing.”
Ken Kesey, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest

“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

“I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.”
Martha Gellhorn, Selected Letters

“Maybe its like you said before, all of us being cracked open. Like each of us starts out as a watertight vessel. And then things happen – these people leave us, or don’t love us, or don’t get us, or we don’t get them, and we lose and fail and hurt one another. And the vessel starts to crack in places. And I mean, yeah once the vessel cracks open, the end becomes inevitable. Once it starts to rain inside the Osprey, it will never be remodeled. But there is all this time between when the cracks start to open up and when we finally fall apart. And its only that time that we see one another, because we see out of ourselves through our cracks and into others through theirs. When did we see each other face to face? Not until you saw into my cracks and I saw into yours. Before that we were just looking at ideas of each other, like looking at your window shade, but never seeing inside. But once the vessel cracks, the light can get in. The light can get out.”
John Green, Paper Towns

“For there to be betrayal, there would have to have been trust first.”
Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

“People like to say love is unconditional, but it’s not, and even if it was unconditional, it’s still never free. There’s always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won’t be happy unless you are … I just don’t want that responsibility.”
Katja Millay, The Sea of Tranquility

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”
Mary Manin Morrissey Dairy Queen

“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.”
Catherine Gilbert Murdock, Venus in Arms

“Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner’s love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother’s love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant.”
bell hooks The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”
Criss Jami, Between the Tides

“Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.”
Fred Rogers, The Fall

“Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up.”
Patti Callahan Henry, Along for the Ride

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
David Richo At First Sight

“I used to advertise my loyalty and I don’t believe there is a single person I loved that I didn’t eventually betray.”
Albert Camus, The Intern

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
Shannon L. Alder Poems from the Heart

“Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside”
Sarah Dessen, Waiting for You

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
C. JoyBell C. Remember Me

“Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.”
Nicholas Sparks, The Cocktail Party

“Those sweet lips. My, oh my, I could kiss those lips all night long.
Jess C. Scott, Messages from the Masters: Tapping Into the Power of Love

“I may not always be with you
Marc Wambolt, Straight Up and Dirty

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    If you could describe the primary feeling you have for your partner, what would it be.

    • Anger
    • Mix of feelings
    • Sympathy
  • Question of

    You are sitting in a bar, the person you are attracted to is…

    • The person who looks like a deer in headlights
    • The person drinking and smoking in a corner and looking dangerous
    • The rude person who just took someone’s seat
  • Question of

    A person bumps into you and nearly knocks you over. The person hardly gives you a glance and doesn’t apologize. You think…

    • What an overconfident jerk.
    • Wow, that person has a lot of confidence. I’m intrigued.
    • Hmm. I might like that person.
  • Question of

    Your neighbor smokes Camels, drinks whiskey, and is hardly ever home. You think.

    • My dream date. I think I’m in love.
    • I can change this person. I’ll take care of them with all my love.
    • I hate smokers. Maybe I should talk to this person.
  • Question of

    You are a very messy person. You meet someone who is like Felix Unger– a complete neat freak. Would you befriend this person?

    • Maybe this person can do my dishes and laundry.
    • Absolutely. I like the challenge of a different personality.
    • Neat freaks sound unexciting. I’d rather watch PBS on a Friday night.
  • Question of

    Your best friend says, ‘Don’t date this person. S/he is a shivering wreck– can’t pay their bills and is always leeching off of somebody.’ What do you say.

    • Why can’t I date this person? Just because we are different?
    • Does not sound like my type. I need somebody to take me out.
    • I can handle this person. They just need some love and support.
  • Question of

    You are dating the most disagreeable person. You say the sky is blue. Your date says the sky is green. You argue constantly. What do you do next?

    • Since they won’t listen, I can’t help them. Time to break up.
    • Nothing, the relationship is going well. It is full of passion.
    • Dump them. The relationship is a waste of time.
  • Question of

    Who is your dream celebrity couple?

    • Tommy Lee and Pamela Lee Anderson
    • Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston
    • Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes
  • Question of

    You go on a blind date. You find out they spent time in jail. You think…

    • They sound angry. How appealing!
    • They sound dangerous. How intriguing!
    • They sound needy. How exciting!
  • Question of

    What are the three little words that get you in the mood for romance?

    • I’m so wasted.
    • I need you.
    • I hate you.
  • Question of

    Your sweetie bakes you a cake for your birthday. Unfortunately, muffin was distracted and substitutes laundry detergent for sugar. After being nearly poisoned, you say.

    • You must’ve been high to do this. That is so cool.
    • You helpless mess. Let me do the baking for now on.
    • You rat bastard. I should kill you for this.
  • Question of

    You partner cheats on you with somebody dumber and uglier than you. What do you do?

    • You are upset and cry many tears. Then you try to work it out with them.
    • You set fire to their car. Then you cheat on them.
    • You can’t believe it. You did so much for them & they betrayed you.
  • Question of

    You notice a pattern in most of your relationships. What is the pattern?

    • Your partners love getting high more than spending time with you.
    • Most of your relationships involve screaming matches & broken stuff.
    • Your relationships are a lot of work with little reward.
  • Question of

    You partner tells you that s/he is going back to college. You say:

    • ‘Where are you going? Clown college? Ha Ha Ha!’
    • ‘I bet your probation officer will be real proud.’
    • ‘Wonderful baby. I’ll help you study. Want a back rub?’
  • Question of

    Your partner decides to change and become independent, nice, and wholesome. What do you do?

    • You beg and plead to your partner crying, ‘You need me. You need me’
    • You get drunk, start smoking, and get a tattoo on your forehead.
    • You throw dishes against the wall and cry, ‘It’s not fair!’

What type of guys do you like?

Which type of boy would you want to go out with?