Would I Make A Good (old-fashion) Wife?


“When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.”
Jess C. Scott,

“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”
Lisa Kleypas,

“Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.”
J.K. Rowling,

“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”
Haruki Murakami,

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
Carl Gustav Jung

“A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other…Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever”
Dave Matthews Band

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
C. JoyBell C.

“For the two of us, home isn’t a place. It is a person. And we are finally home.”
Stephanie Perkins,

“Man may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it.”
Candace Bushnell,

“It hurts to let go. Sometimes it seems the harder you try to hold on to something or someone the more it wants to get away. You feel like some kind of criminal for having felt, for having wanted. For having wanted to be wanted. It confuses you, because you think that your feelings were wrong and it makes you feel so small because it’s so hard to keep it inside when you let it out and it doesn’t coma back. You’re left so alone that you can’t explain. Damn, there’s nothing like that, is there? I’ve been there and you have too. You’re nodding your head.”
Henry Rollins,

“We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: it’s got to be the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”
Andrew Boyd,

“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships – the ones that last – are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.”
Gillian Anderson

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
Ernest Hemingway,

“I mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?”
Nicholas Sparks,

“Why is it,” he said, one time, at the subway entrance, “I feel I’ve known you so many years?”
Ray Bradbury,

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”
Donald Miller,

“Every man I meet wants to protect me. I can’t figure out what from.”
Mae West

“There is greatness in doing something you hate for the sake of someone you love.”
Shmuley Boteach

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Do you cook?

    • Yes, I can do rice, chicken curry, lots of fancy international stuff: D
    • Yes, I can do normal stuff, like a pie or soup, maybe a cake
    • Yes, I get by, but I can’t do anything from scratch, only cans, frozen, etc.
    • No, I can’t cook – not much past popcorn, anyway
  • Question of

    What kind of job do you do (or would you like to do when married)?

    • I wouldn’t want to work after I’m married, unless it’s something from home (writing, selling cakes, gardening, etc.)
    • Maybe only a part-time job doing something rewarding (photography, freelancing anything, etc.)
    • Oh, a normal job – probably full-time (secretary, waitress, manager, etc.)
    • Oh, a business/career (anywhere with an office, working full-time AND overtime)
  • Question of

    Can you clean and keep house? How is your living area?

    • Oh, yes, I can! In general, my living space is clean and neat
    • Well, I can, but it’s not as organized as it could be. I couldn’t live in a museum, anyway
    • I clean when I need to, but otherwise, I like it the way it is – an organized mess. But not dirty, no
    • No way, my place is a pigpen – in the best sense! (Wait, what’s this gray fuzzy thing on the plate under the desk?)
  • Question of

    How well did you (or do you) get along with your parents? Dad especially?

    • Oh, we got on well. We had our rough times, of course, but I was always Daddy’s little girl
    • Oh, all right, I guess. I don’t hate them, and they don’t hate me. So. I get along better with my mom
    • No, they pretty much dislike me now. Mostly my dad, and I shun both of them
  • Question of

    Do you like kids? Babies? Do you want your own children?

    • I love all kids! I would like to have them, and I hope my husband does, too
    • Yes, I love kids, and babies too – but I’m open. If he wants them, then I do, too. If he doesn’t, then I don’t
    • Uh, kids aren’t my thing. They’re kind of annoying, but babies are always cute to look at. I don’t think I want kids
  • Question of

    Do you intend to keep lots of pets?

    • Well, I’m flexible. I wouldn’t mind a few cats or dogs if he wants them as well. But I love animals
    • OMG, yes! I will keep all my cats/dogs/other animals. I couldn’t live without them!
    • No way, I hate animals/am allergic to them. No thank you!
  • Question of

    Let’s say you and your friend made plans to meet at the movie theater at 6 p.m. It’s to be only you and your friend. After waiting for 30 minutes, it’s now 6:30 and she calls to say she’s sorry, but she’s going on a date with two guys and can’t make it. You’re furious. You:

    • Say a few sharp words, fuss about it all night, and have it out with her on the phone the next day. Then make up and continue to be good friends.–Fight, Forgive and Forget
    • Hold it in, don’t say anything, but continue to hold a grudge for a long time, and never say anything. Become cold and distance yourself from her. –The Everlasting Grudge
    • Have a huge fight on the phone the next day, and stop being friends. Say many hurtful things to each other. –The Explosion Bomb
  • Question of

    Let’s say you have a brother two years younger than you. You two get along well. He comes home from school with a heartbroken look on his face. He goes face down on the couch and stays like that for at least 10 minutes without moving. Something is not right. You:

    • Come sit by him and ask him what’s wrong. When he doesn’t answer, you stay a while, bring his favorite drink, and he slowly starts telling you about what happened. You sympathize the best you can
    • Do your best to draw him out, but he refuses to communicate, and so you give up and do something else and forget about him
    • Ignore him altogether, and decide that if he has a problem he’ll come to you, which in the end he never does, and you forget about the matter entirely
  • Question of

    How open-minded and flexible are you?

    • I have my opinions, of course, but if someone doesn’t agree or doesn’t want to do what I do, I compromise. I say that they can keep their opinions and I’ll keep mine
    • Well, I like everything, anyway, and I don’t have many fixed opinions. I’m very easy-going
    • Well, If I don’t like something, or I don’t want to do something, then there’s no changing me
  • Question of

    What are your hobbies?

    • Oh, normal stuff: knitting, sewing, scrapbooks, cooking, etc. – old-fashioned indoor stuff
    • Well, I like photography, writing, gardening, painting, drawing, etc. – creative stuff
    • I like watching TV! Does playing games on the computer count? Stuff that doesn’t require energy
  • Question of

    Pick one:

    • Huge house in Beverly Hills with celebrities on either side
    • Medium house in quiet neighborhood with garden
    • Small apartment in city center with high-class amenities all around
  • Question of

    Last of all, what’s your favorite color? (Do not underestimate this question – a smart person can tell your whole personality by your favorite color.)

    • Blue, purple or black
    • Green
    • Yellow or orange
    • Red
    • Pink or white

At what age will you get married?

Is My Marriage Worth Saving?