You and your crush – How can you show him your attachment?


“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

“I was suffering the easily foreseeable consequences. Addiction is the hallmark of every infatuation-based love story. It all begins when the object of your adoration bestows upon you a heady, hallucinogenic dose of something you never dared to admit you wanted-an emotional speedball, perhaps, of thunderous love and roiling excitement. Soon you start craving that intense attention, with a hungry obsession of any junkie. When the drug is witheld, you promptly turn sick, crazy, and depleted (not to mention resentful of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place but now refuses to pony up the good stuff anymore– despite the fact that you know he has it hidden somewhere, goddamn it, because he used to give it to you for free). Next stage finds you skinny and shaking in a corner, certain only that you would sell your soul or rob your neighbors just to have ‘that thing’ even one more time. Meanwhile, the object of your adoration has now become repulsed by you. He looks at you like you’re someone he’s never met before, much less someone he once loved with high passion. The irony is,you can hardly blame him. I mean, check yourself out. You’re a pathetic mess,unrecognizable even to your own eyes. So that’s it. You have now reached infatuation’s final destination– the complete and merciless devaluation of self.” – pg 20-21”
Elizabeth Gilbert Sputnik Sweetheart

“Of course it hurt that we could never love each other in a physical way. We would have been far more happy if we had. But that was like the tides, the change of seasons–something immutable, an immovable destiny we could never alter. No matter how cleverly we might shelter it, our delicate friendship wasn’t going to last forever. We were bound to reach a dead end. That was painfully clear.”
Haruki Murakami, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

“I think you are wrong to want a heart. It makes most people unhappy. If you only knew it, you are in luck not to have a heart.”
L. Frank Baum, The Wise Man’s Fear

“nothing in this world was more difficult than love.”
Gabriel García Márquez The Goddess Test

“Books are a poor substitute for female companionship, but they are easier to find.”
Patrick Rothfuss, I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence

“I care,” he said in a trembling voice. “I care so much that I do not know how to tell you without it seeming inconsequential compared to how I feel. Even if I am distant at times and seem as if I do not want to be with you, it is only because this scares me, too.”
Aimee Carter, The Indigo Spell

“Don’t leave a piece of jewelry at his house so you can go back and get it later; he may be with his real girlfriend.”
Amy Sedaris, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

“Because I can’t help doing it,” he said with a shrug. “And hey, if I keep loving you, maybe you’ll eventually crack and love me too. Hell, I’m pretty sure you’re already half in love with me.”
Richelle Mead, Rules of Attraction

“All I’m telling you to do is to be smart about it. Know that if this man isn’t looking for a serious relationship, you’re not going to change his mind just because you two are going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord’s green earth-you’re capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you’re independent (which means, to him, that you’re not going to be in his pockets)-but if he’s not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish.”
Steve Harvey, Emma

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
Shannon L. Alder I Wrote This For You

“We kiss all the time.” I clear my throat, then add, “We just…do it in private.”
Simone Elkeles, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure; seldom can it happen that something is not a little disguised or a little mistaken.”
Jane Austen, Max

“You’re just another story I can’t tell anymore.”
pleasefindthis, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.”
Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“He could totally be your boyfriend,” [Angel] went on with annoying persistance. “You guys could get married. I could be like a junior bridesmaid. Total could be your flower dog.”
James Patterson, Breaking Bread: Insurgent Black Intellectual Life

“Moving on is easy. It’s staying moved on that’s trickier.”
Katerina Stoykova Klemer The English Patient

“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.”
Mandy Hale, Letters to a Young Poet

“A fit, healthy body—that is the best fashion statement”
Jess C Scott Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.”
Steve Maraboli, Wicked Lovely

“There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.”
Shannon L. Alder All About Love: New Visions

“We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.”
Cornel West, Warbreaker

“We die containing a richness of lovers and tribes, tastes we have swallowed, bodies we have plunged into and swum up as if rivers of wisdom, characters we have climbed into as if trees, fears we have hidden in as if caves.
Michael Ondaatje, How to Win Friends and Influence People

“only someone who is ready for everything, who doesn’t exclude any experience, even the most incomprehensible, will live the relationship with another person as something alive and will himself sound the depths of his own being.”
Rainer Maria Rilke, Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary

“Start the Quiz”

  • Question of

    Do you know…

    • I know almost all of them.
    • I think I know almost all of them…
    • I know all of them.
  • Question of

    How did you find out?

    • I asked from him.
    • I asked from somebody else.
    • I asked a few things from him, some things from another person.
  • Question of

    Have you two had eye contact?

    • Yes, but for a few moments.
    • No, not yet…
    • Yes, for a long time:)
  • Question of

    If you have had eye contact, then who started it?

    • He started it, but I surely would have started it myself too.
    • I did. Maybe he would have started it himself, but why should I wait?
    • We haven’t had eye contact yet and I hope he will start it.
  • Question of

    Do your constellations fit together?

    • Yes, very perfectly!
    • I haven’t read about that yet.
    • Yes, they fit:).
  • Question of

    Have you ever smiled at him?

    • No, I would, but I don’t want to stare at him, while growing red in face.
    • Yes, for a moment, a small, bright smile.
    • Yes, and I looked deeply into his eyes. I just like him sooooo much:)
  • Question of

    What would you talk about with him?

    • Everything what he likes. About school, studying, hobbies, friends.
    • I think mostly about what he likes and about school, but surely I’ll talk about myself, and about my hobbies and interests.
    • Everything what he likes and what I like. Music, school, friends, sports, hobbies, etc…
  • Question of

    What is the first thing on your mind, when he suddenly comes into the room?

    • ‘Oh, there he is, my beloved crush. I’ll smile at him!’
    • ‘Oh, there he is! He looks so cute today. I’ll look away from him, or he’ll notice me and I’ll look stupid.’
    • ‘Oh, there he is! He looks so cute today! I’ll smile and look at him. I hope he’ll come nearer…’
  • Question of

    Does he always hang around with his friends?

    • He has a lot of friends and usually he hangs around with them, but sometimes he is all alone.
    • Almost all the time. I think it’s way too difficult to catch him, when he is alone.
    • Most of the time, but sometimes he is only with his best friend.
  • Question of

    You hang around with…

    • My best friend only/ with a couple of friends.
    • With a couple of friends/with lots of my friends.
    • With my one and only best friend.
  • Question of

    If he would ask you to dance a slow dance with him, would you be the first to put his arms around him?

    • Yes, I want to be in his arms!
    • No, he has to make that move.
    • I hope we’ll do it at the same time.
  • Question of

    You would have a conversation with him…

    • Talking with him face to face.
    • In MSN surely, or by phone. Maybe I’ll have courage to speak a few words with him face to face?
    • In MSN.
  • Question of

    Have you ever tracked him?

    • I haven’t tracked him. What use could it have?
    • Yes, but he was with his friends and he didn’t notice me.
    • Yes. And we were all alone.
  • Question of

    Have you ever had dreams about him?

    • I have them all the time!
    • Almost all the time!
    • Yes, quite a lot of times.
  • Question of

    Where would you like to kiss him, if you could say that you had to do it?

    • While playing ‘Truth of Dare’. Then ‘I HAD to do it and nobody can come complaining.
    • After our date? Or then under the mistletoe, very romantic:)
    • Under the mistletoe.
  • Question of

    If you two would be on a date and if he would send you home after that, would you kiss him on the cheek?

    • Yes, I think so.
    • Of course.
    • Maybe, but only a sweet peck. Maybe it’s too soon!
  • Question of

    Would you compliment him, if he wears something what you like, if he does something nice, etc?

    • Yes, of course I would.
    • I’m don’t think I have the courage to do that.
    • Yes, if there are others saying compliments.
  • Question of

    What would you do if he would suddenly be walking right next to you?

    • I would get a bit closer to him.
    • I would try to act very ordinarily.
    • I would get closer to him. Much closer.
  • Question of

    Do you have friends from his class?

    • Yes, a few are my good friends, but I also know others from his class.
    • Yes, I know a few people.
    • Yes, I know one person from his class.
  • Question of

    Have you ever found yourself drawing him?

    • Of course, I always like to draw him.
    • I draw him almost all the time and I hide all the papers secretly.
    • Oh yeah, a lot of times! I have began drawing him like and artist: D

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