A study published in the Journal of Neurophysiology suggests that the trauma of breaking up can be severe because rejection of love affects primitive areas of the brain associated with motivation, reward, and addiction. This study explains the painful feelings that go along with an attitude of withdrawal and all that follows, such as extreme behavior.
Here are some ways to heal wounds and feel better after breaking up, along with some tips on what to do next.
It takes time to get over it You have to stop thinking that things are going to work out right away. Give yourself some time to recover from the loss of a friendship and a partner. It’s better to cry now than to try to avoid feelings that are inevitable.
Not seriously engaging after a breakup There is a difference between enjoying your new status which is in itself unique (make sure you are safe and protected!) Being emotional with someone new and being committed immediately in another relationship can prove to be deceptive. You may think you have a good relationship with someone, but now is not the time.
Get rid of memories left by your old relationship Whether it’s photos, cards, letters or gifts, if you don’t want to throw them away, give them to a friend who will keep them for the time being. Don’t be in a hurry to get rid of everything, you might want to look back later and wish you had some memories. Keep a cool head!
Don’t post all your thoughts or feelings on Facebook
The technology is such that it allows us to share great moments with friends and to stay connected. However, not all of your friends need to know your innermost thoughts after a breakup. There are things that should be glossed over or only shared with a trusted friend. It can be extremely embarrassing not only for you but also for your friends to read personal things that you have written about your ex.
Rely on friends, but don’t overwhelm them with your problemsIt’s always good to have friends to go through tough times. However, try not to do it on your own. Don’t spend all of your time crying or saying mean things about your ex, take the time to listen to your friends. They too may be going through a difficult time or have some good news to share with you. But they fear the way you will react.
Find a hobby This is a great way to think about something other than your ex. Take a painting class, a cooking class, a music class, a dance class, or more simply, join a gym. The possibilities are limitless. Just take the first step, get out of your room and distract yourself by choosing a fun activity!
Don’t Make the Decision to Change Your Life Suddenly When you’ve just gotten out of a breakup, you’re often looking for something to escape that depression. Don’t drastically change your life. A new haircut (Ladies, you know very well that the hairdresser will not change anything), stopping your studies or quitting your job, moving away are not solutions !.
Take a short tripFollowing the previous advice not to make sudden decisions, we highly recommend a nice relaxing weekend. You just have to get yourself out of your surroundings without doing it too drastically. You can bring a friend with you; it is always better to have support at these times. It is also preferable that the trip lasts only a weekend so that you can analyze recent events that you remember perfectly. Wait until you feel a little better; then you can enjoy your trip much more.
Stay positive and think about your future. Enjoy life and don’t worry about the past.